Chastity: Punishment or Privilege?

Hi there,

Generally I view it as punishment over a privilege. I think the reason for that is if I am told not to cum I wont - Simple as that, while being locked up means you have to make adjustments to your life, like sitting to pee, not going for huge nights out due to the public toilet situation, the nighttime erections etc!

Kind Regards,
Darren

 

Chastity is a VERY SPECIAL bond between a wearer and holder. It usually starts off with one person really having the interest in it, usually the guy and usually is caught up on the "fantasy" life of chastity. Once both are fully committed to this life it soon becomes something SO much more frightening to the male. Once he sees just how much his lady LOVES the new life, it will make him second guess what he wanted in the first place. THE KEY HERE is the lady CANNOT back down! She MUST hold strong and true...her chaste boy WILL come around! He will gradually find out how happy his lady has become, he will see a new spark in her and new sparkle in her eyes. This is WHEN IT BECOMES reality for him. He now is in a position of living out HIS dream or deeply upsetting and possibly hurting the lady her began this whole process with. Chastity IS a very emotional trip for both people involved. BUT, it IS A WONDERFUL JOURNEY that both WILL enjoy. Chastity for me...(Madame "E") is my savior! She has brought me full circle. I was a porn surfing PIG only interested in my own pleasures, not any one else. She had broken me of this disgusting PIGGISH behavior and has me focused on pleasing all the ladies in my life in one way or another. She has me appreciating the common, the everyday, the less sexy ladies. What I mean is she has me appreciating just seeing another lady and appreciating the Lady for being JUST A LADY! NOT some sex device or machine. NOT some overly dressed sexy lady who wants to whip you, break you down and use you up. FUN...YES, but I am focused on the average ladies of the world now. The ones that DESERVE to be appreciate and respected for JUST BEING a female!

SORRY...long winded! CHASTITY IS EVERYTHING TO ME! It has made me a MUCH BETTER MALE! I COULD NOT HAVE DONE THIS WITHOUT BEING LOCKED AWAY FROM MY OWN HANDS AND UNDER A LADY SUCH AS WONDROUS AS MADAME "E"!

 

I feel honored to be owned by Goddess P. And very proud that she is my wife . So it is not a punishment to me. To me it is just a part of being owned. Punishment for me is when the crop comes out to play.

 

Recent discussions of much more teasing with a total forfeiture of orgasms and frequent requests to do Her bidding, especially when my plate is already full and She is doing absolutely nothing, give me little endorphin releases. So, I am going to have to say it is a very rewarding privilege.

 

It is a privilege to be in chastity for my wife, to accept the cage, to know that she is using it to help me become a better husband.

 

we need to orgasm often

 

I know it's a punishment for me. It was due to infidelity of having sex with my Wife's girlfriend. My Wife gave me the option of chastity or else, I chose chastity. Believe her gf dimed me out and they are still friends.

 

they all have their reasons

 

I do not see it as a punishment at all.

It is a privilege to be locked by someone you care for deeply that has taken the time and care to look after you in the relationship so you can be the best person you can and return this with devotion and love.

 

Now that's a matter of opinion! A belief not widely held by many Keyholders here (Mrs Chaste included)!

 

I can't think of one person that is, or has ever been, a Key Holder ever agreeing to that.
If we being are honest I don't think many guys on here woul dagree with you either.

 

I can’t speak for the other men here, but I am certain that I never want my beautiful wife to take me over the edge again. I relish the hunger and energy. Don’t get me wrong, I still want to experience being ‘right there’ at the precipice of orgasm, perhaps even screaming to be allowed in the moment, but I never want to experience the post-orgasm downtime again or loosen her ball crushing grip that I crave and she enjoys. We are much better when she says no.

 

I've found that the need to come as a mental thing has gone I do still feel the need to cum physically but that passes. My denial My Lady says is indefinite rather than permanent and she has given her reasons to which I have no argument. It just feels right.

 

For me it is a privilege as she is still kind of feeling her way through her role in it. I stumbled on chastity while stumbling on Edging whole trying to figure out how to mentally and physically learning to last longer before ejaculating so that it would be better for her.

After I started to understand that feeling I had ten minutes after edging the first time I was hooked firmly. Then came the idea of being prevented to do so through chastity. She thought it was weird and probably still does to some degree but she has seen the difference and likes the chaste me’s attitude much better but never really suggests inlock it up. So I will do it on my own once in a while and she always seems pleased when I do so on my own.

Therefore it is a privilege because she tolerates and mildly teases me about it and doesn’t seem to jusdge me for it. Especially after she found out how many people actually get involved in this lifestyle.

Maybe when the little one and the other little one on the way are grown a bit she will want to take a more assertive role in it but that’s her prerogative of course. But I know one thing for sure. Left to my own self unlocked I cannot keep my hands off and it is so annoying!

 

A absolute privilege. I asked for this. Am very happy she has helped me curb my PMO (Porn, Masturbation, Orgasm) habit. Happy about the result and the extra love.

 

It's my privilege to discipline him with chastity.

I also use it as security. If I have to work at the hotel that night and he's going out, he gets locked up.

 

100% privilege for me. To have met a partner that embraces my kinks, that loves me no matter what and accepts my utter devotion to her is definitely a privilege. It’s not perfect what we have, we are still experimenting but not all people would do that with me. She is great, and I thank her everyday.