Comeing out to my wife this weekend

I would say "steady as she goes that Cap'n!"

She knows she has the links and she obviously know that you know that she knows that she has the kink!

I would say back off now and let her take her time.

We're all the same when starting down this path and we just don't realise what a shock/change it can be for some wives.

Let's be honest, we've lived with the desires for years, yet we expect them to just "jump on board" in a matter of days (hours!).

Let time take it's natural course, you'll find pay dividends in the end.

 

I hope evrything has been developing the way you wanted Bryan.

 

Do not rush things

Good Luck Brian!!! What ever you do, DO NOT RUSH THINGS. Stephen Covey said, "Seek To Understand before being understood". The moral of the story is what is in it for your wife? As males in chastity, we tend to want to push our agenda, and what WE want. I have gained more from chastity by extolling the benefits for my wife, and letting her discover the talents she has. By the way, we have been playing with chastity since 1993, just about the time Altarboy started his first web page. Again, Good Luck!!

 

If you feel the need to masturbate, then why not set up the scenario where she catches you in the act? There could be a couple of outcomes; she says lock up immediately, or she gets really pissed at you. For us, my wife caught me, and immediately went and got the CB, and had me put it on in front of her. It stayed for 3 weeks. Maybe this could work for you....

 

This point from L&L'ed was overlooked and it needs to be repeated. Very, very insightful.

 

Don't get me wrong; I agree with what L&L is saying, and Goddess Jen is right on. Sometimes if you let nature take its path, then it just so happens to be the path you both want (or need) to go down. If she were to catch you jerking off, I can't explain the rush when it happens. I would suggest not have the mind set of "manipulation" but rather 'chance'. In our case, my wife had been lukewarm to the idea of chastity. The belt just sat in our toybox. When she caught me it was a TOTAL surprise. I'm wanking away after working on taxes for a couple of hours. It's well past midnight. My mind was racing, and needed to relax, so I figured I'd twist one out. I started to work at it, and then the lights in the room went to full. I was blinded. There she is, with her hands on her hips, "What the hell are you doing?" It took about 30 seconds for my heart to slow down, and my brain to reengage . " She was pissed. "Now I know why you've been doing when alone." She turned around and walked away, and came back 2 minutes later holding the most uncomfortable belt in our collection. Put it on now! The worst part was I hadn't orgasmed when she caught me. She kept me locked for 60 days, and teased me. Be careful for what you wish for; It may come true. Good Luck

 

PS- My wife reminded me it was 60 days, not 3 weeks the belt stayed on. Once you get into this lifestyle, the days just run together!!

 

Much if the intrigue is the unknown, is it not? If she wants the keys, I'd give them to her. Your SHOULD have a conversation about hygiene. You'll have to get out every few days for that. Perhaps you should just let her be in charge of it for now, and see what unfolds. If you try to micro-manage it too much, she may get nervous and not want to do it at all. Why not try things on her terms, and see where it leads? At worst, you will have to negotiate with her later. Honestly, I'd take the deal, and give he the keys in a heart beat! hehe

mikecb

 

Give her the keys, Brian. What's the worst that could happen? OK, don't answer that.

Seriously, hand her the keys. Good luck!!!

 

:haha4:

 

Maybe she has looked at the stuff and is just playing it off to mess
with you. My g/f has done stuff like that before.....just out of the blue tie me up put a pink thong on me drip hot wax all over me the ride me with a dildo in my ass. I just went over there to hang out and bam! I had talked
to her about that type
of stuff in the past and she just wasn't into it, then something clicked!

 

So Brian;
Have you been locked up for a couple of days now?

 

My eyes are wet and yet I'm smiling.

That sounds like love, what you have there

 

i came into this thread late and when i go back to the first post it refers to a letter that was given to your wife(chaste). i cannot find that letter? maybe im not looking right or clicking right but i would love to see it if i may? i am still breaking all this stuff in to my Wife/kh and she is really just beginning in this journey so anything i can use that might help explain my thoughts would be wonderful.