Confession to the wife about wearing a chastity cage

I was moved reading your post.
Welldone boy, being conscious about your "addiction" is the first and most important step to work and defeat it.
And you also have a gorgeous nurturing girlfriend.
remember, she also has to get something, it's not always easy but you have both the most precious background. <3

 

One last thought. I don’t know your wife, but I do know mine quite well. Expecting her to be attracted to the same things you are will end in utter disappointment. What moved the needle for Miss A was when she understood my motives and began seeing the benefits of controlling my orgasms. Up until that point, it was like pushing a car uphill with 4 flat tires. Your first goal is to verbally explain to your wife why you feel this is a good thing for your marriage. Don’t write her another note and don’t spend too much time on your masturbation habits. Talk about your love and respect for her. How you think about her all of the time and have been selfish to her needs. Talk about how she glows when she climaxes and how fulfilling that is for you. Explain that you want her to be your sole source of pleasure…and only when she wishes it. Explain to her how you have taken her for granted in the past but no longer. Make it romantic and from the heart. May want to open a bottle of good wine before you start talking though. A nice Cabernet does wonders for opening up new possibilities.

 

Excellent post!

 

@Robbyv213 , your letter was honest, no baloney, and heartfelt. It would be hard to improve on it. @Proudence Baelish and @Ms Angela’s Sub offered some nice suggestions going forward.

Trust your instincts and let things proceed at her pace. Good luck!

 

You got this.

 

Robbie, your a guy. Masturbation is literally built into your DNA. Furthermore marriage / relationships are tough, most especially when our partners turn off or go into Mommy mode. I don’t know your situation thoroughly, your age, or your experience level, but Masturbation is a response to an unfulfilled biological need. Where there is a void it will be filled…unless there is something to prevent it. With that said, do something long enough and it will become a habit. Enter left: the love of your life. Enter right: The old habit. You have taken some steps…but go all in kid. Take a risk and show her your heart. Take a knee and express your commitment…and mean it. Ultimately this is about bringing romance and a greater level of passion back into your relationship…on her terms. Most importantly, take as many things off her plate as you possibly can and make her life easier. It will allow her time to not only re-embrace your relationship, but to also see the benefits of this new life style you’ve proposed.

 

What cage are you using now the first few pics are of the one I’ve worn now for years . Good luck with your message/communication it sounds real good, keep working to please her, through your actions like personal care laundry, cooking all of it she deserves it all.