Chastity with exwife or exgirlfriend as keyholder

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    Unusually for me, I have decided to post this as a new thread since there does not appear to be an existing one on the subject, though there are some on Fetlife and also a story about one in Literotica.

    Is anyone here in this situation, or has been or is looking to be? I am keyholder for my ex myself and wonder if there are any others (key holders or wearers) in this situation. It seems a lot less common than I would have expected.
     
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    My ex is the last person on Earth that I would relinquish control to!
     
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    LOL! But would she take control :strong:if she ever got the chance I wonder?
     
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    OH! Yes! Probably if she had taken control back then, we'd likely still be happily together! (Knowing what I have learned ) But now, it would be a revenge thing, I'm sure!
     
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    But what a delicious revenge!:strong: Having you where she wants you right by the ( :eek: - :eek: )

    :lockkey::key::+1:
     
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    It is my current situation.
    After a bad marriage and divorce.
    I met up with an ex-girlfriend, we went out for months, until she discovered my likes about Femdom and chastity.
    Since then we are no longer more couples, we are Mistress and slave.
    I now live as a submissive man, caged, chaste and frustrated.
    She is happy and free to go out with other men.
     
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    This is just the sort of situation I had in mind. She free (and enjoying herself elsewhere to the full) and you not and she able to ensure you cannot be. And does so. And with a bit of lateral thinking can make it wriggle-proof. So she's got you by the balls and won't let go.:strong::strong::strong: As I have with my lockee who is my ex too.
     
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    My ex-girlfriend is the most dominant woman I have ever been with - I would be absolutely terrified to hand over my keys to her (but secretly excited lol)
     
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    I think there are in fact quite a few males like yourself. The fantasy/imagination of being totally denied without the prospect of it ending while she gets fully satisfied elsewhere and there's nothing he can do about it. The scenario is a bit similar to cuckolding, only more so. I shall watch this thread with interest.
    What you could do if you really want to funnel your fear is wear a device, simple steel type, and just happen to mention it casually when you next have contact with her. If your wife still has you locked mention that too. She'll probably be quite curious at least.
     
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    I am in this situation my EX is in fact my keyholder. it's kinda hot and scary beausce I might never get unlocked but recently she gave me a key for emergencies only. also another note is she is enjoying herself while her locked up sissy is waiting at home for her to come with the key or to tell me of her evening ending with me eating her out or giving her a orgasm but overall it's good mix of bad and good since we're trying to work on our vanilla relationship which ended us in the first place. thought I share that I'm in this situation.
     
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    If a person is serious about Chastity and long term lockup than giving your keys to your exwife or exgirlfriend sounds like the perfect choice. Theirs a reason she’s your “X” you may be spending along time Locked or shopping for bolt cutters to have a relationship with someone else. Good Luck to those that go ahead and do this.
     
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    Thanks. I am beginning to wonder whether this scenario is less uncommon than I had envisaged, as I have also had some some similar responses on Fetlife. That she's enjoying himself while ensuring that he can't I am sure can be a massive turn-on for some. It certainly was for me when I first secured my own ex. Any KHs in this scenario here I wonder?
     
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    Amazing thread @Joroincharge ...
    and all those who have contributed to make it what it is!

    My ex never understood my interest in TND/OD.
    But would she hold my key if she had the chance?
    I know the answer is 'no' - because she doesn't 'get' this nor would want to be part of it.

    The lady who got me into 'this' back in college would take my key in a heartbeat ... and probably melt it before my eyes with an oxy-acetylene torch! Okay, I am perhaps being a little over dramatic. Seriously though, s
    he was interested in getting married but I had trouble with commitments at that age. I can see her pretty brown eyes twinkle at the opportunity.

    I tend to agree - that this fantasy is fairly widespread. I am sure that its the root of my desire to add more 'powerlessness' into this part of my life. Its tough to say how long term it would be if it happened ... but then, I wouldn't have a say in that, now would I? Thats the excitement of the fantasy part.

    Metaphorically, I have never been one to test the water with my toe before I dove in ... so, it would be interesting to watch this unfold on myself. I like challenges involving self-discipline ... so those "BAM! Deal with it" tests build my strength and resolve ... bring it on.

    But this - this is different ... and is inviting because it is so ... this isn't so much me getting to practice self-discipline as much as it is me having to 'endure' whatever she has in mind (and I won't be any part of her thought process or decision)!

    That powerlessness that has been the decades-long flame I am a moth to.
     
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    [and by the way, that series in Literotica was interesting to watch unfold.]
     
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    if ex wife had control now...you would have a very smooth femme front :)
     
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    welcome.!! I think it is people just don't come forward enough and want to share personally I feel. yes its pretty fun for us for the mean time but not long term I prefer to get her back hehe. :) and I assume there are some KH here or perhaps fetlife.
     
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    I found the ex as keyholder very tempting mostly for the reason she don't need to **** which makes it exciting. Ironically my always treated me to give the key to my other ex. This always excited me. But maybe the ex thing could also be a sign some have a hard time letting go of the ex.
     
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    I think that would be my situation. She didn't need me locked to go out on me. But locked I'd be tied to her in an unhealthy way. Sometimes I do wonder if she had been honest how things might have evolved--but not her nature. I think you have to totally trust your KH to be at peace with being locked. I imagine others might not agree.
     
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    I wonder would she have wanted this?
     
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    I suspect she might have, just so she could control me, but then again she was not a dominant type.* That was long before there was ever any ideas of chastity and cages.
     
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    I have also found some on FL into this. I am having PMs with two males, one locked recently by his ex (on her initiative) in collaboration with her mother; the other since Feb by her ex's sister (his ex-sister-in law) but at ex's instigation Both ongoing and no prospect of either coming to an end for some time, and in first case ever.
     
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    That sounds like a story too strange to be true, and so so interesting.
     
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    this sounds like a recipe for trouble.
     
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    Yes both are strange. I suppose either or both could be fantasies only, but I don't think so. I can usually spot obvious fakes, but these have all the hallmarks of being true.

    The one who's secured by the ex and mother started because he was so sexually inadequate he could not satisfy her, and after some years her biological clock started to tick and wanted to punish him a bit while she made up for lost time. They also organised a vasectomy for him. pretty much immediately. Mother was especially proactive and he now does chores for both of them.

    The other one had been also a member of FL before when they had been a Dominant couple to others for a time. They split for other reasons and she noticed he'd also a sub side and interested in chastity and also he had an attraction for her sister, which she encouraged, sister being interested in this too.

    Both sets of PMs ongoing so we'll see.
     
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    And BTW I am amazed at the response I've had to this thread I started. :):):)

    Very interested in any F members who've done this.
     
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