Hello all. I'm a 31 year old male from the Southern U.S. I've been chaste for a few weeks now, but my Mistress doesn't want me wearing a cage. She just expects me to be good and if I'm bad she expects to know about it. I was okay at first but it's getting harder so that's why I'm here, I hoped talking about things could make this easier.
That's my situation now too. I did 18+ months without a cage once. Although I think I would like a cage or device of some kind now, it's not looking like a practical option for me. Anyways, welcome!
I have also been without a cage since christmas. I can pull out of practically anything so we agreed that I follow her instructions. On the positive side is that it works. I have not wanked by myself since sometime in january and I was punished for it. So I learned my lesson and wont do it again. My Mistress wants all of my sexual energy saved for her only and that works perfect for me too. There havent been more than 10 days between orgasms yet, but anything can happen. Its all up to her.
How long has it been between your orgasms? Is it a couple of weeks? Its more difficult without a cage, I agree. But I am beginning to realize its mostly in my head that its easier. I have accepted that she controlls all my orgasms and then its just a practial question if I wear a cage or not. However its not all jolly good. She said two days ago, that she would like me wearing a cage, even if I can pull out. Just so I will have a constant reminder on her. Maybe Im getting sloppy....