Compromises

Wow. Very upfront and honest discussion. He is very lucky indeed to be with a woman like you.

 

I like how strict your conditions are not unlike my wife's demands ...makes for exciting and frustrating times

 

I couldn't imagine my wife being this strict. I'm not sure about child aspect also, if one partner definitely doesn't want children, they shouldn't be manipulated into a decision that will have dramatic and everlasting consequences. I do understand your idea, and it could be fun if both adults were 100% sure about having children, but going about it this way may not be the best of choices. I'd sit down and discuss how sincerely you wish to have children, and how important it's to you. Doing anything else will backfire.
As a Dad, being a parent over rides everything--- regardless of lifestyle. Living a certain lifestyle can be fun, exciting and titillating, but it doesn't amount to anything without unconditional consent. I'd rethink this aspect of your plans, otherwise everything else sounds very cool.

Jay.

 

i'm with you, Jay! Having a child without the full consent and enthusiasm of both parties promises to be a mess that will likely end up in divorce and probably a messed up child without 2 committed parents!

SissyWannabe

 

As part of a loving couple, regardless of fetishes or lifestyle, children are most important part of marriage (if you choose to have them). Your love for each other is always important and unique. But that love created by having a family is lasting and bonding. It's certainly not something any couple should take lightly. Honestly, if my Wife and I were still considering having more children (2 is enough) I wouldn't wear my cage outside when we're playing, or maybe not at all.


Jay.

 

I'm with Jay also. This is a terrible idea. Basically forcing him to impregnate you. That's not how to plan for children. Each orgasm is another child? And when you've had enough children, then he never cums again? Is this really consensual?

 

One more thought. When your child grows up, you can tell him or her that they were conceived because daddy needed an orgasm.

If your mate didn't want children, you should have picked someone who did. Perhaps your concern over chastity took first place over the choice of children or not.

 

gentlemen please be kind and get a grip.

Mz Keyholder is simply generously sharing with us how She is establishing Her "reset" mindset with Her husband. Weather it will true or not, Her husband does not need to know. Now that the thought has been placed in his head, this creates an opportunity for a more open discussions in the future regarding having children and a family. To me it seems their life has all been about his happiness, his wants, his desires, his kinks.

Reset his selfish mindset.

Good for Mz Keyholder. Take charge!

 

HA! Never ask a male for suggestions regarding other guys.

i personally feel Your reset mindset is ingenious and will create a much more open means of allowing for equal levels of discussion about Your future lives together.

 

If anything certain aspects of the original post are in poor taste. The OP made it clear her husband didn't want kids---- it's that simple. There are no mind games here, just a clear statement. Btw his wants, happiness etc etc are barely commented upon and irrelevant to the broader discussion. I understand many here idolise the female in all her guises, but following in blind faith, and demarcations based on the trivialities of Sexual orientation are poor witness to logical decisions and outcomes. Read the original post for what it is, and don't be enraptured by the term and meaning of reset.

Jay,.

 

Talk to your husband, if he seriously doesn't want kids, maybe you should consider an alternative (moving on is far easier than holding together a fragmented family). Apart from the impregnation aspect all is good.

Jay.

 

I fully concur with Jay. IMHO, the whole chastity & KH relationship is one of increased intimacy between partners that is toward a mutual goal. Each has their role to live out in that relationship, but the mutual goals should be well known and understood by both parties for the relationship to last long term. If he's not on board with having and supporting a child to adulthood, then he should never be forced into 20 years of unwanted responsibility and financial obligation for your desires of the moment. The same would be true if the roles were reversed.

 

everyone is an expert in everything. LOL

got to love it.

 

Having supported 4 children and 6 grandchildren through college, I feel that I am an expert in family responsibility! Doing this is no small feat with 2 loving partners both pulling together. This would be impossible if one of the parties were not fully committed and desirous of being a responsible parent. This responsibility absolutely trumps any fetish thinking, IMHO! We're talking about creating a life here. That is not something to take lightly - ever.

 

since everyone else is giving there view her goes. This argument is not limited to world of male chastity. And it goes down like this, if the woman want kids well she gets kids, if she don't well then she don't.

 

While I am keen to suggest that we should create an environment of understanding and acceptance here on CM, I also do not think that disagreement should be something that is seen as unkindness, unless the way it is given is unkind. I certainly mean no unkindness here.

This topic is very difficult. I'm not interested at all in the rights of the father, primarily as this is not his thread. What I am interested in is that the stakes in the game do seem to be really of the highest sort. Bringing up children or no orgasms is a very high stakes game, and I would be very happy to hear whether he is happy to go ahead under those rules.

Now I am not saying that it is a bad thing, just that the stakes are as high as they could ever be.

I can understand the desire for a re-set, and have to put myself on one at times* so I think the general direction of that is fine, but I would strongly advise the two of you talk very openly about the wanting/not-wanting kids thing. It breaks families up, and ruins childrens lives. I have no problem with you forging ahead knowing that he you and he may split up over it in time, but only if you and he have a solid commitment to bringing up healthy happy kids. Yes you could do it on your own, but it is tough. Way tough. It would use all your money and some, it will use all your time, and far more than all of your energy. I can see how it might seem like a good thing to use to segue into the chastity fantasy thing, but I think it's possibly too big an issue to use as a simple orgasm control in a game. Your (and his) opinion may vary of course, and if so then fair play to you.

*Like right now as it happens, I get very gropey sometimes during the chastity cycle, and badly need curing of it, so I am on a no touching her breasts rule for a while

 

Well just because she said he doesnt want kids doesnt mean we have the whole story. I have a brother who doesnt want kids because he feels he cannot afford them but actually loves kids. His wife wants some kids also but he keeps fighting her for selfish reasons. But I do agree that its best when both parents are in it for the children because if one really and truly does not want kids, yeah that can be rough on everyone. Raising kids is not easy, I know. I have three of them darn little blood suckers

 

wow, I contend that TheKeyholderWife is either a fraud or has a psychological issue! No sane person would leverage kids this way.

 

A total mind fuck.. let's not spoil it.

 

Certainly sounds like it. If that's the sole intention then more power to your elbow Miss.

 

True. At least this guy found a cute pic to post.