Cheating - pulling out

Discussion in 'Chastity and orgasm denial' started by Love&Passion, Jan 24, 2019.

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Can you pull out

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    I had a long run now, I locked up when we came back from our holiday on Jan 5th. Since then I have pulled out a lot but only to clean.

    Today for the first time since the run started I pulled out to clean and afterwards I rubbed him.. Normally that goes so long until I come, either I come when I pull out to rub or a few hours later or a few days later, but the first time I pull out to cheat I won't last longer then a few hours or best a few days with constant cheating.

    This time I put him back and I hope I will stay strong. This is the reason I so desperately want a PA Piercing.

    What about you? Do you pull out? Can you pull out? Do you use it to play, if you do do you have an unauthorized Orgasm?
     
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    You should add, can you pull out but not back in. Quite a few are in that bucket where out works but in doesn't, meaning if you pull out you're caught!
     
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    Not really chastity, I promise I wont touch it, it is a lot different to I cant touch it, make your own mind up but if I could I would,
     
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    It's not nice to nonchalantly insult anyone not practicing chastity how you feel is the correct way by saying they aren't really practicing it. If they aren't playing with themselves without permission (play can be defined however you want), they are practicing chastity whether they are using a tangible device or relying solely on their willpower.
     
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    I also don’t believe in faulting others for how they practice chastity. That being said, from personal experience, better security and honesty with your KH will make the entire experience more fulfilling and exhilarating. Almost any device will still require your resistance to cheat, some just make it much more difficult and less rewarding.
     
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    Sounds like a bit more self-control is required!
     
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    I can pull out but I won’t
     
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    I Don't know. Have never tried pulling out in the last 3 years. it seems like a waste of money to buy an expensive device and then try to circumvent it. That may just be me.
     
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    Still pretty proud of myself, from being a chronic PMO addict to 3 weeks without play and for more than a year without any type of porn.



    Tried to honestly describe my issue and wanted to see if others have the same challenges.

    Anyway yesterday it was out only for a minute,, I managed to stay strong, the PA is planned.
     
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    You never did ? Just that one time to try? How long was your longest run without play?
     
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    Thanks
    I have an amazing keyholder and we discuss these things.. I still call it cheating as she doesn't authorize that behavior.. She is on board to get the PA though..
     
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    My thought is what comes out goes in, no? ;)
     
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    Yes I tried it, just to see if it was possible. And I told my KH of course. After that I didn’t pull out any more. I want to be locked up, so I don’t cheat. For me that’s clear and simple.
    My longest run without play is 16 days now. And the last time I came is 148 days ago, with a minimum of 18 days still yet to go...
     
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    Why bother with a device, if you are honest enough to not pull it out and play, then you must be honest enough to promise not to wank, simple.
    I know the temptation would be to much for me after a few days or weeks.
     
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    #15 Bertdido, Jan 25, 2019
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    I need the feeling of a locked cock. And it is an extra barrier for not playing with myself. Not being able to get a full erection also adds up to the frustrated and horny feeling...
    Thinking about getting a PA to make pulling out impossible so I’m totally dependent of what my KH wants and pleases
     
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    On the two cages I use, I can pull out if I tried. At least my cock, not so much the balls. I don’t pull out though because it does feel like cheating and then what’s the point of this? The PA would definitely help, I’m not to the point of wanting to go that route myself. More power to you!
     
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    My device has an additional piece that actually slightly pinches my shaft. No way you can pull out and put back in. It was designed for securoty and anti-pull. I have not been using the clamp in my chastity device because the last time around, i ended up with slight bruising on the sides of my dicklett due to nocternal erections. I told my MissesM that I was able to pull him out in the shower when limp and soapy, she just informed me that after my physical on Monday, the clamp goes back in regardless of bruising and if that does not remedy the problem, we will be looking into the PA
    I will settle for a little bruising over the PA. I know the clamp works so Inshould be fine
     
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    Listen, everyone should do as suits them, me I would cheat if I could I would, if I am not locked away from my self then I would never get to this stage (4 weeks today). then there is the question why put locks on chastity belts if all you need to do is I promise I wont touch ?.
     
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    Nicoftime The suspense is terrible...I hope it lasts

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    Before my device with the pa I would pull out daily to groom and wash it. It would instantly get hard as soon as it was free, and yes it was more than just washing...that or it was the cleanest Willy ever! I never went all the way, not because I’m a saint, but because the integrated lock had sharp edges on the top, and whenever I got into it, it would scratch the very most vulnerable spot on the penis. So I would soap up, shave, wash it again...still washing, then I would stuff it back in.

    I told her about it and she seemed fine with it, but as it turned out she didn’t really understand when I told her I could pull out. Then one time I was teasing her and telling her I might just finish this time when I was washing...she was like “you mean you can pull the whole thing out and touch it?” The look of disappointment on her face was very evident. She gave me a look like “why am I wearing this silly key then?” I told her that I could always pull out, unless I got a piercing and attached it to the cage. She said “we should make an appointment then”. We went together a few days later.

    She is all or nothing, and if she wasn’t in total control, she didn’t see the point.
     
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    Awesome response from your KH.
     
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    I dont see why bother with chastity if you can service your self ( lets keep this a secret from KH ok) but the truth is if you can pull it out you can stuff it in, stop telling lies.
     
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    Nicoftime The suspense is terrible...I hope it lasts

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    If I was a bit more squeamish than I already was about getting pierced, I would still wear a cage. Just because you are physically capable of pulling out, doesn’t make wearing a device pointless.
    1. It restricts erections
    2. It restricts physical contact with the outside world
    3. It is a form of restraint...if your into that.
    4. It’s a barrier, not meant to eliminate, but to thwart casual touch.
    5. It’s a symbol, like jewelry, but only your partner sees it.
    6. It’s a secret to share

    That’s just on the top of my head, im sure there is more. Security is fun, it isn’t everything, if it can be locked, it can be unlocked, I suppose I could take a locksmith class and be able to get out of any device. With that logic, all devices would be pointless.
     
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    There is a lot of different minded people here.
    For example, those that have masturbation problems and admit that to themselves and want to fix that with chastity... those guys for sure need escape proof chastity belt.
    Myself, like some others here, are locked for their partners. It is consensual, at least to some degree. And if I want to be locked for her, why would I cheat then...
    I did pull out in past. Years ago, when we started using chastity cages. I don't any more. I said to myself why playing this game if I can't be honest to myself and my partner. Honesty is the key in every successful relationship.
    Other than that, if @Nicoftime would so nicely put down those points I would write same lines. Even if it's possible to pull out it is still form of restriction. Can't be removed completly without the key, prevents erections,... It also has big symbolic meaning. It marks her property.
     
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    When I started Chastity more than 3 years ago and discovered I can pull out I was shattered, destroyed, I wanted it to protect myself from myself.

    When I told my KH at the time I told her what you mentioned above, why bother, I actually was so emotional about it that I cried.

    However, then I did play well and hardly cheated, the 3 week mark is the one where it gets tricky, in the past years if I cheated I wouldn't come, that changed this year in August, I don't know why. I was unlocked from August to December and I was trying to stay good but came quite a few times unauthorized.

    Since the cage is back on, I cheated once (for a minute) but thankfully but the member back and didn't take him out again. I do think the cage helps. However I am looking forward to the PA for total mindfuck.. and yes, the Magic Wand will have to dissapear in to the safe.


    7. It feels wrong to pull him out and start masturbating
    8. It brings security to the partner / as no woman would want to have sex with someone with the chastity device attached to his balls....
     
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    My Jailbird is fitted properly so there is no way I could get out. I wear it to avoid masturbating so glad I do not have an option. I have tried multiple times during business trips while I was alone in my hotel room without any luck. I did tell my wife and she was very happy each time. She can tell if I would cum so I would get caught if I actually got it off.
     
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