Chastity with exwife or exgirlfriend as keyholder

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    I would have to question why, as a key holder, you want to retain control of someone you no longer have a relationship with and why, as a submissive, they would want to cling on to you in some way. How will he ever find a new partner? Unless, of course, you don't want him to?

    If it's over, it's over. Move on and find new partners. Maybe it's an indication that it's not as over as you thought it was?
     
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    For myself it is long and complicated. Especially as there was a third party (F) involved also. And was a long time ago now, before CM even existed. Very unusual situation which I may have described in an earlier post: can't remember and can't find it now: I have made so many!
     
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    I may as well drop my key off a boat in the middle of the Atlantic as hand it to my ex with any expectations of being released. The thought had never crossed my mind thankfully
     
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    I guess it also depends on the circumstances of the break-up and if you've remained friends or not. Handing keys to a woman bent on revenge would seem a little on the risky side to me. :eek:
     
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    While I personally agree with this sentiment, I think all divorces are different. I went to school with someone that got remarried to his ex-wife (I don't get it). I get along very well with my ex as a parent, but I am not at the get-along-so-well-with-my-ex-that-I-will-let-her-control-my-genitals level.

     
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    My girl friend keeps me locked up she knows I would rather be free and that is why.
    So for me to be her ex she would still hold the key her joy is preventing me from having an orgasm.
     
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    Have you discussed this with her? Or is it just your hunch/fantasy. ATM she's your regular gf: not ex at all!
     
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    not ex regular, no fantasy, pardon me
     
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    That's fine. Just was clarifying.
     
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    The thought crossed my mind before ... and I love it.

    She living her life, dating, going out, meeting guys ... and me at home locked. Different to most cuckold relationships: She won't come home.

    However, I don't think she'd be into it. She has a dominant character, but was not very much into my 'kinks' (although the relationship was probably more on the FLR side than vanilla side). She'd just ask what she get out of it. Also, we're in our mid-20s. If I'd ask her, probably in a week everyone I know would know.:)
     
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    I think you have hit the nail on the head. If it happens it's a wholly new dimension. But only does anything for a very small minority: 95+% of exes would not be interested, having moved on.
     
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    Unfortunately that's true. The ideal - at least in my fantasy - is that the ex moved on, but would still do it. But again, it is a fantasy because I don't think there's something in it for her, so why do it?

    Something else I'm doing is to still keep your ex some sort of a priority. For one of my exes, whos already in a new relationship, I'm like the platonic friend that does everything for her. I listen, I invite her to dinner, I help her move and a few other things etc ... She does not object to that :)
     
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    Did this ex lock you? Does she know you're locked now? What does your current gf/kh think about your service to your ex?
     
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    Mind you it's not unknown for an ex to move on and then come back in another capacity as keyholder or Dominant. Take a look at @fatbloke6 here for example.
     
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    No, none of my exes locked me unfortunately. This particular ex is not aware of my chastity fetish, so I assume she doesn't know I'm locked.

    I don't have a keyholder at the moment, so no problem. Otherwise, I think I would not do this.
     
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    One can always hope! ;-)
     
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    Who knows? In case of @fatbloke6 his ex found out some years later he'd locked himself, offered to take his keys , did so. and after another year or so upped the ante so he became subservient to him fully. keeping him locked while having he sex life with someone else. Unless of course he was a total fantasist, though I don't think so. Judge for yourself from his profile.
     
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    Not going to lie a ex would be hot. But wont happen now. I have given up looking for a GF to serve goddess @MaidenSyn and give her my full attention

    #verifiedgoodboy
     
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    I am sure she is ace!
     
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    She is ace. In such a short peroid of time she's infected my mind
     
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    I hope you will continue to post as how things progress....:)
     
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    I currently live with my first ex-wife, I have been married 3 times, in a platonic relationship. I live with her to be near our grandkids and so our daughter will let her remain on her remote property. We are both in our 60s. We share a king size bed but there is no intimate relationship taking place. That doesn't mean I don't find her attractive and arousing, as I certainly do. She stated up front there would be no romantic/sexual relationship as she has no attraction to me.
    She doesn't know of my proclivities towards chastity and the like, although she was slightly dominant towards me when we were married some 40 years ago. She would chain me to the bed and dominate me but not much else. I would love for her to be my keyholder.
     
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    It’s whatever works for you!
     
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    I’d do the same
     
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    No way.. chastity keys should be passed on from boys’ mothers to their girlfriends to their future wives.. and madames/mistresses/queens/ goddesses.
     
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