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    Wonderwoman78 just learning

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    I would like to open up discussion on how i should punish my subby hubby - after i had been away for 3 nights and left my subby uncaged, i noticed a change in his behaviour (not sexually frustrated). After prompting, he confessed he had masturbated and cum without my permission !!!

    What would be a resonable punishment ?

    The floor is open ...... :Locker:
     
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    Next time don't leave him Uncaged!!!

    Well as for punishments, and not knowing his limits. One thing that might work. would be to roll one or two dice after he's all locked up and you are in control of the keys. One month of non-orgasms for each number. So he could have to go without from one to 12 months. Or, days before he gets unlocked but no orgasm. Another thing would be make a list of items that would push his limits. Seal each on in a envelope and have him choose one, after a waiting period, say one month of good behavior. Then no orgasm till he meets the requirements of the letter.

    As you can see there is many different punishments, and I'm sure other can add some just as juicy of ones. Then the next time he finds himself unlocked and alone. I'm sure he will think twice before wanking off again.

    Missy Tanya
     
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    Couple of thoughts.

    How long were you out of the house - 3 nights - give him 3 months.

    Ask how long it took him to cum. Get an honest reply, so if he says 10 minutes, give him 10 weeks ?

    If he did it more than once, then multiply the period. So if he came twice, frighten him with 6 months or 20 weeks.

    o369
     
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    House rules prevail

    i assume the "House Rules" do not cover this. i would expect a major spanking, i mean major with a belts and or paddle, followed by having to write reminders, after words, while sitting on a hard chair facing the wall. The occasional cuff to the head or pinhed ear will help him apply himself. Then i would expect the papers reviewed and any sloppily wirtin sentances would result in 10 more smacks each and them having to be re-written x10.

    10 mistakes= 100 swats and another 100 sentances.

    This was a major violation of trust. he is so fortunate to be a subby/hubby to a Wife/Mistress and he needs to know that.

    YMMV
     
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    I like to use Post Orgasm Play on My sissy when he has disobeyed. You were gone 3 days, I would ask him how many times he masturbated/touched himself and do a minute of Post Orgasm Play for each touch (with a minimum of 10 minutes, max of say 30 minutes). Then as soon as done punishing lock his limp dick stick up for a month.
     
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    for punishment let him go to his favorite porn site or you strip and dance for him. Let him masturbate but he must masturbate with a few drops of Tabasco sauce as a lubricant.
     
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    Damned ... uncaged! What a flippancy!
    You should make it clear for him that his behaviour was inadmissible and therefor its inadmissible for you to give him the grace of feeling your hand for a longer time. In addition he has to be refilled to a level you actually had expected the moment you came back. How about a rubber doll? Let him have his pleasure whith that silly rubber maid while you set the beat with a nice whip on his ass! Every whip stroke is an ass stroke. Of course hes not allowed to cum. Done this way your hands will not get dirty by your slave!

    Think its important to create a connection between his faults and the punishment, that will lead him to learn and protect him from forgetting.
     
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    Reasonable

    Missy Tanya and squier's points are very well made. One should not anticipate that he should have the right to control his own release -- especially since You expressly forbade him one for three days. But a lesson like this should go beyond a simple physical lockup. Instead, he needs to do something for You to acknowledge Your inherent superiority on a daily basis until You are completely satisfied. This should be a task that he finds onerous, perhaps something you don't particularly enjoy doing as well.

    But here we have a man in the doghouse and, perhaps this is the natural state of things. Really, he should understand that he has displeased his woman in a female-led relationship. So, perhaps one should ascertain what his priorities are and how he sees his relationship to You. It has been my experience that a relationship is either green and growing or in a cycle of dissipation and destruction. Obviously, it's his choice to work on the relationship and it is Your choice to accept him and those choices are every day things.

    It has been my experience that many Women who choose to lead in their lives use banishment -- either temporary or permanent as a reasonable tool when Their inferior calls to question the entire relationship like that. If You choose to find his continued involvement in Your life to be acceptable after a period of banishment, perhaps that banishment ought to be accompanied by a very secure device to heighten his understanding of Your importance in his life.

    After all, there are many more "fish" in the sea.
     
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    the punishment

    I did enjoy reading the many different methods of punishment for subby. I decided on 3 envelopes, each one with a punishment i know will test his boundaries. Very simple punishments though, once subby was loved up yesterday i asked him to open one envelope. His punishment was his laptop being confiscated for one week. It was locked away back in its laptop bag with a spare chastity lock.

    This went down like a lead ballon and it lasted about 7 hours until his terrible mood got that worse that i gave the laptop back and released him from his cage - wasn't worth the hassel.
    Subby was happy to be left in his cage but not happy about his laptop being taken away.

    Very disappointed that he wouldnt take his punishment, not even contemplate in having his time reduced for good behaviour.
    It's like he wants the domination and chastity and teasing, but only when it suits him !!!

    Any suggestions from the more experienced ? :beatdeadhorse:
     
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    Wonderwoman78, as someone who is belted, i would like to defend you subby hubby. Isn't the paramount reason the we subs are belted/caged that we cannot be trusted to keep our hands away from our little clitties and concentrate on our Mistress'/Master's pleasure? Forgive me for questioning a Mistress, but 3 days uncaged is temptation beyond endurance. If Mistress D left me alone and unbelted for 3 days i would surely rub my little clitty raw.
    If You wish to punish your subby hubby, as his Mistress, You don't need a reason. You are his Mistress and he is Your sub. But even (especially?) Mistresses have responsibilities. Forgive me, but i don't see that subby should be punished at all.
     
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    Sounded like he got off easy!! Maybe too easy. But I do understand how hard of a job it is dealing with being a Mistress. I personal think the Slave/Chastity one has the easy job. But you have to show him who's boss of house.

    I would take something away from him, just for longer than he would want it to be gone. Like cooked dinner when he gets home from work. His sexual needs not meet, just maybe once or twice. Pleasure yourself and get caught in the act. But tell him you don't need him tonight. As your satisfied, and not needing his pleasures tonight. Then if he asked why you haven't been wanting sex with him. Tell him you have be wanking off behind his back and don't need it from him.. Maybe he will get the point. Us guy's have to get poked many times to get the point. So just don't give in. Or ask him if this is really something he wants or not. Then tease him that you love it and maybe have to find someone else to play with.

    That may be too hard core, but maybe he will see your side of the coin. And understand that he wanted it, he broke the rules, he needs to be punished, he needs to behave, if he wants to continue on this lifestyle.

    Just some of my idea's for your problem, hope it helps you with some of it. I for one would luv for my wife to take the reins, and give me a what for!!! Missy Tanya
     
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    His problem is one of attitude. He is what is called topping from the bottom.

    You got it right first time.

    Have something for him to sign, ASKING to be deprived of his laptop. Then a CBT session....

     
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    Open Apology

    Dear Mistress WonderWoman,

    Please accept my open apology fro masturbating privately behind your back the last time you were away. it was wrong of me to do so and the only excuse i can offer is that i am a weak male.

    i accept that i cant be trusted and that any time you are away in the future i must be locked in chastity to prevent me masturbating.

    sub hub
     
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    Punishment

    OK ... I admit i did spit me dummy out with the punishment i got ... Sorry Mistress!:Tulip_Up:

    Anyway having slept on it i did a dry run and managed a day without the laptop. i asked if this coule count as one of my days but Mistress said no since i was not in chastity.

    later that nigh Mistress said that i could keep using the laptop:character0180: but i would have to do domestic chores each night to make up. and i was locked back in chastity

    sub hub
     
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    Punishment

    I'd like to take the computer away from my Mistress so she can be bored and play with me.......he he he!

    I think I'd rather be punished with chastity time than my computer rights being removed though?
     
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    I'm not sure what the punishment should be. But I don't agree with Trixy. Just because a Mistress is generous enough to allow some freedom while She is gone. Doesn't mean that slave has a right for his own release. He deserves whatever punishment he gets because he took his eyes of the goal - serving His Mistresses pleasure.
     
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    Here are my highly opinionated, inflammaotory thoughts.

    As a general rule, i try to help subs get out of punishment. good conscious here does not allow that. Your posting reads like; I tried the punishment and its not so bad, so lets do it.
    i am sorry suby huby, you violated a trust. YMMV. IMHO some discipline is in order. It needs to be something you dont like; makes you feel bad and provides you time to think about your stupid, inconsiderate, selfish actions. Your wife/Mistress may well have hurt feelings and you caused them. The only worse violation of trust would be having sex with someone while she was gone.

    It is a very small percentage of subs in the world that are fortunate enough to be blessed with a wife/Mistress. You need to contemplate that for a while.

    My current Mistress would beat my @ss then banish me forever, period, done, poof-over. My last Mistress would have beat my @ss then caned it for several days, then it would have gotten bad.
     
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    sub hub, what do you think the best way to atone for violating this trust should be? And do you think it would be acceptable to your Superior?

    An offer, well thought out, made and, perhaps accepted by your Superior in this public place, with regular reports from you about how you are living up to Her expectations (or, perish the thought, are not) might be very useful.

    If you say, "i'm sorry," you get to determine how sorry you are. If you are made to ask for forgiveness, the injured party is, thus, allowed to determine FOR you how sorry you need to feel.
     
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    i believe cbtok is correct. Actions speak louder than words. It may well be time to prove youreself.
     
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    Since i'm guessing that most guys on here, including your husband, are really interested and love chastity you could take that away from him. Don't let him lock up for a month. While this may not be good for you, it seems to me like it would be a very effective punishment and deter him from doing it again. You could just take away his chastity belt and ignore him sexually or tell him that he must masturbate til orgasm x many times per day.
     
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    That is the best idea I have read on the site!
     
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    I'd leave him uncaged and have him masturbate on his knees in front of you. If you have friends who share your kink invite them too. Collect as much semen from him as you can in say, a week, freezing in between his releases. Then serve him a nice icy-cold cumsicle.

    My missus did something similar with her golden nectar, but I got to like it so it is no longer a punishment, and more of a reward. I know I've been good when I get a Gin and Tonic over her "nice" cubes.

    ~WF
     
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    Hi all,
    Been reading this with great interest !
    Firstly the mistake you made was trusting your sub to be alone without being locked up.
    If he was recently let out you should have known there would be trouble !
    I think the punishment with the laptop wasn't fitting to your sub.
    He by the way is not playing the game properly and is disrespecting you.
    Any sub worth his salt knows that Misresses work extremely hard to play the game, to take their men to extremes of pleasure and pain,to ensure they reach their own personal highs.
    For your sub to behave in this way would say to me that he is not capable of playing the chastity game properly and if I were you would be disappointed in his behaviour - disgusting !

    Punishment that I would implement would be to take the chastity device away and let him know how you feel and that there will be no chastity play until he has proven to you that he can play with honour and respect.
    I would deny any orgasms until he proves his worth - the sorry ass of a rubbish sub lol !!

    Keep going girl - you can break him !!
     
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    Totally agree with Ms Deb, he doesn't deserve your attention. Ignore him completely for a month or two. he will soon come grovelling back.
     
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    if i ever found out slave pleasured himself like that, my wrath would be terrible. i believe i would tie him to the horse, and punish his now empty balls harshly. so he understands they better stay full!
     
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