I'd been caged since just after New Years. No release date was set but after I passed the previous record, 7 weeks, she decided to go until June. I'm not caged continuously as she lets me out when she requires penetration. She also loves to edge me in the shower and often gets so turned on that she demands oral satisfaction. At the end of March, she changed her mind and decided I should have a spring break. I took her daily (sometimes twice) masturbated in front of her and she would make me cum in the shower (into her hand which she'd make me eat). While the sex was great, it did affect my mood. She noticed and got a little pissed. She said "I'm not interested in waiting a few weeks for you to get back in the zone'. She had me mail the key to her office. Then she gave me the magic blue pill. Finally, she took out her new favorite toy (a leather riding crop), had me on all fours kissing her boots (which I love) and she started really laying into my ass. "You need to know whose in charge and we are going to do this everyday until there is no doubt. You're being a pouty litte bitch and I wont stand for it. No more edging or fucking until you're attitude improves." It's been hell but it certainly has worked. After only 3 days, I feel like I normally do after a couple weeks. I'm also suprised how much I like the riding crop. I actually look forward to it as it's right before she leaves in the morning and right when she comes home.
I have found a few things that get me back into subbie mode rather quickly. Clean up, being told and not getting out of it. Being told to cage up immediately after. GIFs and text of the dirty kind from her about us. Verbal stuff about my responsibilities and her expectations, and some verbal humiliation (not mean). It seems to get me back into where I’m supposed to be almost immediately. I can sometimes get a lil alpha for a week or two if I’m not set straight.
Since I am milked when She deems necessary and therefore never get to climax, I never have the "post climax blues" any more. Over time, the miklings keep the build-up under control and allows me to remain focused on being more feminine and on serving Her more. Works well for both of us!
When She offers you the opportunity for climax/orgasm, give her the PIV She desires, but do not allow yourself to orgasm. If She asks why you didn't take the opportunity, let Her know that you would rather remain in a heightened mental and energetic place to better serve her and her needs. You will both be better off when you have no orgasm, although it might be easier said than done sometimes. Enjoy the edging, milking, pegging, or whatever else may come your way, just limited or no orgasm.
As you are starting to understand it takes time for You and Your Mistress to adjust to your new lifestyle. Learning to accept the strokes of Love applied by her riding crop is in my opinion anyway a huge step to becoming the person that you want to be. To Serve as you're realizing can be more pleasurable than to be served. Congratulations on your continued success.
Those post "climax blues " as you call them is definetly something that is better to avoid. It's strange but when my Mistress allows me to cum I find myself saying No
I get that and have done it in the past. As she's become more assertive, I really don't have the option. She's said,' you don't get what you want, I do. If I want to feel you come inside of me because I like it, that's what you're going to do.' I find it quite thrilling. We've moved away from schedules etc and towards what she wants. I never really know what's next but I love it. When she took control, I think it's best if she takes all of it if that makes sense.
Or perhaps the person she wants to mould you into wanting to be. Which sounds an interesting concept and being the recipient of such treatment for such a good reason is not without its appeal. I have with regard my Mistress developed a hitherto unknown submissive side to myself which is slowly developing and has its attraction for us both. i can see how the above might be facet of that and which again could be of mutual benefit. We are not at present geographically in a position to explore that though which I think is possibly quite unfortunate..but still
Not everyone does... I don't know if I still would but it looks like being a while before I find out. That is something I am not looking forward to.
I had my O after 90 days of denial.....now I wish I hadn't, I have a real down.....little blue pill? I have started a new 90 day stretch....but this time in caged....
I had my release a few days ago after 5 weeks. Haven’t experienced the blues at all , Now locked up with no date this time so no idea when I allowed to cum again.
Well, her treatment has me completely cured. Got a text yesterday to take another one. By the time she got home I was in agony. She went up stairs to change and came down in a pair of pumps and a micro mini skirt (one of my favs) and had me get her wine. Sitting at the kitchen table while I made dinner, I was bursting as she would casually cross her legs and let one shoe dangle from her toes. It's weird in that I don't have a foot fetish unless it comes to hers and it drives me crazy. After supper she decided it was time to watch TV. She handcuffed me to the chair and then ignored me for an hour while we watched shows. She dissapeared up stairs for awhile and then came down with the crop. She pulled my pants down without a word and then slowly dragged it along my thighs and cage without any whipping. The anticipation was killing me and she kept it up for another hour. The fact that she didn't whip me drove me crazy. Finally it was time for bed. She brought the crop with her and told me that it was time for oral. As I was teasing her with my tongue, she started caressing me back with the crop and then, suddenly, she started whacking me hard. I filled me with lust as I feasted on her. "Not so fast", she said, 'I'm going to enjoy this'. So I teased her until my jaw started to ache. "It's time, Make me cum". I've learned just what she likes and drove her over the edge pretty quickly. As she started to come, she lashed my back many times until she was finished. She loves to roll over and go to sleep after coming but before she did, she grabbed my balls, looked me in the eye and said "you're attitude has improved but that doesn't mean I want you grinding your cage into me all night. If you do that once, I'll make you sleep on the floor." She then went to sleep in about 3 minutes. I was in agony but was also completely focused. In the past, it took about a month of chastity to feel like this. Now apparently it's a riding crop and a blue pill while caged. She's off to work and I'm at home. Before she left she said, 'the kids are coming over for supper so make us a nice dinner and I'll text you later with some more bitch work'. I can't wait to see her. The blues are gone.
exactly how i feel. When she tells me "you can cum" i am like yayyy - but also thinking... i didn't really want to... contemplating sending this to my Lady...
I fully get where you are comming from . I an the same but think have somthing similar in addition. When I am told I can get out and clean up I defrost the key usually over night but then pontificate about getting on with the task. I was the same after as well. Almost reluctant to get back in although I prefer to be in than out. The latter has been fixed. Her latest condition saw to that. Now when out of the cage permission to be out (almost exclusively for cleaning) does not authorise any erection or attempt to get erect. Its a new rule I tried the other day turn around time for me and the cage clean is to long for me to remain flaccid throughout, partly I think because I'm not allowed and partly because its a new concept. She forgave me this time ....hopefully I'll achieve it with practice. I did mention getting a second cage to reduce the turn round time. She told me no she wants me to use will power alone as it demonstrates to her that she is in control and that I have fully accepted that. Just thinking about it demonstrates who is in control quite clearly to me. I hate this new condition because I know I'l have trouble meeting it and yet I love it because it is a further demonstration to me how much she has taken control ....and I'm really getting into that.
If She enjoys feeling you fill Her up, then so it must be . Hope you get to clean Her up properly. I have the same problem from time to time.
I get depressed for a few hours after cumming. It's like there is nothing to look forward to. Typically she lets me be unlocked for a few hours after an orgasm ,so the simple act of putting the cage back on helps get me back in the right frame of mind. After a day or two, I'm 100% her slave again, constantly wishing for another orgasm, and doing anything she says in order to get one. We both love it.
I have the same problem when I have an O. It takes me about 6 days to stop masturbate again. I masturbate 2 times every day after and O. My wife doesn’t seem to mind. She says that it is normal for gues to look porn and masturbate. I don’t like being the alpha I think she is wishing for. When I stop masturbation I get more and more submissive. I just want to be in between her legs with my head. Sometimes she take my dick and wank it until I O. I am begging her to stop before I O. But she just telling me that she wants me to spurt. Then I am back to start again. I hate it. Wish she would accept that I just want her to O and that that’s better for me than my own O. My urge to be submissive gets stronger and stronger each day. I wonder if I need a divorce to be happy and to live out my sub side. Does anyone have a good advice?
hey @Love my wife Does she allow you to lock up after you came? - lock up, don't look at porn and for sure you will get back in to the zone faster. Normally opening up and talking about ones feelings is helpful. In my case, I am lucky that my KH likes my submissive side but if I don't get sufficient dominance from her I still try to push myself in to submission and interestingly enough it often works. Good luck. Hope you don't go looking for a divorce as I like your user name.
A marriage is never easy it takes commitment from both parties. You need to communicate your need and desire to give her more pleasure. It's not easy for a women to become more dominant in a marriage when normally in society the male has been the dominant one. Communication and Love are very important. ( I've been married for 33 years to the same women ) divorce shouldn't even be a consideration. Find the perfect balance for you and your wife and don't worry about what others are doing or how they live their lives what's important is how You make your marriage work for both of you.
Congratulations on entering into an arrangement that works for both of you and gives you both such incredible pleasure. You have No idea how many men would love to be where you are between your lovers legs being struck with a riding crop. Your Wife is a special person treat her like the Queen she is.
Yes I love my wife very much. No it’s like she doesn’t care if I lock up or not. She is not into a lot of talk about feelings, so it’s a little hard to know what she really wants. She cannot understand why a have to wear a belt. It would be nice if she told me not to masturbate, but she doesn’t . I think she prefer old fashion sex you know dick in pussy orgasm to both of us and then finish. I find that boring. If I give her the key then she take it, but I have the feeling that she thinks that it is weird. She also says my dick is not nice in a cage. It is so hard for me just to forget about chastity. I am happy denied with my head between her legs. She is happy with my dick in her pussy, so there is a little conflict between us.
Our cure for the climax blues lately has been for my wife to keep me caged and either use the magic wand or p-spot stimulation to get me to climax. I also stay obedient.
Had an amazing release/reward night yesterday evening w/ the queen giving me multiple ruined and anal orgasms followed an accidental normal orgasm. I am back in my cage this morning and feel quite subby already. I think going back in lockup quickly is the key. I wasn’t forced to clean up or eat any cum last night but I suspect that would help as others have stated. Also, wasn’t given permission to touch myself this morning despite being quite hard most of the night.