Chastity on the Honor System (without a cage)

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    I've been chatting with a few friends who want to go the chastity route sans a physical device. I don't think I'm at the place right now in my journey that I could accomplish that without slipping.

    What strategies work for you in keeping yourself pure / chaste while going extended periods without a cage?
     
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    I need my cage. Guess I'm weak. I do so much better when I'm in my cage. Much easier to follow her rules
     
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    My wife expects me to be chaste without a cage. We end up having sex about once every 3 or 4 weeks. It was challenging initially but now i have gotten used to it. I hardly ever touch my cock apart from during showers. I’ve also gotten the hang of suppressing my erections, I can’t explain exactly how, but I try and suck in my balls if I feel the arousal. Probably a better explanation out there but that’s the feeling I can describe.

    The flip side is, I last about a minute now, I used to last longer during frequent sex. I am about 6-7” hard and my wife loves it but we also partake in SPH play and though I fill her up, she verbally humiliates me during play time. “You think you can make it big for me?” Or “you think you’re big enough for me?” Or “I need a big cock baby..” are some of her go-to lines.

    Long story short, yes, chastity can be done without a cage but it is incumbent on you to follow through.
     
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    If I wear eye glasses long enough will I eventually not need them? I suppose I could test it out while driving someday.
    When I get stressed, sick, or tired I lose most of my sexual interest and stop wearing the cage. The result is I find I still need it.
     
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    I need my cage as well, also madam loves the cage as she enjoys the discomfort and predicaments it causes, as well as the physical restriction and control she has over my body.
     
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    You wanted that game (chastity). Simply embrace it!
     
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    As with all addictions, the most useful thing is to remove yourself from the situations when you would ordinarily indulge. So keep yourself busy and avoid periods when you're on your own. When showering, concentrate on getting in and out as quickly as you can. And focus on her want, which is for you to obey her. Think about the disappointment you would both feel if you broke that verbal contract. Good luck.
     
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    My wife doesn’t like the cage so I do as much on the honor system as possible. When I feel at risk, I self lock and give the key to my wife and that works pretty well for us.
     
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    I had to promise her that I would tell her if I ever came without her permission. That was a year and a half ago, I think. So far, so good.
     
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    Before chastity I was addicted to masturbating every little time I felt stressed I'd wanna masturbate so yeah I need my cage can't go without
     
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    I'm on the honor system. I'm also allowed to watch porn as long as it is Femdom, FLR, or involving male subs. I'm also allowed to edge myself. However, ejaculation let alone orgasms are forbidden. My Owner trusts me enough so that She would know I d confess any infractions to Her. I think She allows me to do those things because She knows the frustration from not coming only makes me more subservient.

    So being very submissive or as in my case being enslaved helps ensure adherence to the chastity commitment - plus beatings and other punishments of course.

    We now have a full belt, so things changed. We are currently experimenting with it and an anal opening still needs to be installed. So far it is a good feel though and doesn't come with the anatomical challenges ball-trap devices had. The fit is also pretty good, not too loose or too tight. An easy locking mechanism, and very visible when nude. It is also easier to attach bells to the device. With more delicate panties the lock and any sharper parts may need to be taped off a bit though. In pants it is slightly bulkier, but that just adds to the humiliation. The goal is to lock me in it permanently unless my Wife wants to play with Her penis.
     

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    I appreciate those that feel the honor system is for them, but for me its bondage that led me to chastity. Being locked up while out in the world is a real visceral experience…..
     
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    Yep i need to be locked
     
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    I can definitely relate to that. I was drawn to bondage experiences before we started chastity, and isn't locking it up a form of bondage? LOL

    I am on the honor system currently as I have a longer than expected recover from some surgery. Fortunately, my commitment to Mistress is strong enough to keep from doing things with her property that I'm not allowed to do. I do miss the cage (bondage) though. It's kind of like wearing her collar in lieu of a collar around my neck.
     
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    Love how this cage looks. It appears far more dainty and dare I say ‘feminine’ that your typical full belt.
    I’m assuming there are straps holding it in place underneath as you can’t see them. if my penis never downsizes to a place my cage isn’t secure may invest in one. I’m still dubious of the rear straps causing too many issues so I’d like to know how you get on with it after it’s modified.
    Where did you find it?
     
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    We were trying to find a full belt so didn't want to go too expensive right away. Luckily this was a good fit. There is an anal opening for restroom use and pegging. The strap connects from the bottom like a tong. Since the belt rests on the pelvic bone, getting out without key is not really recommended. The fit is not too tight but also not too loose. My Wife and i are not into feminization but She loves seeing her boy in cute panties and restraints occasionally; just as masculine, just sexually objectified. The tube allows for semi erections but nothing more, so getting horny is totally possible but that's about it; its also what my Owner enjoys, seeing me squirm for sluttyness.

    https://www.aliexpress.com/item/100...5516685574690086320ea44c!12000028217610521!sh
     
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    Since we started this whole chastity play with my wife in July, I'm on the honour system since I was unable to find an off-the-shelf device that would fit me. She gave me 2 full orgasms and 3 ruined ones since July, and I did not masturbate once.

    I used to masturbate watching a bit of porn perhaps once a week, in parallel to our sex life together, so I guess I did not fall into the category of "really addicted to porn and masturbation", although I did have some kind of porn addiction many years ago in my teen and twenties.

    Thus I feel like I have no real difficulty in committing to the honour system, since my urge to relieve myself is not as strong as the delight I get from giving up control to my wife.

    BUT I've still ordered a custom device from Red Chili that I'm expecting in a few weeks because :
    - the cage will not only give control to my wife on my orgasms, but also on my erections, and I think it's really a step above ;
    - the whole idea of her owning the key and having to lock / unlock me is arousing for both of us.

    So, for me anyway, a cage is not mandatory but it will certainly be the icing on the cake.
     
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    Honestly, wearing a cage is a lot of effort but at the end the chaste man loves it.

    However the honor system is as well a big effort as we are programmed to cum and we always think about that. The honor system could be a great way to show commitment and to show the willingness of going pure for the lady. Open communication is a must and I think if you are mature enough you will never cheat while in the honor system. Simply you do not continue this relationship will the "keyholder".
     
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    I just don't think I could do it. The amount of sexual activity we have now is more than we've ever experienced in our married life. If I was uncaged, I'd be unable to stop myself from having an orgasm. She has gotten so good at teasing me, she gets me to the TFD state even on days when I'm not really feeling up to it. The cage is the only thing that stops me from going over the edge. That would lead to a lot of behavioral drops and then much less sexual activity. Which would have me being tempted to masturbate. And then we'd be back where we started.

    The honor system sounds romantic. It has this noble appeal. But I'm like a drug addict; if you keep showing me the goods, keep giving me little tastes of the product, very quickly I'm going to cave and take the whole thing and keep coming back for more!
     
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