Chastity Thoughts

Since the start of the year, I've been working towards being in chastity whenever I'm not with my lady. It's been a bit on and off, but since Monday, except for my morning shower and cleaning, I've been locked up nearly 100% of the time that I wasn't with her or about to be. Day time lock up isn't that difficult. I do find that it helps me avoid masturbating, even though I have the key readily available. It's much more of a pre-mediated event to unlock myself before self-pleasuring. That extra step is enough to help me abstain.

I suppose my purposes for doing are (1) to save myself for her, (2) to maintain that certain arousal buzz that goes along with wearing a device, and (3) feed my submissive urges.

Throughout the week, I've worn the device while in the hot tub, while running on my treadmill, and while working out on my home gym. I wear it when I go out (which is rare these days), and all night. Nights are definitely the most challenging. The first few nights, I sort of tossed and turned, but since then I'm pretty used to it, until the morning erection comes along. That's still a challenge. It's uncomfortable but not painful. Urinating while semi-erect and caged is definitely an event. It takes a while, and requires a folded piece of toilet paper stuffed into the end of my HT device to capture the residual leakage.

I think I'll continue this for a while, and see how it affects my performance with my lady. I'm hopeful that saving myself for her has a positive effect. I'm mindful of some who report difficulty in obtaining erections, or even shrinkage after wearing a cage for extended periods.

Thanks for reading.

JenniferSometimes

 

Last night I broached the subject of chastity with my lady. I told her that I've been experimenting with wearing it, for all the reasons I described earlier. She asked some really good questions, and wants to see it. Maybe later today....

 

Wow, it's been over three years since I've posted here. I thought I would update this thread. My use of chastity has ebbed and flowed over the past few years, but there's been a recent turn of events. My lady has become accustomed to me wearing a chastity device when I chose to do so. She even thinks it was hot, and likes to see me in it. I have suggested on several occasions that I'd like her to be my keyholder, but I didn't want to push the subject.

Well on 03 March she took me up on the offer. She has been my Keyholder for just over two weeks now. The results so far. We're having more intimate time, just being close to each other. We also have more sex and she is climaxing a lot. I think she's had eight since my lock up, and I've had zero since then. That's nine for the month for her and one for me. We both love how it's going so far in this new arena.

 

Today ended three weeks of teasing & denial (T&D)* for me. Let's just say we each had a big release today. I was back in my "armor" as she called it less than 30 minutes later. I hope my refractory period doesn't last too long. Our ratio for the month so far is ten for her, and two for me. It'll be interesting to see how long she has me wait for my next one. I think she'll ask for my input before she decides. I do think she's really liking the whole chastity thing.

* - I know T&D (or TD) is obvious to > 90% of the folks here, this is for the other < 10%.

 

We passed four weeks of nearly full time chastity on Sunday (there were two short breaks for soreness). My lady and I are settling into some standard behaviors.
1. I don't ask to be unlocked since I learned to shower effectively with my cage on.
2. I don't ask for an orgasm. I anticipate that they will be infrequent. I had two in March, counting the one just before she took the keys. My lady had eleven.
3. I am expected to make her breakfast and pack her lunch, and I am happy to serve her in this way.
4. I am eagerly doing more things to please her, in intimate and more ordinary ways. She has given me domestic assignments a few times so far. More to follow, perhaps.
5. She casually checks for my cage whenever she pleases, and enjoys rattling the keys in front of me.

We both love that I am locked and under her control. We're still very early in the game. It is exciting to think about how this may develop.

 

My postings are starting to look like a Journal rather than Forum thread, so I'm moving my ongoing dialog here (still on this site): JennSome's Chastity Journey

 

A little hitch in my git-along. After some extended lock-up time (for me, anyway) in my Kink3D S Wide, and a night of seemingly unending and uncomfortable nocturnal erection attempts, my cock developed some soreness and irritation. So, I am out of it for a while until it gets back to normal. We talked this morning during our cuddling session, and we're both looking forward to returning to my being locked and my lady holding the keys.