Chastity: Punishment or Privilege?

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    Some view chastity as a punishment, while others see it as a privilege... of course, there are many shades in between.

    What's it to you?
     
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    I see it as both. A priviledge to be kept for someone elses own use and pleasure and a punishment to deny one's own.
     
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    I think this could centre on the terms of the chasty agreement.

    If you have an agreement which allows you to influence aspects of your chastity to earn your freedom then I would consider that a privledge.

    If the experiance is totally enforced where you are locked and nothing will change that then I would consider that a punishment.

    Others may disagree depending on the relationship with there keyholder. If they are lucky enough to have someone to enforce the control then they would feel privaledged. But I would still consider chastity a punishment as the privledge is having someone to enforce it.
     
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    Putting the forced chastity kink aside, chastity play has to be something the people involved have to agree on. Sure, the process might involve a lot of trial and error, or some pushing and negotiating, but when you get down to its core, it is voluntary. However, the person who ends up locked either actively wants to be locked, or passively agrees to it because the keyholder wants it.

    The first case means that chastity is a pleasure of sorts, in the sense that it makes the lockee happy. Maybe not all the time, that's for sure, but it is a wish fulfilled. That doesn't make it a privilege, though. Doing something I know will make my partner happy doesn't automagically turn that something into a privilege.

    In a similar vein, the second case doesn't have to be punishment as such. It might be simply a case of you doing something you're not exactly happy about but you do it anyway because you know it will make your partner happy.

    Of course, the best scenario is the one where *both* sides enjoy the play. But even I wouldn't talk about privilege.

    And me? I certainly don't call it punishment.
     
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    To me it is the epitome of privilege.

    To be able to decide to wear a device, and give the key away, takes a great deal of wanting. It should also include a great deal of trust, if it is to be more than a game. To have the culmination of these ingredients one must also have a somewhat stable day to day, a bit of a schedule. To have that one must also have a degree of privilege indeed. The punishment or bondage is actually the icing on the cake. If done properly, sexual euphoria can be achieved at much higher levels than without chastity. The pleasure from denial seems to be an oxymoron, but it is actually more of a spring board to a sexual peak. And who doesn't love amazing orgasms? The key holder has the job, much less the privilege, of choosing when that peak is to be. A smart key holder wields that to their advantage, of course, still more a task than the privilege of being kept, but I digress. In conclusion, my chastity arrangement affords me no release at the moment, but that is exactly what I wished for. So it is privilege, a very complicated but very sexually satisfying privilege.
     
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    Ms Breathe, for myself it is more of a privilege to be Owned and under the Care and complete Control of a beautiful Woman.
     
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    Privilege absolutely..... for me! The privilege to control, direct, abuse, humiliate.Tailor-made for the cruel Domme/KH in his life:)
     
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    I have been under my wife's control for a number of years, and only just recently been locked up, I hope I will consider it to be a privilege given time
     
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    I find the my whole relationship with Mrs Chaste a privilege! The fact that she was even interested in me all those years ago, then she actually wanted to be married to me "till death do us part", something we both take very seriously! She wanted me to be the father of our daughter. All these things are a privilege to me. And then after years together when the " fun" was starting to wane in the bedroom she agreed to lock me in chastity. Now I'm locked and teased and permitted to give her more orgasms than ever before! And Mrs Chaste tells me I'm kept locked for my own safety as well, to protect me from other women who might try to destroy our marriage. It is definitely a privilege to be with such a woman. She cares for me and looks after me in the many traditional and vanilla ways of marriage and has embraced the chastity lifestyle we have how could I not feel privileged to be with her? And to be chaste, just for her?
     
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    it is always a privilege. it is difficult to remain chaste, and to respect the commitment but it is done as a gesture of love, not as punishment
     
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    I want it to be a punishment to fulfil my fantasy of chastity, but then to fulfil a fantasy it has got to be privilege. Now I am under her control and at her whim, it is definitely a privilege to make her happy and for her to lead the lifestyle the way she wants.
     
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    Totally a privilege!
     
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    Yes @jessamine38 it is a Priveledge, Pleasure and a Punishment. And it's Fantastic. Welcome to the Mansion
     
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    We did not need to discus this for long at all. We both agree for us it is a priveledge for us both.
     
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    It's certainly a privilege to serve the Feminine Divine and chastity - or practising high levels of orgasm control, semen retention - is a way for a male to achieve that state of awareness. That's what is important to me anyway. Nothing to do with punishment.
     
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    We hung back on this thread, watching and thinking. Our response is that chastity is neither, for us its a way of living. None of us are punished, and to be honest none of us feel privileged either. We all simply enjoy our lives, nobody feels superior or inferior to anything else.

    Wrong answer?!

    J&J
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    There is no wrong answer, just a different one. That's the beauty of it really!
     
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    As above there is no right or wrong answer.
    For us it can be both depending on the circumstances and the lenght of time locked.
     
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    I could see how chastity lock up is a privilege, their partner is not really into it and doing it for him. Thus being kept locked is by in large a favor.

    Since my kh actually enjoys keeping me locked even more than I do, me being locked is more of a natural state and not a punishment, and unlocking is the privilege...not considered a right but a gift.

    On the other hand, if she felt slighted or miffed about something, I could see her using it as a punishment. We were playing last week and I slapped her butt a few times, and when she was getting out of bed. I was about to do it again and she said “one more time and you’ll be caged for a year”. That would be an example.
     
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    I see it as neither. Speaking from the perspective of a Female Dominant male submissive relationship, for me it is the power exchange element . The male is giving the Female the ultimate control over his sexuality - his orgasms are no longer his. She controls when and if he is allowed release, while She can orgasm at will.
     
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    I don't see chastity as either a punishment or a privilege; just a method of power exchange and and extension of communication. When I'm locked, I can feel her control over me continuously but especially when I get aroused by various things. It is a constant reminder of my total submission and commitment to Her. We used to do chastity on the "honor system" until I betrayed that trust and so the cage was deemed necessary to prevent my wanking. SInce She cannot trust me nor be there to monitor my every movement, the cage is just a necessary implement with which She enforces Her control.
     
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    Best answer so far, in my opinion.
    Male chastity is a way to store and transmute all the energy that is produced in the powerhouse, making it possible for the chasted to achieve a higher level of awareness.
     
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    Your answer isn't wrong. It reflexes your relationship and I allot of ways I agree it's away of life and even when I am punished it's not really punishment since its for my better good. Thanks for sharing your Unique view point.
     
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    A privilege... all day long. ;)
     
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    Both

    The privilege was serving her and her dominating me to make me submissive so I'd serve her better. Sort of a continuous feedback loop.

    The punishment was ever present. First putting the cage back on when you wanted one more good orgasm. The pain of night time erections. Those days when you're crazy horny and just want out. Those days when you get moody or depressed and you don't know why. Punishment day :eek:.
     
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