Hi, I am from Montreal and my wife has introduced chastity to me about 3 years ago. Like many guys I have a masturbation problem and my wife got tired of it and found the perfect solution. She had consulted the wonderful internet for guidance and she found lots of info about chastity cages. She then ordered one and 3 years ago she sat me down and explained that she thought this would be a good thing for me and her. I agreed with her that because I was always masturbating I did not had sex with her that often and my focus was not on her as it should be. We discussed all the terms and details of how she would like to try this and we started. The main reason she wanted me to wear the chastity cage at first was that I kept my self for her and her only. It worked and we had sex regularly. Like once a week. Then she became more and more dominant with me has I was becoming more and more submitted to her. To hold the key gave her more power and she really liked it. She always was abit of a boss already but this gave her more strength. I developed a huge submission side towards her and loved the way it felt. In the past 3 years our relationship really evolved and chastity became a lifestyle. My wife is not into bdsm biut she has a few sex things she likes to do. She loves pinching my nipples and we have developed love for cbt. She gets off squishing my balls really hard. She does dress sexy for me when she wants to tease me or we she wants to have sex. Higheel boots, leather, corsets... She also loves to make me do chores around the house. For the past 2 years I’ve been doing all the cleaning of the house. All of it. She takes care of cooking. It has become natural for her to leave her stuff all over the house has she knows I will take care of it. I don’t even think she does it anymore on purpose its just natural. Has for the chastity cage, I do wear it most of the time. In the past year I would say that I am wearing it 80% of the time. In the past few months it been more like 95% since she has given me the task to always lock-up right after sex since she always forgot. In the past 6 months we have been having sex abit less has she openly admited that she bought a new vibrator and that she loves it. I admit I have not the biggest cock. So my lock up time without release as increased to about 2 to 3 weeks at a time. I’m getting used to it but I become frustrated at the end. She has admited to me that it has become natural for her to see the cage on me and when she sees my cock without it she feels strange. I do masturbate as soon as I have the chance bit it’s becoming harder and harder to have the opportunity. So I have been locked since October 1st. Yes she knows about Locktober but that does not mean that much for her. My fantasies are to see her have sex with someone else or cuckolding. I also like to sometime dress up in latex, leather and sissy type clothes. I love wearing heels. My wife is not aware of this side of me. She does know that I have a fetish for feet, higheel and latex.
hello and welcome. You seem to have a very good thing going with your wife, so be very careful about bringing up your other fantasies, which are a bit more extreme and may not be to her taste. Don't spoil a good thing... good luck
Hello to you, These are just fantasies and I know that realizing them will probably never happen and this more than ok. If anything would happen it would be her deciding to explore different things. take care
Welcome to our community. You seem like a perfect addition as you've learned the proper way, is to please your KH. Continue to have open communications with her and if you want to bring up your other desires, be ready for what they may produce . If you phrase them as fantasies it maybe okay but your KH seems to realize it is really her needs that are most important.
Thanks I love pleasing her in every way. I know she likes it very much and that’s why she loves having me in chastity and focus on her. I really believe that communication is the best way to open up your relationship. When you realize that her needs are the most important thing it becomes much more easy to face changes. Thanks for your comments.
Hi MrsAnne, Happy to see also that I’m not alone. I definitely think that there is more couple that we think that are using a chastity cage in Mtl. I was reading your introduction and I would definitely agree that after we have an orgasme we change and not for the best. I admit that I don’t become unpleasant to my wife but I do get really lazy right after I cum. And my wife found out that even after we had sex I would ended up masturbating right after. So for the past 6 months I’m locked back in my cage right after sex. I do miss masturbating but I understand that this is best. I would love to follow you if this is ok with you.
Hello, My husband gets lazy to after an orgasm. I was hoping by limiting his orgasm during intercourse would solve the problem, but no. He would also masturbate as soon as I fell asleep. He couldn't control himself. Anyway, those days are behind us. Now, he's much better and improving everyday. Is your wife on CM too ? And yes, it would be my pleasure if you'd like to follow me MrsAnne
Welcome to the mansion. It’s nice to read about your development into being Locked 90% of the time. When we first start our wives wonder why in the world you want that thing on your cock and than as time progresses and they see the benefits things change. It becomes more like “Why don’t you have your cage on”. The progression of Chastity. The time may come as it has for some of us already that you don’t even think about not having your cage on. It becomes a part of who you are and your wives thought could be something like this “I use to have a key for that cage but I have no idea where it is, O well why would I ever need it “ Enjoy your Chastity Journey no matter where it/ she leads you.
Hi MrsAnne, Sorry for the late reply. So you lock your husband right after sex? Or he doesn’t get unlocked at all. No my wife is not on CM and she does not know I’m on it. I do wish she was on it but I don’t think it would interest her.
Hi Mash2214, You are absolutely right about that it becomes “Why don’t you have your cage on”. I do feel that having my cage on is natural and most of the times I forget its on. It is quite comfortable. My wife always wear her key attached to her bra. Does she keep you lock 24/7?
Hello, it depends on my mood but most of the time, we do what I call, one way sex. When I do let him out, he definitely doesn’t get to orgasm. And yes, lately, it’s straight back in no matter how much he wines. MrsAnne
Been locked 24/7 99.99% of the time. Every once in awhile she takes the cage off for some reason. It’s totally random and doesn’t happen very often
Hi there. Your situation sounds a lot like mine with my other half. I'm generally locked a similar amount of time as you are, but we haven't progressed to straight back in after release. That's difficult in itself because I know I'm not allowed to 'waste' but it's on me to follow the rules often unsupervised. It doesn't feel very submissive if I have a choice. Also, we're at a similar unlock rate about once a week but this can extend to a couple of weeks depending on life. I'm feeling all those conflicting emotions of laziness and generally not being very submissive and I hate them, so I'm hoping by joining this site and ironing out any issues which are really excuses I can become a better partner.
One way sex is a good way to call it. My wife has definitely adjusted her self in the past year. Before, I used to make sure I cum as soon as possible making sure that I get my orgasm but my wife put a stop to this. Now before I get unlocked I have to take care of her needs. She now always get to orgasm before me and 50% of the time I do not get unlocked. I think that this is the hardest thing I have to endure and I get frustrated. You might think its funny but when I get to cum after 2 to 3 weeks Its so intense that I drop a few tears.
Hi guys, just wanted to give an update. its been one month already since my first writing on here. I’m still in chastity and a bit frustrated sexually but very happy and proud that I have been locked for almost 50 days without sex. I know, its weird but probably not for many of you. I was sure that I was going to get some PIV before the end of October but no. She says to me that she is very proud and happy of what I have accomplished. I really miss having PIV with her even if during the pass 50 days I had the chance of doing everything else to her. To help my mind I have stop all porn but I get hard for the smallest things. I get “hard” when I see her dress sexy or wear sexy heels. I get “hard” as soon as she touches me. I even get “hard” when I talked to other sexy women. But I still do feel very good about my self and I’m not sure if I’m ready to be released. Its a strange feeling of wanting to be denied PIV for even longer. anyway, this is what is going on right now.
Congratulations. it makes me happy when I see relationships going in the right direction when it comes to wives pleasure. My hubby had stop watching porn to ease up on his frustration. But frustration is extremely important to keep hubby in the right sub space. so after awhile, I decided to give him some porn homework for example, he has to find a scene where the man is going down on a lady who has a red g-string. it drives him crazy and I love it.