Hi all, I've had different devices over the years and my wife and I have played. She has always been lukewarm about it. I've given her books, explained it to her, etc. But she was still just OK with it and basically just tolerate it. She'd hold the key if I put it on then give it back to me if I whined too much. A few months ago, she surprised me by sending me a text to lock it up. I was super excited! It felt real! After a few days, I asked about the key. She quite simply said nope. I thought cool!. After a week, she gave me a key. We had great relations. Yay!. Two days after that another text to lock it up. Then 9 days! When I asked her during that time, she got/still gets quite angry. She says it annoys her and stresses her and I should not ask. Safter the 9 days we had relations, then she reminded me to put it back on. That started in November with a similar pattern. Occasionally, she'll have me pleasure her without unlocking me. I'm orgasming about every 10 days. I don't want to complain to her because selfishly, I am thankful she is doing my fantasy. Unselfishly, I don't want to stress her., because I love her But, it isn't really that fun! For her, it works out great. She gets a few more orgasms out if it, and she doesn't really do anything extra. In fact, she is doing less than what she used to do when we had a normal sex life. She doesn't want to talk about it. She has said I got want I wanted and to stop bugging her. Real chastity, what I had dreamed about is actually quite boring, inconvenient, and it is driving me crazy. It is not what I thought it would be. There isn't much teasing or excitement. I have a MM jailbird with a customization. The head of the cage is mushroomed a bit. The mushroom head allows for no real stimulation. The cage has security screw, so it's not like I can cut the lock and just switch out a new one. I can't pull out. So, it is as real as it can get. Seriously, be careful, not being able to orgasm when you want is awful.