Hi, I recently became interested in chastity after reading about some of the benefits for the relationship and the woman. I've been in a relationship with my wife of 8 years with a very vanilla backdrop. She started off very femdom with me ( verbalizing her fantasizing about using a strap on) but things have changed over time as I wasnt ready for backdoor penetration on our honeymoon. She still likes to play with my perineum and encourages me to try plugs in my butt when we have sex. She is happy with our relationship and my cock, but I want to be able to bring her to orgasm more often and not spend so much of my day in front of a computer screen shooting loads into oblivion and not being ready to perform for her when she is aroused. Recently, she gave me permission to find a girlfriend who will "do laundry" and "not get pregnant", and so I am seeking a bisexual female who would be interested in my cuckuean wife while still being sensitive to my more submissive side. So now that you know a bit about me, let me tell you what happened yesterday and why I'm here asking questions. So on to my first experience with chastity and why I'm here asking questions about day 1: My chastity cage arrived and I decided to give it a try for ONE hour. First the fit was great, not too tight, not too loose. I had already tried some various sized rings before ordering the cage and got a good feel of what was right for me. I have used sounding rods before and so I was comfortable with getting a cage with a built in sound. I sterilized everything, put the backup key in a safe place, and shaved the hairy bits. I was very aroused by the cage and so I knew I would have to relieve myself before I could get it on. So I masturbated to some of my favorite videos, thinking in the back of my mind "You won't be watching this again any time soon". I came once, then again. My cock finally submit and lay down. I popped the ergonomic steel base ring on, which felt amazing on its own. I lubed up the cage and the sound. The sound on this cage is made of a plastic tube with a metal bead at the end which tapers up to the diameter of the tube. It looked smooth but it was very sharp scratchy feeling going in as I slid down. I went very slowly thinking it had been a while since I had done any sounding and maybe I was just very tight. Anyways, after some patience it went in ok, and only felt slightly uncomfortable. Also, no one tells you how hard it is to get your cock to the end of a cage with a sound in it while its flopping around. After some very gentle prodding and wiggling the tip of my cock finally rest in the end of the cage and I was able to lock it. Just in time I might add as my cock tried unsuccessfully to stand at its full length but was already being held down from every side. There was some sharp pinching at the tip where the bars of the cage met the ring that the sound screws into, but nothing I won't be able to fix with some soldier and a file. About 30 minutes in, I have to pee. It goes find through the sound, slower than normal, but a good stream nonetheless. There is a little sputtering at the very end. I go and sit down trying to relax and let my body adjust, but my cock is straining hard and there is a puddle of clear sticky fluid building up at the end of my cage. And then it hits me like a wave, it starts with my cock desperately screaming at me to get out, my heart begins to race and I feel nauseous. I head for the bathroom ready to take it off. I only set myself a goal of an hour to start with, and now Im feeling like that was too long. I feel light headed, and almost black out by the time I get in the bathroom. I ram the key in and unlock the cage. I start sliding the cage and the sound out. Its full of clear fluid all the way up until the last inch, then I see blood. Maybe only a half a drop or so mixed in with the clear fluid. Maybe it's the sight of the blood, or maybe my body protesting that I've just had my erection prevented, either way Im sweating bullets and generally feeling like I'm in complete shock unable to stand up. After 15 minutes my body calmed down and I felt better, my cock is fine there is nothing wrong with it. So not being one to give up so easily, I put the cage back on without the sound this time and lock it back up. It was much more comfortable without the sound, but I was really enjoying the leaking feeling which stopped after I removed the sound. I went another few hours like this before bed time. This time I had a feeling of dread in my guts, my heart started racing again, the cold sweat started again. I felt ill and in shock. I went into the bathroom and removed it and the feeling again passed. So back to my questions if you haven't already gathered what they are: Are these feelings of being in shock/cold sweats/heart racing normal? Am I just psyching myself out or is there something wrong? If these are normal reactions, how long should I expect to have them, and should I just stay in the cage and ride it out?
My second cage had a similar urethral tube, which cut into me as the transition from tube to metal end bit was not smooth and that's what cut into me. I wore it a few times, enjoyed it very much, but bleed every time, even more than you describe. I remember a similar, but much less powerful feeling of despair and "get this out of me!" but only when I had the tube in. I ended up replacing that cage, as even though it felt comfy, it still cut into me. My new one is perfectly comfortable and I can hardly tell I'm wearing it sometimes. Currently on day 19? and I have had no issues I'm aware of. As such, I'm going to say, with my limited knowledge as a relative newcomer, I have never heard of someone having the feelings you are experiencing with just the cage only. Based on how you describe them, I would say they are not okay. May we see a pic or two of you in the cage so we can get a judgement of it the fit just isn't right? As in my own experience, what feels like it fits, and what actually does can be two different things.
I feel like it’s super comfortable as far as normal wear is concerned. I will try again today and if no more waves of shock come crashing out of the sky I’m going to keep going.
Taking note that I am no expert, that does look like it fits well. Only thing I don't know about is the little arm in front, have no idea how that affects things. So, I'm not sure why you experienced what you did. Yeah, keep an eye on it and if it happens again, maybe this just isn't for you, which would be unfortunate.
Just posting a follow up after having spent more than a week in under her control trying a couple different parts.... I told her about Chastity and that I wanted to try it. A couple nights later I surrendered to her and gave her possession of the cage, key, and all my sex toys. She was a little shocked, but is now excited and has been enjoying herself in new ways for the first time in years. As a follow up to my first day problems: everything was just a size too big to start with. The cage allowed for erection to build and that caused the ring (which was also a hair too loose) to slide forward. This combined to tug and compress my balls until my body was aching to be set free. I’m positive this was my issue as it hasn’t happened since I changed the ring. Lesson learned. I had already read that this would likely happen and had an alternate size ordered. I tried it for a few hours and found it more suitable, but the hook was still too much for me. I cut it off and smoothed the ring where it had been welded on. My balls now feel better, now more feeling like someone was slowly crushing them. I tried the urethral tube again for a little while after smoothing it out and it was much more comfortable but after about 6 hours I had some discomfort at the tip of my penis and removed it. Saw another drop of blood at the end of it on the way out. Ugh. The plastic ones are obviously not for me or I need to shorten it. Lucky I again had the sense to order an alternate with a steel tube welded in that does not extend so far in. The ball on the end of the tube measured 10 mm and having usually taken a 8 mm sound I thought I would be able to slowly slide it in, but I was wrong. After about a half hour I had only managed to get just inside the head of the penis and it would not go further. Again, I spent time filing and sanding the ball off of the tube until it was flush with the rest and gently rounded at the end. It slid in perfectly after that and I found myself gently compressed into the end of it and locked. After a few hours of wearing it I felt some slight irritation due to the ridges on the sound and went back to a cage the same size without any tube. I’m going to try again once I get some surgical lube as I really don’t want a UTI and I would like to be able to wear this thing at least all day without taking it off to clean. Overall, I’m very happy with where I’m at now one size down from what I took pictures of. I still get some blood flow into the area which causes some pressure inside the cage, but my erection is contained enough to a point that after a few seconds the pressure dissipates quickly and I’m left with a surging warm feeling through my whole body. I feel really good all day. On top of the world really. This was a good decision for me. My wife and I had sex the other night (she’s been releasing me every couple days) and I made her cum really hard and while she was coming I filled her up with so much cum she was genuinely impressed with my timing and the duration. She then proceeded to thank me over and over while letting it drip out onto the bed until there was a puddle that looked like it had come from several of my previous loads. Even though my manhood has been in a cage all week that makes me feel like it is a leaking wet clit it has been making her happier than ever. I’ve been performing like a porn star that walked in and said “hold my beer, I’m going to show you what she wants you to do”.