Chastity makes me feel like more of a man how about you?

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Does chasity make you feel like more of a man?

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    I was just reading the thread "does having a small penis makebyou feel like less of a man?".

    That got me thinking about the question "what does make you feel like more of a man?" I suppose that question all depends on what your definition of a man is.

    After being locked for well over 3 years and having undergone many changes in my way of thinking my definition of what a real man is has changed, or at least has been altered. I see chivalry as being a main component among many other things but ultimately what makes me feel most like a man is making my mistress feel like the goddess she is. I'm not talking anything necessarily sexual, I mean making her the number 1 priority of the number 1 priorities in my life. My mistress being happy because of my behavior and life choices makes me feel like a man, therefore being in chastity for my mistress makes me feel like more of a man.

    What you makes you feel like more of a man? Or for the ladies what do you see as the makings of a "real" man?
     
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    I agree, I feel like a man when My Love is happy! Her happiness makes me feel like a good husband, a good Sub and a great man.
    When Her friends are jealous, you must be doing something right!
     
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    so long as it improves the relationships foundation, i view it as making me more of a man and filling more of my duties as a husband
     
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    My thoughts exactly
     
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    Chastity to me had brought out my feminine side more. I don’t feel more manly at all Infact rather the reverse
     
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    Being locked has no effect upon my self-image as a man.
     
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    Does it make me feel like a better person? Probably.
    Does it make me feel like a more complete and balanced person? Certainly.
    Does it make me feel like more of man? Certainly not!

    But it’s not pejorative at all in my opinion.

    I think deep inside, I am 50% masculine, and 50% feminine; but the conditioning of society makes my masculine side take charge and overpower the feminine side, that can’t really express it self the way it should.

    Chastity naturally shuts down parts of that masculinity, and brings back the 50/50, that I believe is my original design.

    In return, I feel more balanced, calmer, smarter, and more attentive and kind. Just a well rounded person.
     
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    Giles_English Chaste slave

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    Weird. Yes. Now I have to think about this.
     
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    Another good question I didn't directly pose in the original post would be "has your definition of what makes a man changed? " there are the males view of what makes a man and then their is the female view of what makes a man. I'm sure they differ quite a bit if you were to take a poll and ask that question. I feel like more of a man in my mistress's view based on what she likes in a man and the changes I've undergone over 3 years.

    Even if you're being feminized and visually less "manly"you're becoming more of what your domme wants and in that case it might make you the perfect man in their eyes.

    So I guess the original question is more complicated than I originally thought lol.
     
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    What constitutes a man is a very hard to answer question.
    There he is biologically.
    There is what society and norms tell him he must be.
    The separation between one and the other is very hard to determine. We would need to see what men are without any conditioning, to have a better idea.

    Then there is the idea of what a good man is according to our partners which is very subjective.
     
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    Your hit the nail on the head
     
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    a good orgasm makes me feel like a man!!
     
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    Becoming a feminist, empowering my feminine equal to a very strong masculine one and understanding the needs and requirement to embrace both sides equally and fairly makes me a real man.

    Taking the sheer raw sexual energy (it is not a joke when physically fit I was a guy that could go twice a day full out for hundreds of days at a go and when really horny 3-6 times a day where my partner was satisfied and so was I. I have even achieved multi-orgasmic levels in some occasions.

    So that share was to show that I have a rare gift of a very high libido that I can use and utilize on my partner, and when not I can use to better myself and all others that are around me to the best of their ability.

    In the old days it was called chivalry. What I see it now is embracing service to others to enable them to be the best person's they can be. I take joy in seeing women feel free and empowered, POC not feeling shackled by institutional racism, embracing the CAD body with DAD views to make my partner lose her self.

    I also know I am flawed, wrong, and can communicate poorly. So these are areas where I work on my feminine side balanced with my masculine strength and loyalty and patience.

    A chastity belt is not needed for that, self control and composure is. Now don't get me wrong, it is a device with an immense fun factor to it, but if your partner has to rely on a device to have their partner comply, it speaks volumes about the relationship.

    Women desire men to wear an invisible chastity belt when partnered up and they want the mind to be the device, not a piece of plastic, or surgical grade steel first and foremost.

    The real reality is for us guys (presuming traditional CIS views), when a women feels safe, empowered, independent and free, there is no way that a man will be able to keep up with her. The only way is if she is physically out of shape or ill. Conversely, in a non-binary sense, for those dear souls that are born a male that have a strong female spirituality and transform themselves to be really feminine. They are a gift to quite a few men because they understand the biological issues men have that women have no idea or clue about, but also have the packaging that says ... I get you, I know you, and I can line up with you to bring your inner male out completely.

    Porn, heavy masturbation, and living in a pure fantasy life is chastity for quite a few people in our society. They don't seem to realize that their hand, or devices are neutering them from embracing with their true opposite male or female spirit.

    That being said, if a man uses chastity to stop "getting off" to ensure purity for their partners, or to stop the "neutering of spirit" ... then great it does make the person a better man, but it is a set of training wheels to help him step up.

    Do note masturbation isn't evil or bad and is ok, and so is porn and fantasies. Just don't rely on it like the informational crack that it is. The women that are on CM are fantastic souls, they should be cherished, empowered, and appreciated. Be strong men .... help each other and respect each other ..... and if you can't :) then lock it up and give the key to a strong and independent woman :)
     
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