definitely starting to feel much yum on the yab-yum balance here. anyone sufficiently expert in tantra to have conversation about exploring further? input much appreciated. thank you!
It's funy to hear about because one of the things that lead me to chastity and the sex around chastity is the Tantra Yoga. A bit different in some way but based on the control of the ejaculation to have a deeper feeling and have a permanent sexual arousal. Not a lot different to the chastity and the edging. In the Tantra yoga you have a more powerfull mind that drive you away from the wanker you have been and makes you conscient of your sexual energy. You are able to make love (PIV or not) without ejectin your sement and thus have a better feeling of the sex. Making it a spiritual and a sexual experience at the same time. A lot of common with some people in chastity who experience the same, of course there is no sub/dom game nor bondage in. But I found that the results are not so different for sex.
You work to control your sex and your ejaculation. You learn to consider your mate as an equal partner. You learn to do love to gain pleasure for both of you and especially your partner. Chastity for short term is from Tantra culture. Evolving to more permanent chastity and a search for pleasure beyon ejaculation is a goal. Of course after it diverge because it goes to PIV and all kind of positions. FLR and domination is not tantric at all. tantra is the search for armony in the sexual energy. As long you are equiliber in your comple, master of your body and in harmony with your lady your are still in the tantric path. Of course, cage and punition are not tantric at all.
interesting. I hear and respect your perspective. i'd simply point out that left-hand path has clear parallels between 'punishment' and tantra. we could spend time inventorying them, and pleasantly debating the symbolic meanings thereof. : )
Being on the no cage/honour method (usually) and a wife who lives PIV, means that I have developed great stamina for long slow PIV/tanric (or whatever you want to call it) sessions. With orgasm not being the end goal, there is no need to rush, and we both enjoy the pre-orgasmic high.
That is what I have learned in chastity, Be chaste, you have affection hormon rising up, PIV with no ejaculation in a slow motion way (the full opposite of porn) that makes you lady loving it and asking for more. You get partially frustrated but as you are chaste and sub you feel compension, pleasure through her and for her. Also we try to synchronise our hormonal cycle to be in phase with her, one liberation (partiel, very important) per week to keep going on. With this method I was able to PIV for one to two hours, the results are incredible. It works perfectly with female domination and FLR as you are her sex toy.
interesting alchemy. I've found that the root and second chakras are inordinately well stimulated, and that the serpent may be rising to at least the third chakra on some occasions. while it's spoken of in twilight language as the subtle body, I've found the experience to be amazingly, metamorphically physical. like i'm not the same man I was when I started down this intriguing little byway. I've been seeking books or websites that speak more to this physicality. but the twilight language or a lot of "body-denying" exegesis seems more the norm. i'm currently more interested in how to physically stimulate these chakral areas all the way up to the throat chakra. just where I am currently in the quest. : )
Also yoga is a very feminine (not only) sport that you can do, it is good for health and spirit. Cloths are very feminine and my whife let me in a thight yoga pants all day as she found it sexy and revelating. Wearing an apron to hide the cage bulge when children are here.
very gracious of you; thank you. my interests are somewhat different. how can I, as a currently-chastitied man, best experience that masculinity? how can I leverage and deepen this new-found physical pleasure? memorialize it? that's what interests me at present. : )
You are in permanent chastity, milked? leaking? I think first you should have a schedule to know when you are high in desire and when you are low. Then if you want to do yoga, do it in dayly with simple exercices, keeping exercice for the first and second Chakras when you are high in sexual desire, and see if it brings you to mental orgasm. Don't expect this to work quickly, it is not magic but practice. to master your body and spirit it takes time and discipline and depends a lot on how you have been educated and your free time. On my side I have only my pleasure by giving it to my wife by compension. tantra helps you, you transfer the sex pleasure of yours to her and she orgasm for you, when you succeed this you can orgasm when she does. Her pleasure leaves you a powerfull one if you succeed. Just think that Yoga is no different to BSDM; it is a way to reach pleasure by abandoning yourself to your mind, all is in the head. If you are interested I can try to help you, just feel free to chat to me.
thanks, friend. I think we'd need to build some communication bridges - which i'm totally into. your coming (so to speak!) at this from a feminizing angle. i'm saying I've never felt more manly. being in chastity is the best fucking sex I've ever had. and I want more of it, all the way up to the crown chakra....! : )
There is a satirical news program in UK. Yesterday’s edition referred to someone being a tantric sex expert and not having an orgasm for up to 3 months. That got me thinking whether there is any connection between the practice of chastity and tantric sex. Apparently I am not the only one the see the connection. Infrequent orgasms and the constant sexual arousal @Kylara talks about means that I seek other forms of intimacy, which seem to be much appreciated. I don't think this would work if I were constantly tempted to relieve the sexual arousal, but that is made all but impossible by the belt. I can't forget I'm wearing it for very long either. There's no escape, not just from the chastity belt but the whole situation, at least I hope not!