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Yes I do, thank you.
Does BDSM automatically involve sex and orgasms? Sadly my wife is not into BDSM yet…she will not tie me up or even spank me when I do something wrong, which is often, because she is very particular on how I do my household chores.
Are sex and BDSM always together? NO, because my wife and I have sex multiple times a day.
Do your scenes always end in sex and/or orgasm? Sex all the time, but orgasms not so much, it’s been 2 weeks since my last ruined orgasm (the only kind I get), and my balls are starting to ache. I love the feeling because it’s a reminder of how horny I am.
Is BDSM simply another way of having sex? If my wife would go there, yes it would be having sex.
I posted on July 21st that Baby Doll hasn’t had an orgasm because the grandkids were here, and that I would start teasing and deny her orgasms, because I knew she is really horny now. She is a good sport, allowing me to do this to her, and I think she kind of likes it.
So, every night for 5 nights, I take her to the edge and beyond, and then tell her to stop. She gets her Magic Wand, lays on the bed, and spreads her legs. I get to sit between her legs and watch. When she starts surfing the edge, her legs start to twitch, and when she is getting really close, her head rises slightly off the pillow, and a split second before she blows, her mouth opens, and she let out a soft moan. It’s during that split second that I tell her to stop and grab the Magic Wand, leaving her in total frustration.
She wants to know, how I know exactly when to tell her to stop. She doesn’t realize all the tells she gives me, and I’m not going to tell her.
She normally likes about 2 orgasms a week, but since being teased and denied for 5 straight nights, she has had a wonderful orgasm every night since. She normally allows me a ruined orgasm once a week, but I was only allowed 2 ruined orgasm during the month of July.
I would love it, if she would orgasm every night, and tease and deny me for at least 2 weeks or more.
I’m very lazy, but I love doing chores for my dominant wife. She does so much for me, I know I can never do enough, but I love to try. In the morning, I put the coffee on, and start breakfast, then wake her up. After breakfast, I do the dishes, make the bed, and change the sheets if necessary. She likes to relax in the recliner and watch TV, so I being her a glass of water and snacks, then start the laundry, and vacuum the carpet if necessary. I sometimes make lunch and sometimes she makes lunch. After lunch I cut the grass or just relax on the couch…while on the couch, I ask her if I can masturbate, and she usually says yes, as long as I don’t cum.
She usually makes dinner, she is a great cook. By now I am wiped out, so I don’t do the dishes till early the next morning.
I know I should do more, but I am just so lazy.
Oh yea, in between, there might be a pee treat for me, and a couple of tease and deny sessions, and at bedtime, a orgasm for her.
When we first started denying my orgasms almost two years ago, my wife would throw dice to determine how many days I would be teased and denied. We started with just one die and quickly went to two dice, and then three dice. At that point she become willing to take complete control of all my orgasms.
We decided to try something new, and set up an orgasm wheel (http://wheeldecide.com/). Baby Doll will spin the wheel every day to determine if I get an orgasm, or just teased and denied. No way is she going to give up total control, and agreed that what ever the wheel decides would only be a suggestion, she will always make the final decision. Anyway, it’s something new and fun to play.
I have 1 chance in 40 to win the grand prize, and get a full blown orgasm. That is much better than my current odds of more than 100 to 1. I have 3 chances out of 40 to get a ruined orgasm, and 36 chances out of 40 to get teased and denied. As luck would have it, I get a ruined orgasm this morning. Unless of course, she changes her mind.
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My wife and I are in our sixties and we have sex multiple times every day...the trick is that she does not let me have an orgasm. She loves to keep me horny and on edge, and so do I. Life is good. View all posts by cincy34
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AUGUST 11, 2018 AT 8:52 AM EDIT
Interesting idea. I wouldn’t like it though. I prefer living on her capricious whim!!
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AUGUST 11, 2018 AT 10:30 AM EDIT
Sounds like a pretty fun game!
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AUGUST 12, 2018 AT 3:35 AM EDIT
Easy for you to say!! lol
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AUGUST 12, 2018 AT 9:36 AM EDIT
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AUGUST 11, 2018 AT 10:20 PM EDIT
HD used the same site to design a wheel for me also. It has equal chances for full orgasm or full denial (yes/no) and a few ruined ones as well. I don’t like when he makes me use it, I am rarely lucky enough to land on “yes.”
This was his solution after he fell asleep while we were playing via text while he was out of town, and I dropped hard. That way I would at least have an answer. But now he likes to use it on whim.
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AUGUST 17, 2018 AT 1:16 AM EDIT
Good idea, could be fun. But I am with Michael on this one, I too prefer the decision about my orgasms to be entirely with my Wife. She is not into ruining my orgasms too much, but denial is Her game and I can almost never tell when She is going to let me cum, in sex or otherwise. Even when I masturbate at Her wish, She may make me stop moments before I cum. My orgasms can be a whole month or just hours apart, it is all up to Her and I love the sweet frustration of not knowing until it happens…
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JUNE 28, 2019 AT 6:22 AM EDIT
I like this idea. Is there an app for the wheel?
JUNE 28, 2019 AT 4:00 PM EDIT
Here is the link…https://wheeldecide.com/
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I am so lucky, my wife allows me to share in all her orgasms. Every other night I sit between her legs while she works the Magic Wand on her clit. It usually takes her about 10 minutes to get off, and then she wants me to lick her pussy and ass, because she says it extends her orgasm. It’s the closest I ever get to a full blown orgasm and it’s something I need.
In the morning, she gives me a pee treat and two tease and deny sessions, one before her shower and one after her shower. Yesterday I took a Viagra hoping for some PIV, but not only did it not work, but I was very light headed. I may have to stop Viagra, hate to even think about that.
Anyway, in the afternoon I am laying on the couch and I ask her if I can masturbate, and she said “ok, just be careful and not cum”. Well, after a few minutes, I asked her if she would suck it for me (not my day for a blow job), but she said she would, but in the bedroom.
Wow, now your hard, she said as I begged her to let me cum. She didn’t reply but she stopped just before I went over the edge.
So that’s how it usually goes in the day of a married submissive, except for the housework of course.
I’m ready for a great Christmas, and I wish every one a Merry Christmas and a happy new year.