I have not been into CM for a while just due to life and kids. Wife and i still having a nice sex life, but its very balanced in terms of who is being dominant at any given time. Last week when "pent up" I let my wife know in an email that on the days I kiss her hand before I leave for the day, that's my internalized way of promising to "be good, and patient" (not masturbate, and not pressure her)...she's angry with me this week over an argument that we had. But...to my happy surprise, she has started presenting her hand to me to kiss anytime I hit on her, mention how many days its been, etc. so cute. She keeps her nails nice for me and has a new ring for our 10 year anniversary...so I could kiss her hand for a long time and be happy We all know "loneliness" and lack of communication can kill these otherwise wonderful elements of a relationship or create short term sadness...I am glad we now have this simple way to communicate "I'm waiting for you patiently" or when she extends her hand "I expect you to keep waiting patiently"...keeps me newly motivated...pretty awesome. Hope all are well...
I am really impressed by this gentle, yet powerful ritual of hand kissing. The less is more.... very often.
It has quickly become its own reward...I'm instantly hornier and she has an easy way to keep me on my leash and chasing her while literally just lifting a finger...she points to her feet a lot these days too...has same effect... hope it helps some folks...
I would be careful just don't propose it as something "she has to do" for you...I went months just kissing her hand as a display of love and devotion, now that she knows it has meaning for me she is "playing" some but I know it will come and go and that is fine.
Could just be the usual short-term stuff that fades, but I swear my wife is getting more confident from this new form of communicating my faithfulness...she has been extending her hand to me every morning...tonight she has been on the couch all night studying (its complicated but she knows I don't prefer that as we have 3 kids) kind of picking on me to make sure dinner is made for everyone...she had sent me a note the other day to be "calm and patient" and lots of fun will happen so I did mention that "I'm being calm and patient" (instead of giving her a hard time for ignoring the fam)...so I go to walk by her just now from kitchen to my office and she extends her feet out on the couch...I pretended to walk by and then pounced on them... I looked at her and said "I think you are getting a little too confident in my doting on you"...she simply winked and said "I had a feeling you wouldn't walk by"...we've been together some years (15?) ...but...I think there is something to this daily promise that I'll wait for her by kissing her hand...she appears rejuvenated...normally I'm not too interesting to her this time of month...now she knows for sure I am needing her. She did give me an orgasm Sunday...I have a big week for work and asked for it so that I could concentrate better...I'm only on day 2 but thinking of her constantly...sent her this yesterday... "Thank you my love for bestowing an orgasm on me yesterday. Nothing reinforces what a strong, beautiful, goddess you are to me more than patiently waiting to make love to you, kissing your hands, rubbing your feet, waiting for permission…I’ll be thinking about your lovely body and ways to please you for days to come…"