Chastity cage, a pleasurable, symbolic reminder of your relationship rather than unescapable device…

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    I realized after few years of chastity irregular practice that for those who are not ready for PA piercing, urethal plug or other radical means there is no long-term device that truly prevents partial penis release, at least when flaccid. Most sexshops, cage manufacturers, blogers, sex consultants don’t tell the truth: that majority of chastity cages are merely toys, or rather pleasurable symbols of your will, love and devotion, a BDSM play or whatever… you could fantasize in connection to this constant presence of cage on genitals, a tension, weight, confinement, not forgetting all technical complications at toilets, security checks etc. It’s a marvellous invention, that could release butterflies to fly in stomach , constantly remind your partners’ embrace, revoke best sex shared in the past and bring delicious expectancies of future...

    It might bring you a splendid state of beeing above everyday reality around you. It enriches your imagination. It could strenghten connection and intimacy with your partner.
    But it will never prevent masturbation or even sex with somebody else, if you are not truly faithful in your mind to the KH or your own oath of chastity.
    It’s a question of your mind, not of technical security ;)
     
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    I could not agree with you more. As someone that has been in a FLR relationship with my wife for about seven years(married for 20) Chastity has been a major part of our dynamic and we have had several devices over the time. Finally landing on a tube only secured with a frenum piercing.

    We have come to view it as our special wedding ring. It is a symbol of our relationship and my respect and devotion to her. Although being tube only I could give myself an orgasm but I would never betray her trust and the promise I have made to her.

    So in the end all fantasy aside my being in mostly permanent chastity is simply a symbol of my devotion to my wife like a ring or tattoo etc.
     
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    I understand your post as supporting my view that no cage is “secure” for persons/couple rejecting any genital piercing (a case that I referred to).
     
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    This topic always ends badly. I don't cum because I'm told not to. The cage is just a reminder our agreement as they all are.
     
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    I basically agree and I assume, that cheating would become visible mostly. But hooking up the penis and using a numbered safety seal is very symbolic as well.
     
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    Yes a reminder of our love. And the cage just feels good to me. It's what broke my mindless, masturbation habit
     
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    Have you tried any cage offered by steelworxx.de? I love some carefully designed look, it’s quite an amount of money, is it worth it?
     
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    Thanks for the link. 300USD is more than 179Euro. Its mire ir less similiar price ;) it must be for craftsmanship. Im european steelworks us here.
     
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    Yes, for 99.9 per cent of us this is true.
     
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    Totally agree. My Mistress knows I do not have to be locked to ensure I don't touch myself, but the cage is a symbol of our relationship.
     
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    I’ve worn a wedding ring for soon to be 50 years. It has acted as a security device in a purely symbolic way. My cage does the same.
     
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    Totally agree. Nothing is inescapable, but being caged is very symbolic of who is in charge.

    Our agreement is that I'm not allowed to cum without her permission, regardless of if she decides to lock me or not.
     
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    The difference is that wedding ring is a symbol visible for every potential lover. Cage is hidden. Its only a reminder for you, and last resort deterrence in case you try sex with somebody else ;) Both are symbols of your KH, wife or partner’s discrecy over your sexual freedom.
     
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    Well said. I try to tell new guys that you can orgasm in any cage, even if pierced just by using a vibator. Also tell them it is easy to pull out unless you are pierced. I try to impress upon them that if they want to last longer than a week or two in chastity, will power and self control is needed I have been at this for 20 years on the honor system and 15 locked. No penetration sex for more than 35 years. My wife is bi and likes men for everything but sex so chastity works for us. She could care less if I orgasm but does feel sorry when my balls are full and will ask me if I would like to orgasm after a month or two. I tell her no because the few seconds of pleasure I get from an orgsam is not worth starting over again dealing with ten days of my hormones building up urging me to orgasm again. Most guys do not know that after they orgasm their body wants them to make more humans so it releases hormones that get stronger and stronger over an approximate 10 day period.

    I explain that they can get pleasure from their key holder's orgasms as I do. Calms me down real quick when my wife has a few orgasms while I am kissing and holding her. To last in chastity requires self control which is why guys come and go quickly from chastity forums. I was into this before the internet on a BBS I ran. Then I had a website for chastity long before porn even mentioned it. Guys came and went and to this date I only know of one guy who was in it a long time. The rest swore they would do it but then went away. Self control is needed unless your key holder is letting you orgasm every time you have sex. I was able to do it for 20 years on the honor system because my wife's girlfriend lived with us and was very dominant sexualy. I was in 4-5 threesomes a week and got to come every few days or at most a week. No penetration though. That was not what I do now as no big deal to go without for a few days. Then again for some a few days without an orgasm may kill them. :)
     
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    I agree with that. Without a PA, you can pull out of any cage, but unless you have a specific kink about that level of loss of control, this is all about using the cage as a reminder of your commitment not to masturbate.
     
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    That’s very interesting, thanks for sharing thus experience.
     
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    Well. I approached this with a slightly different mindset. I never thought about not being able to orgasm in one. Heck. Even before I bought one I noticed how the longer open cages were susceptible to oral administrations. My excitement with them was making it quite difficult to touch myself in fun ways, and make it nearly impossible to have normal intercourse because Willey would be sticking straight up behind the ring that was not removable without the key or a cutting tool.
     
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    Agreeable.

    Key word here being: "majority".

    My actual penis strongly disagrees with this opinion.
     
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    i agree with pretty much all the sentiments, to a greater or lesser degree, and for me it's a sign of my commitment to a relationship. sorta like a more intimate engagement ring for me, only; a chance to prove myself to my beloved of how meaningful my relationship is beyond the stereotypical.
     
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