Could you go back to Vanilla?

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    CZSteve Caged Submissive to my Beautiful Wife/KH n2toys

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    God, I mean Goddess I hope not!
    I've always had kinky cravings and several years ago we dove pretty deep into kink in general; first where we'd switch but I always preferred to by submissive and my Goddess never enjoyed being submissive, she discovered She enjoyed being Dominant.

    Two years+ ago I brought up chastity and it has been absolutely incredible!
    I had been lurking here on the forum for a couple years before getting the nerve to broach the chastity subject; I initially thought y'all were absolutely nuts with this orgasm denial thing - Damn, wish I'd jumped in sooner but at least we're here now.

    The other night @n2toys made the comment that every women should lock up their husband :)
     
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    Unless I have a really good excuse or reason to not wear the cage anymore it's going to remain a part of me for the rest of my life. It means a lot to my mistress that I'm caged for her. A lot of honesty and communication has come from chastity and that is more how mistress and I view Chastity versus it just being a kink.
     
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    Never! ive never not been in to kink and bdsm and madam and myself have had a bdsm relationship for over 20 years. its part of who i am.
     
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    I wouldn't want to but if my love insisted I would. She means more to me than all this. If she didnt want sex anymore I think I would just do something to kill my libido.
     
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    I believe that statement fits very well with my feeling that it may be called a kink, but after a while
    it becomes something else. I feel as though it causes another dimension of thought. Everyone
    is different and the way we react to anything is highly variable. I don't feel like I am locked up
    to be kept away, but to be even closer.

    We just go along doing what everyone else does and think I guess that's it. This 'kink' has
    shown me more about myself and Her. To explore other ways to pleasure and spoil Her with
    the love that I have always had for Her. I would say we didn't need this, and yet it has become
    so natural I kind of forgot how it was before. I know many get frustrated being locked up and
    always look to release time. I can't say I don't like it, but there is so much more between two if
    we take the time to find it. I think it's like My love of low and slow bbqing, She keeps me low
    and slow and always moist LOL.

    BTW @Wonderwomanssub like your new avatar.
     
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    Very well said; I've never felt closer to @n2toys


    I'm the same way.
    When we first started with chastity I had a preconceived notion that we'd have a set date for an orgasm.
    My Mistress likes to play it day-by-day and obviously I soon discovered not knowing when I'll receive a release is so much better; longest I've gone is eight months and currently at ~ 6 weeks - Mistress mentioned it may be Christmas / New Year's for a real O but I'll never know for sure; either way I'm thrilled, I love the constant horniness high.
     
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    We do go in and out of kink and vanilla. The only thing that is really not "vanilla" is I do prefer him in lingerie during what would otherwise be "vanilla" sex. We go on an annual hiatus from kink between mid November and the end of January, anyhow. He will dress up for me, but no chastity of spankings and I can't hold him looking at pornography against him. Of course, once we agree the break time's up, he usually thinks he can push the pornography a day or 2. You'd think he'd know by now I'm going to go looking and catch him and save up a few times for a real strict disciplinary session.
     
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    Never. I’m kinky for life
     
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    Same story as most on here. Once my wife got past the initial period of adjusting and learning she has become a true keyholder. She loves the new dynamic and the way she's treated. We just talked about this very topic tonight and she said that it won't stop. She's very happy with me locked until she needs it. She doesn't like my mood changes after an orgasm so she has decided 2 or 3 a year will be enough if I've earned them. It's a scary situation once she discovers her power and desire, but most of us asked for it.
     
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    2 months in and my queen said she doesn't want to go back! Our relationship is at another level. We communicate better, we are more affectionate, and she likes the power. I love the mental state I am in after just a few days and being denied really showed me just how down I would get after cumming, to the point where I really cant decide if I want to come or not in the moment. Good thing it's not my choice!
     
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    I was given that choice after my first full year in chastity and under her demands. I was given 30 days to think about but only needed 30 seconds. Over the next few weeks she made very sure i was okay being in chastity and under her control forever. That was my last choice i made and i do not regret it one bit. I sometimes struggle with the changes she makes but have learned it is for the best. I was given 1 last chance to back out at the tattoo place parking lot , but if you look at my avatar pic you know my decision. Never going back!
     
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    I do not think i could ever go back to vanilla during the times i was trying to convince my wife that this situation could be so much better for us both if we stuck with it we would take a break for one reason or another and the periods in between were really stale. having stopped and started so many times to get to this stage i for one know things could never be as fulfilling if we did go back to how it was.
     
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    A very familiar story for many of us!
     
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    I personally am cursed with not being able to be aroused with out SOME form of femdom kink. Chastity is an area my wife and I both enjoy quite a bit so it worked out. So no i could never go vanilla. Not sure why but it's ruined every relationship I've ever had until i met my wife who supported and shared my interests. We have had our struggles though because I can not and don't think I ever will be able to have 1 vanilla experience. idk why. God does bad programming sometimes :)
     
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