My wife and I have been married for 10 years this year. We have three beautiful children and a wonderful home. What we have struggled with is our relationship. 3 kids is a lot to handle. The point that we have struggled with is boredom, stress, expenses, self control, motivation, etc. There is no one right or wrong. It's tough being married, work, 3 kids. We got married for a reason though. That's because we love each other. About 9 months ago we started playing with role reversal. Switching from top and bottom. It was fun but coming back into reality sometimes left me more frustrated than when we started. My wife was always relieved because it does require a lot of work. At some point last year we got a cb3000. We've played with it but not more than a day or two. Then about a month ago we started talking about longer and longer durations. Then I saw a chastity agreement mentioned online. I was extremely intrigued. We both were. We started to read them together and I suggested we try it for a month. Mind you not chastity for a month, but the agreement. I created a draft and the two of us spent some time revising it and creating addendums. The essence of the agreement is that I am locked up for periods and that she stipulates the release. Despite our various toys, I am fortunate enough that my wife like's the real thing more than the silicon alternative. I have been locked in my cb3000 for the longest duration yet. My wife is beginning to take a real liking to it. Granted, it's only been three days. But the initial adjustment period is over and now we're talking serious time.... I found baby oil and eucerine have been a great help. Tonight I try on my work clothes to see what is feasible and what isn't. A couple of things that we're trying to manage is my self control. Be that spending, some weight loss, exercise, masturbation, flirting, etc. My wife while happy to create this agreement asks why it's necessary but sometimes you have to have a carrot to get the rabbit. I will post my adventures out here to see if anyone else has thoughts.