Control as the Keyholder

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    So, my husband (sub) and I are just starting this chasity thing. At first it was fun locking him up and watching him squirm for 5-7 days at a time. Then I would let him out and we would have amazing sex. Then a few days later locked back up for a couple days and so on. Now I can't keep him locked for more than 2 days, I need to have it!!! Having him locked up not only turns his sex drive up it's doing it to mine, so I can't keep him locked for the full time we decided. I know I need to be stronger and make this work for me by denying him full orgasms and only pleasuring me. I'm just looking for the strength from other Keyholders to do it.
    Does anyone else get turned on from locking their man up? Am I just crazy?
     
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    Chastity is a HUGE turn on for me; if it's caged I wanna touch it, lol. It's up to YOU how often he''s unlocked-he's locked for your pleasure, after all.
     
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    Denial frenzy can be extremely overwhelming at times and it's interesting how much it can also effect the keyholder aswell as the denied lockee.

    Keyholders usually drive the experience so both explore what the keyholder wants.

    If you are looking to keep him denied longer you can always explore other methods of pleasure like oral, massages and the various sex toys on the market.

    If you need help resisting temptation you could resort to the various tricks solo guys use to protect there keys. Freezing the key, using a web app/service like chastikey or emlalock. Some couples who struggle with the frenzy may seek out external guidance from a dominant they trust to help keep them both on track.

    It all depends what you both want from the experience.
     
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    I don’t think there’s any rules on your end so do whatever brings you pleasure. After all you’re in charge!
     
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    For us, it's about our penis always being ready for her, for her to know that only she grants erections, that I haven't been playing with our penis in between. She can take it out as often or as seldom as she wants. And when she takes it out it almost never gets to spurt before she tells me to put it back in.
     
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    The point is he has no control over his sex, but you do. If it gets you going and he sex goes up, embrace it. There will be times that the surgery ebbs, and you will know that he is good to go when you are. How sexy and empowering is that?
     
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    Just for fun, keep your key at work and don’t bring it home unless you plan to. Lots of chance s to just forget it there.
     
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    Yeah, thats good cause I work an hour away from home. Not easy to get it fast.
     
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    Use denial and ruins that way you get to play with him. Make sure you tell him when he is allowed to cum. If you was PIV be sure to tell him ahead of time is he is going to be allowed to cum. He may need to stop if he gets close, but that just prolongs your pleasure
     
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    ^ This. Most people enjoy shiny objects, after all. I know I do, especially when there's something fun inside. :D

    @Goddess2692, one of the great things about Keyholding is that your whims and wishes are just that - your own. Don't convince yourself that you're weak (based on others' experiences) because you enjoy unlocking him for use. I unlock and use pet all the time; I'm quite surprised that we haven't needed a new lock since I'm doing My best to wear this one out. ;)

    Karezza is My favorite tactic for striking a 'best of both worlds' balance. I still get the sex I want from My husband, he lasts for Me and doesn't spill, and we mutually experience the benefits of sexual and emotional intimacy. I lock him up directly afterwards 98% of the time, and it works well for us.

    Orgasm denial can be quite romantic with the right mindset, so don't feel too bad if he begs you for release because it'll likely get better for you both the next time.

    And the time after that... And after that...

    I'm sure you see where I'm going with this. ;)

    I hope you enjoy your chastity lifestyle, whatever elements it may include! Good luck.
     
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    Remember this is for you. There is no relationship that is the same. Some can go for a very long
    time and others not so much. Don't put pressure on yourself. Use him in any way you want and
    when you want.It is for you to enjoy and for him to take care of you. I am sure you will figure out
    what works best for YOU. Relax the chastity police aren't going to show up because you enjoy
    sex, sounds like fun to me!:+1::love::lock:
     
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    You certainly are NOT crazy. You get turned on - as it should be, you are the one in charge. It also means that you have the control, you can decide if you want to have you man inside you or not. He doesn't have that choice, which is so horny for all us devotees of FD here. If you want sex regularly, you get it. If he wants it, he may or may not. He has no say. You do.
     
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    My wife also finds it a huge power trip that gets her turned on - she can't wait for Locktober for instance and is getting very excited.
    I have some issue with maintaining an erection anyway but she enjoys me wearing the strap on whilst I'm caged. She says she gets all the intimacy of me (kissing, caressing etc) and satisfaction from a cock that won't go limp half way through.
    Apparently the orgasms that she experiences are very similar with the strap on as when I was able to use my own cock - but she does miss me cumming inside her
     
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    Nope, your not crazy. I find it very erotic to see my sub locked up.
     
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    Lucky, lucky, sub!
     
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    lockedUp24byKH Yes Dear...Right away.

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    A little bump n grind in your daily grind.
     
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