Could you go back to Vanilla?

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    Since discovering chastity our sex life is just amazing! It had got a bit "samey" to say the least before hand. We both wish we had discovered it a lot earlier. It's amazing how the whole dynamic of our everyday life and relationship has changed. I'd never have believed that not cumming could be such fun. Certainly no way we could turn back to a Vanilla sex life! :) :lockkey:.
     
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    I guess we could but I don't see it happening
     
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    Yes you can. Circumstances dictate. You have no real say. Enjoy it while you can.
     
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    i have been told there is no going back, actually i was instructed as such by my wife.
     
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    I think I'd be really depressed if I went back to being a selfish masturbator after having known the pleasure of submission.
     
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    I think she could without a lot of concern... I would be sorely disappointed.
     
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    That is certainly true of our Wife Led Marriage, which now includes chastity beyond the honor system. Whether she remains on board with locking me remains to be seen, I think it is just too new to tell. But as far as her leadership role and my submission to her, I don't ever see that changing unless some big life event changes how we have to live. We have both agreed we are so much happier now.
     
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    Simply no lol
     
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    The simple answer is HELL NO.

    I'm way to kinky to ever live a vanilla life again.
     
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    Chastity and FLR are now her words 'normal' and 'how it should be' and she would be 'angry' if I was uncaged without permission-she even had a dream the other night where I permitted myself release and was casual about it-she was very very cross in the dream-has also said 'it's your life now' 'wouldn't want to go back'etc-I'm in agreement which is helpful/optional!
     
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    I was informed that there will not be another erection, orgasm, self pleasure, or moment uncaged without her allowing it. Ever.

    If I wanted to end being caged and my submissive dynamic, she would listen to my issues, and compromise with whatever issues I was having until I agreed to keep our lifestyle. She and I both know if I backed out, the only reasons would be selfish and would hurt her.

    You can’t go home again. I think there is something to be said about that quote. No she wouldn’t force me to remain caged, but our entire relationship has been with me caged. She was my kh, mistress, and domme throughout our entire relationship. Changing our dynamic after our courtship and then marriage is like changing the promises and expectations of a contract. What is marriage if not a contract. People have the right to breach that contract, but that doesn’t mean the other party will agree to the amendments.

    So I could go back, but not with her. We are committed to this, it’s our responsibility to make it work.
     
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    I don't think I would want to go back to a time without kink.
    If @Mistress Jules for any reason wanted it to stop then it would.
    I don't have to think about its a no brainer.
     
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    It's perfect when she owns her control.
     
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    Although I understand where you were coming from I do not believe that a vanilla relationship should be described as chronic masturbation
    My chronic masturbation affected my vanilla sex life for which I found chastity. We’re just starting out and I would rather not go backwards but if I had to go back to the beginning of our relationship where we had sex like little bunny rabbits wouldn’t be all that bad either
     
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    Apparently not. Xena once let slip she couldn't imagine living any other way.

    I still have difficulty believing this on a gut level: as a kinky man from the pre-internet generation I probably need more reassurance than she can offer.
     
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    No, the FLR is an important part of our lives. We entered into it to reset our marriage, it also helps to ensure that my health and well being is managed properly and I don't go back to where I was before, taking on too much work, getting stress and trying too hard to achieve things that just weren't important.

    we have moments of vanilla in our FLR cuckolding life and they are important but we have a good and clear system that allows us to move from Madam Alice & sissy billie to Alice & Mick when we are on holiday, with family or in front of neighbours etc. but the FLR and the Chastity are what underpin what we do and how we live our lives.

    (Mick is my normal vanilla name but Madam uses my middle name of William to create a more submissive role name)
     
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    NO NEVER.
     
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    No.

    A lot of people, once they've had a taste of anything kink or taboo related, can seldom go back to the way things were before they did it. Lines have been crossed, and desires fulfilled.

    I can tell you that I love, love, LOVE being locked and not allowed to orgasm. It focuses me on Ms. and makes me work for her attentions, putting her desires first.

    In truth, I hope my device is never removed and I'm never allowed to release.

    I don't know how else to explain it but to say that, when I'm in chastity I'm at peace.
     
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    The one thing I have been told to absolutely do is to stop worrying about where our relationship might go. That said I now cannot imagine Elle ever letting go of the control she has of me and she is the one who wants me locked up more than I do. It is far more than just the sex though, it goes way beyond that. This lifestyle has permeated into the foundations of our relationship so to remove that would inevitably be damaging.
     
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    I don't see us going back. It's only been 3 months, but my Wife(KH) loves our new life. She controls everything now. When and if I get a release, when and if I get to cum. This morning after a long T&D session, she tells me late Dec. could be the next time for anything. We haven't had PIV sex for a long time. Due to her age. We have talked about it, and she would rather masturbate or have me service her orally now. I think my penis has felt it's last pussy. And I'm fine with that. I have told her that I would have done this much sooner, if I would have known about it. So no, I don't see us going back to how it was.
     
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    At Princess's insistance, we took a 41/2 month break after a similar period of chastity play. Her decision to take a break resulted from my expression of frustration with my feeling of being neglected. I've regretted that ever since. At dinner one night a few weeks ago, Princess said "The best sex we've had was when you were locked up." We're again locking but not sure how things will work out.
     
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    Now one of the things that keeps on repeating itself with chastity is the reference to how much better the sex lives of all concerned (Chaste and Keyholder) becomes when us blokes are locked! Certainly is the case for Mrs Chaste and myself. Who would have believed in those Vanilla years of the past that me not having orgasms would be so rewarding and enjoyable!
     
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    It's like we've stumbled across some sort of ancient knowledge or something-I've always been good at using my own sense of what is good and bad information that society projects on to oneself-and perhaps I've always known that women to me are the best thing since sliced bread so whilst I feel ahead of the curve, it's been an amazing revelation and I can't help but feel that male chastity really is an idea that is waiting patiently 'in the wings' to be discovered by many more couples/relationships
     
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