Chastity Mansion membership and consent.....

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  1. Mascara^Snake
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    How many of you log in here and read and chat and post without your wife/partner/keyholders knowledge/consent?

    How many of you have partners etc who are aware of your participation here and what do they think of your participation?
     
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    Nicoftime The suspense is terrible...I hope it lasts

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    Mine knows and often aks me "whatcha doing?cm?" as I tap away at my phone.

    She's a member here, gets notified of all my posts, and comments occasionally.

    She never really got into making friends here or contributing...she was bombarded with a lot and found it was easier to just check in occasionally.

    I actually like when she does, she gets a pretty good idea of what I'm thinking, a more detailed account of how I'm feeling and how I perceive things.
     
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    I post and read. Ian reads. What does he think about my participation? Cool with it, but when he reads some of the more extreme ideas he goes very pale!
     
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    Catbond Aka Professor Mittens, aka Fluffy.

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    She knows and is fine with it, she likes the fact that i get to socialize with like minded people :p She also is registered on CM but only come around to read posts.
     
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    Cat, I thought all Frenchmen were kinky as hell. Isn't your whole country likeminded?

    Also, I think LadyS thinks when I post that:
    A) I'll make an ass of myself
    B) I'll offend
    C) I'll get banned
    D) All of the above
    She mostly just laughs at me or shuts me down.

    I like that she posts on here it's helped her grow a lot and she's made some friends :)
     
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    Catbond Aka Professor Mittens, aka Fluffy.

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    @Steve-0 That's a legend most likely, we're very uptight when it comes to unconventional sexuality. We're mean and like to mock people, so no i don't bother exchanging with fellow frenchmen :p
     
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    I simply can't imagine why.....
     
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    My wife has chatted with some ppl on here she knows I am on her. She has been opening up since being on here and she has been interested in how ppl look at the lifestyle. For me its been a good thing. Its been nice talking to like minded and open ppl, also nice being able to talk about desires with others.
     
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    Not sure my submissive wife knows about this specific site, but chastity as a subject has been brought up. She has shown little interest in the subject. In our playroom my chastity device is out with the other toys, so it's pretty obvious. Also, she has free rein on my computer and I know she has researched other interests of mine, such as prostate milking. She does know I am looking for a FemDom. She has put me in bondage in the past at my request, but it's not who she is and I can tell not into it.
     
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    My wife knows or knew I was on here but she has no interest in chastity other then my wearing a device! I bought a book about male chastity and left it in the bedroom and I noticed she had looked at it! I asked what she thought about it and she said she had no interest in someone elses opinion! I find it interesting reading others thoughts personally and often erotic!
     
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    My wife doesn't know about my membership here. She has long had the attitude that my internet usage is my "playground" where I am free to be me and not babysat by her.

    She doesn't really want to know what I do on the internet as long as I'm not doing anything bad. She knows that I have always found porn boring and have never been one to visit those sites. So, the majority of my internetting is visiting news and motorsports sites.

    She might be a little uncomfortable with me visiting here, but I wouldn't let her stop me. She never wants to discuss anything sexual, so this is my outlet for that. This is my place where I get to have those conversations with people who are more willing to speak or listen about sex and chastity.

    Since I have been visiting here, I don't try to have conversations with her all the time about how I feel. And that's a good thing. She felt very overwhelmed at first with how frequently I wanted to discuss it. Once I found an outlet for all of that, I stopped pestering her about it and she is happier. She just doesn't know why I quit being such a bother. As far as she knows, I just accepted that chastity is going to be my life and I must have finally gotten over it.

    She has a journal where she writes down her feelings and frustrations, etc. This place serves the same purpose for me. Plus I can interact with real people who can give feedback on questions I have. A journal can't do that.
     
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    My Mistress knows and incouages me to make posts. She goes on periodically using my login just to see what's happening but in her words. " I see no reason that I have to post anything "
     
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    My K/H knows I come on here, often times she will be sitting right next to me while I'm looking. She will ask me about some things, but has no desire to join or have a look around on her own. She's just not the forum or social media type.
     
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    Elle knows I post here, and knows I keep a journal. She joined briefly but didn't get involved. She sees the Mansion as an important outlet for me, it relieves the pressure and gives me somewhere to discuss chastity, share ideas. I occasionally tell her about the more interesting posts. Sometimes she gets me to read out one of my journal posts to her as she likes the way I describe what she does to me. She was shocked about how detailed I could get but not upset. As long as I keep her anonymity secure she is cool with it.
     
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    Was about to answer in depth, but @Nicoftime wrote a perfect answer that covers me and Mrs also.
     
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    My wife knows I read and post here occasionally. She does not participate.
     
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    Very much the same trend here; my Wife/KH @n2toys is aware and also will look over at my while on the laptop and ask "What are ya doing?? ;)"

    I tag Her on a regular bases (like now... :D) and she'll log on just to catch up on my thoughts, usually on Saturdays in preparation for a play night - She'll occasional post or reply but more of a lurker.
     
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    My wife knows I take part at the Mansion. I sometimes mention a post of particular interest to me. But she also has the view "why should i care what others do/think" and rarely talks about our sex life. It is a bit curious: she is incredibly openminded about sexuality and has (with me) energetically supported political campaigns against discrimination on grounds of sexual orientation. Also she
    Interacts with many campaigning groups on the internet on many issues. Maybe she thinks sex is just too personal to be influenced by others. She likes "chastity sex" and male orgasm denial, end of.
     
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    I like this post I often wonder the same thing.
    Especially about all the submissive males who "live" for thier wives but live on here, talk to all the sissys like they are the best thing walking around, ignore the real women, or just sit around showing themselves off all the time(Drives me nuts listening to all those ones).
     
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    I've tried to get my wife to participate here, she has always declined. I think it would help her open up about our sex life a bit more. She never really wants to talk about it, not sure why. I think we are really close to trying chastity again, maybe I can propose she join here again just for research purposes ;).
     
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    With the exception of the female members on this board, I think most women in general feel very uncomfortable discussing anything sexual. My wife certainly does. She'll gladly discuss anything from politics to the bodily functions of our baby, but if you bring up anything sexual she quickly changes the subject.
     
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    Nicoftime The suspense is terrible...I hope it lasts

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    I believe different generations have different outlooks on sex.

    I was married to someone my age and sex was not discussed...except the lack there of. If new things were incorporated it wasn't talked about before hand, it was just tried. Asking for lube, or if I was in yet is as verbal as it got.

    Fast forward to now, I'm with someone 8 years younger, and she has no problem talking about, bringing up, or asking for sex. Even the activities are different...oral (before chastity) was daily instead of once a year or less, experimenting with toys or aids was encouraged without stigma, and dirty talking during happens almost every time, as well as talking about it after. Giving head has somehow become a given, like kissing. Also, Anything anal is more open minded and fun, and not some dirty taboo act.

    Even pubic hair has changed...women in their thirties are pretty much free of pubic hair, and they don't find it taboo or dirty, just the way it supposed to be. My generation trimming is about as far as they groom in general.

    When I brought up chastity and that I was sexually submissive, she was game to try without batting an eye, she wasn't sure if she would like it or that she would be capable of living this way, but she was surely down to try without feeling awkward or upset. It was more like sure let's give it a try. And if she wouldn't have liked it it would have ended just as quickly, also without batting an eye.

    I know one thing for sure, chastity has helped me discuss sex openly, because it's not just women that get tight lipped about sex. Constantly horny and needy pushes me to communicate about sex, my needs, and desires. I would never be able to communicate like this without it.
     
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    I have often told or emailed my wife things I read here or on other forums, to give her ideas. I often tell her about things I read on this forum because she will not visit a sex forum on her own. I want her to know that others do as we do and how they do it. I would think that those who do not do what they say they do, would hide what they do from their spouses who do not do the same as they do. That was a lot of do do's. :)
     
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    My wife knows I participate a lot on CM. She has registered and has a her own user name/account. I know she's come on and read posts as she has told me as much, but I don't think she's ever posted herself. Mainly shy about the concept of communicating about something she see's as private and a healthy paranoia that whatever is posted online is out there forever and the veil of anonymity can be pierced. I'm at a point where I don't care about the second concern and have never had an issue with the first.
     
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    My Miss knows that I have friends here. Sometimes she sees the replies to posts on my cell phone. She laughs and it gets here wheels turning. She is never mad or upset with my interactions here. I've told here about a few stories and friends I've made. She trusts me and I try not to take advantage of that.
     
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