Constant state of arousal question.

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    Wow. Being in this constant state of arousal is something else. It really is hard to comprehend and explain. I think I like and hate it all at the same time. This is the 2nd or 3rd time I have felt it. After I was given a good edging session last night to jump start it, (She didn't feel like I was behaving well enough.) for about 30 minutes......this is stronger than the previous ones. Does it continue to get stronger, or does it just vary? Does it stronger as more time passes? Thank in advance .
     
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    It can vary, but I am getting to a point where I feel great just spending time watching her be happy.
     
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    Yes.....I agree with that. Her wants and needs are everything....I was just surprised how hard this hit me this time. Caught be suprise when I wake up this morning .
     
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    Honestly, I could see how this feeling could become very addicting and how one could miss it after time. Ugh...... So many feelings!!!!!!
     
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    Everybody is different I would imagine. But yes, this state of arousal is intense and amazing!

    Isn't it wild when you get into that oh so fucking horny stage where it's like a frantic state of arousal, and every little thing that is seen, heard or felt just sets off the waves of tingles and jolts of electricity throughout the body. It's is an amazing rollercoaster ride, and yea, so addicting.

    For me the feelings can keep growing as long as there is "Action" happening on a regular basis. If I am kind of like locked and forgotten about .... ya that then turns into something totally different.

    I think the only drawback to this intense state of arousal, is that I am such a two-pump chump at this point. Once unlocked and PIV is happening, I just can't get much thrusting in to please my wife before I either have to pull out to keep from blowing which usually ends in a ruined O, and or just lose it completely. When that happens it is such a let down on multiple levels. Having to start all over again and build back up to that tingly stage and also that it was such a quick PIV session and that I obviously did not please the wife by being so quick about it.

    I have been working on the kegels and trying to separate the the muscles down there to help prolong and stop the impending O, but as of lately it almost is like I am using the wrong muscles and doing just the opposite. lol .. Alanis Morrisette song .. Isn't it Ironic ... is stuck in my head now lol
     
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    I've found that in the normal course of our lives, I tend to have "peak" horny days - at 5 days, 10 days, 20 days usually.

    But every so often my wife(/kh) will do something that throws that out the window and puts me in to a multi-day state of arousal. Those are wonderful. It's just downright great.

    Glad you're finding it and enjoying it!
     
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    I totally agree it's an addicting sensation and it is maximized by frecuent stimulation,visual,verbal or physical,as my KH/Wife tells me " ... you must do what is necessary to keep the fire burning..." , the more aroused and horny,the more submissive and willing to serve.
     
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    I do experience a unique feeling when caged and my orgasms controlled by another. Whether the stimulation is physical or mental, the desire tends to remain and even surges during the day. This is something I found quite unexpected when I began serious chastity play and submission.
     
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    Isn't it weird the way this happens? Like weird in a good way? o_O
     
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    Yes it is something that may vary and I feel the same, being denied or caged keeps me in an aroused state nearly all time with peeks around day 3 day 7 and days 15, not remember too much for longer time.
    And you like that state?
     
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    Thanks for all the helpful comments everyone. Being so new, I'm just trying to wrap my head around this and take in as much info as I can.
     
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    Today is day 6 and it is very very.. intense.
     
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    I attempted a 14-day stint and am on a 6 day run again. I am not using chastity, and I am using my raw will and my desire to love the woman I love as deeply as I can.

    I actually felt such strong passion, someone stated to me it was a sexual transmutation event. OMFG, it is amazing. Now a few words from her or her thinking of me, or hell me looking at a fun avatar literally can set me off.

    It is a surreal experience. The empowerment even has helped me out to the point, I decided to cut ties with the mistress named porn. This is one of the sites I use since this "kink" interest I have can be used like a stick pushing off the island of despair.

    The more I do this the more I want to be solid and strong. Some folks will say but dude I need to get mine. Game on folks enjoy and love yourself because during these times you have to take care of you. Just make sure you are not using another, and make sure the short-term game doesn't kill you from the long-term one.

    I have "real" traumas to back my shit, and I have lived and loved a good and fulfilled life. It is not a "wank" fest for me, and I have had some tremendous women in my bed.

    That being said, if I can make her come three times when together and we can string a bunch of these along before my eyes roll back. I am a happy man.

    Don't get me wrong, I fantasize too about being caged. I want her to have that option, but if she is like ewww or yuck. My desires will be can we play with this as a toy sometimes, and then don't worry? But if she likes it, I will be like (gulp) lets do the prince albert and that will be my wedding ring to you representing "loyalty" and the cage will be purity. Then let the fun games begin!
     
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    For whatever reason, yes, I like the state. Sometimes it's difficult, don't get me wrong, but it feels *good* to feel constantly horny.

    I've seen posts saying that its chemical and deals with dopomine levels, and the longer you don't cum, the more dopomine, but whatever the underlying reason its enjoyable.
     
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    I am becoming a believer! The longer the more intense, so far .
     
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    As a key holders it is the constant state of arousal I enjoy the most. Personally I could care less if my husband cleans the kitchen and makes the bed. It is the change in his behaviour towards me, the fire and the intensity that keeps us in the game. Obviously as a good Key Holder I have a role to play in maintaining that state, which I take seriously. Everyone's needs are different as some Key Holder's wish to dampen their man's desire my wish is to fuel it.
     
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    Thank you MrsBR. You sound very much like my KH/wife. She loves what I do more chores around the house, like you said, it's all about the fire and passion towards her.
     
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    I have never lasted more than 31 days without an accident and a ruined orgasm, but for those 31 day the feeling just keeps getting better and better. Wish I could last a year...I love the feeling of being horny and on edge. I want to live my life on the edge.
     
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    I can see that....still early but I can see that. I had ruined orgasm last night, and it did nothing to change my start of arousal.
     
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    As a younger man, I was able to orgasm, fall asleep and feel just as aroused the next morning, so no problem with constant arousal, it was just how I was.

    I am much older now and those powers of recovery have deserted me. An orgasm for me now will see me lose interest for up to a week and, if this happens, I really miss that horny feeling. My orgasms now seem much less important and I prefer that constant arousal that keeps me feeling like a teenager again........ well.....almost. I'm not saying that I don't ever want to orgasm again, but I really enjoy them being controlled and limited. Of course, the more orgasms my lovely lady has, the better.
     
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    #21 bondinchas, Aug 15, 2020
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    Yes, it's all to do with your male hormones. They work in a slightly different way with orgasm in males than females, which is why, unlike females, males tend to have just one orgasm at a time, and they get a 'downer' after having an orgasm.
    It's not having that 'downer' that changes the male experience from being on a rollercoaster between the high of orgasm to completely losing interest in sex immediately after, to staying in a high altitude state of arousal for as long as you stay chaste.

    I had a bookmark to a very good article ("The science behind male chastity") explaining it here, but unfortunately the website appears to be down.
    https://www.reuniting.info/node/4865

    PS. Found this which covers the same topic
    https://malechastity.com.au/blog/male-chastity-science/

    These also explain essentially the same thing
    (I find some are much easier to read than others)
    https://www.tumbex.com/kinnband.tumblr/post/165607609531
    https://evolvingyourman.com/2019/04/25/male-sex-hormones/
     
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    As an update for folks here, I finished the 7-day stint, and I used no porn. I used the picture of a woman I have deep feelings for and my mind. When I was done, I finished cleaning up and moved on.

    As my profile states, I am now going for 31 days. I feel my inner spirits getting stronger, and my partner actually came back from a horse show. She tried not to wake me as her friend crashed at our place since it was too exhausting for her to drive the 14 hours from the show.

    She laughed and stated that there was a tent and it was flopping around. She stated it was nice to see.

    I had a really bad allergic reaction (Texas is brutal and having a farm where everything we do with them is a CAT IV). I am exhausted, and with the reaction it is harsh, but the extra energy from holding back the sexual part with me. I am actually doing fine. It is weird AF, but I will take it.

    I have a very high libido, and when I was an athlete with partners I could go for months daily multiple times a day. Those that exercise and that have a HL know what I mean. Now I am older and smarter, the issue now is dealing with the damage done with not fixing my traumas earlier in life. I will be using that energy to win.

    But if you can do this why chastity? Because it would be a fun thing to do with my partner, and I would like to call it like a wedding ring for her. One that she knows I will always wear, so if that meant a piercing, instead of wearing a ring on the finger, one would wear a ring down there.

    If I get his done ... yeah my masculinity mojo will be super strong, and I like that and it gives me good confidence and not the faux-confidence people use with BDE (i.e. big dick energy).
     
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    good luck on your quest!
     
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    What was great was I supported a fantastic female writer who spun a tale that would make all the guys here go ... wow yum.

    To deal with it, I wrote a poem to help release the energy "and" then I dealt with helping my partner water horses and clean them out in 102.4 real temp and 112 feels like. The heat helped drain me of desire while I helped fill 600 gallons of water to three tubs.

    I also was able with the help of my super awesome female editor (yeah I love reporting to women as even a leader in professional life). Was able to build a nice op-ed on sexuality. All this because of the extra mojo I have.

    I am on Medium (dot) com with the same name as I have here. I do not hide what I write or who I am and don't live in masks.

    Day 6 without porn and I sense I will clear a week pretty soon.

    I am going to kick some ass on this quest and produce some cool things in my personal and professional lives.

    Men you should do this too ... I am not saying don't enjoy the kink and fun, but layer yourself so you are a super awesome human being.
     
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