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  1. Brat2lck
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    Hello, fellow CM members.

    I am visiting quite regular the chat rooms lately, and it has come to my attention that many of the discussions in general chat there should not be happening there.
    I don 't have personally any problem with these discussions, in fact I have probable take part in some of them.

    However I know that this has taken a toll to some members not interested in some of these discussions, and I believe that most of the discussions we have there make hesitant members, newbies and more vanilla people that are members or thinking of joining CM to not participate in Chat rooms or even not actively participate in CM.

    Furthermore the discussions happening in General chat room, are visible without the need for login/account in CM, and some of our members share there, private information's who might not want to share with everyone, or might be hesitant to do so because of that happening.

    To address most of the above issues I would like to ask us all, to move the discussions to the appropriate chat rooms, and maybe create a couple more for topics we discuss and do not fit in any given chat room at the moment.

    So please let's keep our general chat vanilla/newbie friendly.
    Let's move most of our discussions (chastity discussions included) from the general chat to kinky chat room.
    Let's move all the discussions about crossdressing and cuckolding to Sissies/CD/TV/trans chat room.
    Create a room for other Kinks so people interested in something not so relevant to chastity have a place to talk about it without bothering the rest who are not interested.

    In addition I would like to encourage members that don 't visit our Chat rooms to drop by and say a couple words with the rest of us. Let's make this community stronger, bigger, better.

    I would also like to ask kindly @L-u-c-y to help this effort by adding a little helpful description to chat rooms that haven 't, or by any other means she deems necessary.

    I would like to have your feedback on my thoughts and suggestions, but I strongly believe we should try and implement most if not all of them.

    All the above were written with respect to our differences, to our community, and to each of you and with the sole purpose of making our community here in CM bigger and better.

    Thanks for reading my post,
    Best regards,

    Brat2lck
     
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    I wouldn't know how to use a chat room!! I'm not great at this internet game! Can't exactly ask my daughter to show daddy what to do either!!! :):eek:
     
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    Thank you for the post. I did not realize that the General Chat room was open to the public. I also think it is a great idea to use the other rooms. :)
     
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    what exactly is your problem? What sorts of conversations are you referring to? You suggest discussion of chastity shouldn't be held in the general chat room. Come on - this is a chastity site!
     
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    My opinion? MYOB....
     

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    I haven't spent a lot of time in the chat rooms recently, but from what I saw in the past, the biggest issue was "sissies" talking about cross dressing and a lot of stuff that is either unrelated or directly contradictory to chastity. If we tell people to stay away from material they don't like, that shouldn't mean avoid the chat feature because some people refuse to use the appropriate channels.
     
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    I don't think appointing yourself as chat room monitor and then encouraging others to use chat are compatible objectives.

    Also stop putting a space before apostrophes in contractions. It's annoying as well. It's don't, not don 't (says the self-appointed grammar monitor ;) ).
     
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    I think it is unavoidable that other kinks come up in general chat,as chastity is part or associated with many other kinks. I love the chat room and admit I tend to digress onto other topics.
    some prefer one on chats which is fine,but I think something to open chats with all those who wish throwing in their 2 cents ( thats about $5 adjusted for inflation)
     
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    I understand what Brat2lck is trying to say and I agree with him. A lot of people here extend the kink of chastity into things like cross dressing, cuckolding and I could see how the might put off someone just starting out. The other day I was in general chat and three guys were talking about wearing bras. I understand this is a open forum and I try to be tolerant, even supportive at times, but frankly I have no interest in bras or reading about wanting to wear them.

    I believe the nature of Brat2lck's suggestion was the we exhibit a bit of self-moderation (or maybe self-organization) so that people on the more vanilla end of the chastity spectrum are more likely to engage in discussion. Who knows, maybe a year from now that new person will want to wear a bra.
     
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    Deja vu
     
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    Nicoftime The suspense is terrible...I hope it lasts

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    In a perfect world everyone would move to the appropriate room to discuss their topic...I’m not sure if you’ve noticed, but that would spread the few amount of people in chat, all over different rooms. Sounds like it would be a lot of people just sitting and waiting for someone to drop in to their room.

    Besides that isn’t how the flow of conversation works. You can’t manipulate the conversation, it flows and changes. I go to general chat, and you know what? Most of the time it’s a bit too general! Yes friendships are great, but there is only so much talk of the weather and I’m like “can someone open a weather room so everyone can get their weather channel groove on!”

    Yes it can flow in one direction a bit too heavy, that’s when you bring up things you would like to discuss.

    All in all if you are trying to make a vanilla general chat room to talk about weather , kids, and what ever you decided to put in your gut that day, I would imagine there are other social media outlets for that. Our community is just too small to separate into subcategories, or it will be 12 rooms each with one person in them.
     
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    Maybe the few amount of people in chat is a product of the current chat environment.
     
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    I think that's the theory.
     
  14. L-u-c-y
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    I think this is the case.

    Certain fetishes are monopolising the main room.

    If another fetish like female superiority or watersports was taking over the main room it would put off a lot of people from joining the room.

    The same is happening now with sissy talk.

    A few times I've had a look in the main room and it's been non stop sissy talk so I've just left. Lots of others have said the same.

    There is a sissy room but no one ever uses it.

    As @Adam444 said, a bit of self-moderation might help.

    I see no problem with chastity being mentioned in the general room, but it can be talked about without using crudeness.

    I think if some common sense was used the amount of people using the chat rooms would increase.
     
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    Also I think a lot of people do not realise there are other rooms. I will work on putting some notices in there to remind people.
     
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    Nicoftime The suspense is terrible...I hope it lasts

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    I know what’s made me leave chat more often than I can count...people lying, exaggerating the truth, or fantasizing out loud about their reality.

    I don’t know how many times I’ve heard of the their wives cucking, feminizing, and forcing bisexuality after just getting caged.

    It’s hard to listen to someone when you know they are full of it.
     
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    would it be possible to have a room for women only? like the verified females forum?
     
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    While things have gotten better, this site is still plagued with bullshit. Some of it is lying. Some of it is fantasy. Some of it is people setting up unrealistic expectations for others. Some of it is people acting like their way is the only way and casually insulting anyone who does things differently.
     
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    Apologies Mistress Lucy and others who may have seen my recent chat visit.
     
  20. L-u-c-y
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    Don't worry about it, it's tame compared to some : )

    Hopefully if people self moderate we can keep everyone happy : )
     
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    Thank You. Your servant Ma'am
     
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    Nicoftime The suspense is terrible...I hope it lasts

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    I’m not sure about unreal expectations, someone’s success shouldn’t be seen as an unreal expectation. Maybe unreal for them, maybe unlikely to happen to them, but no one is responsible for how someone reacts to another’s success.
     
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    I love these threads, someone rolls a grenade into the room and disapears.
    23 posts and the op has not replied to any of them.
     
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    Whether he responded or not the OP did open up a conversation that many are participating in. I don't dress, I'm not a sissy or feminized, I'm not bi but I'm not offended by discussion of any of these topics. I think for new members/visitors it may not be offensive but more shocking.

    From reading around the different forums and looking through the Gallery I know there is a heavy presence of discipline and punishment. I have tried twice to start a separate room on these but have only seen 4 or 5 comments other than my own.
     
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    I don't think the subjects of feminising/sissies etc are offensive to anyone at all on this site.

    That's not the issue. There is only a problem when a certain subject monopolises the chat room.
     
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