After honoring my wife with mental chastity for the past 4 months, I am wondering if I am being conditioned due to chastity. Has anyone else had a similar experience? If so, how were you conditioned and how did it work? My wife has remained very vanilla. I self lock in a device as a reminder to my commitment, but she will not yet take my key. In other posts, I have detailed our relationship, but, essentially, my only orgasms during the past 4 months have been delivered by my wife. I do not touch myself at all. Sometimes I have an orgasm while penetrating her, but this usually only happens if I cannot hold out long enough to satisfy her. When that happens, I provide her with my lips and tongue until she orgasms. More commonly, I do last until she has had a chance to orgasm. After she has her orgasm, she then straddles me while I lay on my back. She then manually stimulates me. When I am close, I tell her so and ask if I may orgasm. She then tells me she wants me to orgasm before I finally release my pent up desires. This has been going on for the past 4 months. Lately, two things have been happening. 1) I no longer get aroused by looking at pornography images. Most of my arousal occurs only when I see or touch my wife. As a result, my viewing of pornography has been reduced to seeking out new ideas for the two of us to try or fantasize about together. 2) I have been having my orgasms within moments of when she tell me to cum. In the past, I would wait until I was close before asking if I could cum. Now she does not wait for me to ask and just tells me to do so. This has happened several times. I know she fully understands what is going on because she gets a broad smile across her face as if it was a compliment for me to orgasm on her demand. I love the idea of my orgasms being conditioned to my wife’s presence and demand. It certainly seems to me like this is occuring. So are any others experiencing this or purposefully conditioning their partner in this way?
So recognisable @Blue00! My love is still on the vanilla side as well. She instructs me to wear my cage only now and then. I'm mentaly chasted since February of this year and do not masturbate anymore. Also pornography does not turn me on anymore. The way how we developped was through tease and denial. Since I confessed to my love to become chasted, she only allows me only to cum according to her strict instructions. She fully controls my releases in the way she wants. In the beginning this was build up by asking me to delay during our PIV. After that she increased the denial component not anymore during PIV but also in between them. Since a few months she learned also how to play with ruined releases. Right after my last full release she discovered that my behaviour changed drastically, which was not appreciated. So, during the past 7 weeks she did not allow me to have any full release. In between I had only 1 ruined by her. Also my love agreed to purchase my first custom cage to be used in the future. Now, every day i feel the need to increase my service to her, which I do and which is appreciated by her. Secondly my aurousements are increasing every day, but also I feel a certain frustration coming up. Her conditional control of my releases becomes more "though to wear", but I do not dare to destroy the things building up. So, yes I also became conditioned to my love's presence and demands and I hope this lasts forever.
I have enjoyed hypnosis audios and continue to do so. I find the audios much more satisfying than videos or oornography since I can picture my wife in my imagination while listening to them. Over the years, I have tried a variety of hypnosis audio files, but the ones I relate to best are the ones that bring my focus to pleasing my wife. Sounds like you have found a good balance in your relationship as well. Chastity allows me to better appreciate the time in between orgasms. Orgasms are so short, but the time in between is filled with spending time with my wife, cuddling with her, and reminding her why she chose to marry me. As a result, I am able to better match her sex drive and needs. An additional effect of chastity conditioning is that, prior to initiating chastity, I had significant delayed ejaculation. It was serious enough that, at times, we would just give up on having me orgasm. As a result, she would feel inadequate in bed, and I would feel guilty for inducing such feelings (I knew I was self-pleasuring too much.) Now, I am conditioned to enjoy her pleasure. As a result, I can now easily orgasms either with her orgasm or when commanded to be her. I have no regrets in surrendering this control to her, and it is an ego boost for her to have that power over me.
I understand your feeling of your wife not taking the key, I dealt with this situation for months. It sounds like your wife is enjoying the results of chastity without managing the key. This can be because of many reasons. My wife loved how I was in chastity but thought it would be too mean to control the cage. One thing that worked on top of many conversations was I stopped locking myself. I purposely went back to masturbating a couple times a day. My mood and attentiveness to her went back to the way it was. We had terrible sex and she was left unsatisfied. She finally asked what happened to the cage. I told her I started to just take it off myself to masturbate and finally just gave up. She finally then told me she likes me better with the cage. I told her I like myself better also but I cannot do it alone. She has held the key ever since and I let her make the decisions about when we have sex. My wife also enjoys when I cum and insists on it while having sex. Good luck and maybe this can help for you.