Since I've recently become single it's inevitable that I will likely return to vanilla dating sites. Naturally I am attracted to strong dominant women. What's the best way to put this across with out coming accross as sleazy etc ?
Good question I'm dealing with that too In the past I've just been myself, met and as things developed slowly introduced the topics of kink and fem Dom. It's worked well most of the time and I've on,y had one real problem but she was crazy and even keyed a guys car. So I'm just glad to have not gotten far with her
Its a difficult 1. Not trying to find a pvc clad dominatrix just a naturally dominant partner. Previously on tinder where the bios are short and sweet i did just put "adores bossy girls " had some sucess speaking to and even meeting a few people but nothing had that spark.
If you're seriously looking for a dominant partner straight out of the box you might want to attend local munches. Don't push things on vanilla dating sites, find the one you have a real connection with and if you two are a real match then it shouldn't be hard to introduce her to your submissive side At least, that's what i did
When i say dominant i dont mean kinky. The most dominant partner I've ever had was not kinky in the slightest.
My ex and I were very involved with the local BDSM community. Unfortunately if you're not in a major city it's the same folks all the time with a few newbies who are preyed on immediately. I won't even mention the politics, the games people play and the things some do when they don't like someone else.
I was raised to be a gentleman and I agree. That said it's not easy. So all we can do is do our best. Be kind, polite and kiss a lot of frogs to find a princess or prince (depending on what you seek)
If you google you will find dating sites that have those search options...Theres options for everything these days. It will be up to you to inform individuals that you want more assertive than kink. good luck.
I think there is more chance of finding submissive males in every day life and normal dating sites than on fetish sites. Fetish sites are full of fantasists.
Of the ones I've used. I've found OK Cupid to be the best in terms of determining whether someone is kinky. Basically, you answer questions, as many or as few as you want. On various topics, lifestyle, interests etc and sex. Some people choose not to answer the sexual stuff, but a lot do. If you and a potential match have answered the same question, then you'll see both answers, so for example it could be something like "Would you rather be tied up or do the tying?" Depending on how many answers and interests match, you'll see what percentage match you are. I dated one kinky girl from there and it didn't work out, but it's quite refreshing to know the score from the start. Good luck!
They don't. But a dominant woman who isn't kinky is like vanilla ice cream. It's nice but a little chocolate, some nuts and a bit of whipped cream every now and then and you go from nice to delightful.
In all honesty make new acquaintences from which make some friends and perhaps find someone with which you find you can both call each other partner. If that leads onto something... great if not try again. In finding the person you will see if they are or have the potential to be dominant. Once the relationship develops you can try intoducing more if you want. If you want to introduce any aspect of your lives together that's new kinky or otherwise you have to do it in such a way as your partner can identify what will be in it for them. Thats just the way it is.. or at least the easiest way. Slow and gentle a bit like a horse whisperer does. But most definitely first find the person with the personality rather than the person with the kink. Things will then have a more realistic chance of enduring.