Chasity without a device

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    While I don't have a chastity device anymore, I use the honor system to keep myself chaste.

    I still see women and I go on dates but when it becomes sexual I don't use my cock. Sometimes this is a problem because women like to look, touch and feel it but once I give them enough affection and use my tongue they learn there are other ways to have sex.

    I'm searching for an FLR but sometimes date vanilla and if a woman asks I tell them honestly.

    It's difficult to go without- it seems I'm constantly aroused and when I'm out with a woman I am always hard. This is good for them and they notice it, but I never push to sex. Even with vanilla women I follow their lead and give them everything they want but never more.

    Unfortunately, it's more difficult when I'm on my own and have a night when I'm not out with someone. That's when I really want to make myself come. But I know what's right for me and I feel I should only use my cock when a woman allows it.
     
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    That's a very interesting approach to chastity and dating and I have to admire your self control. I'm kind of curious how it's been going over with the ladies? All the women I know enjoy actual intercourse. With my last girlfriend, long before chastity, on our first date I started to go down on her and she said something to the effect of, "Stop that. Get up here and just fuck me."

    If you don't mind me asking how are you searching for women who might be interested in FLR?
     
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    I focus on them, wait until they make the first move and anticipate their needs. If it gets sexual it's about her receiving. I follow their lead and give them a date or night they'll enjoy.

    Most vanilla women, however, prefer that the man take charge
     
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    Well done. That takes great self control.
     
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    I understand the honor system but for me the real thing for me is not being able to even get hard not just coming
     
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    Congratulations on your self control. That’s an area I’m not strong enough. When I’ve been unlocked for a length of time I couldn’t keep from pleasureing myself and getting into trouble. For me being Locked is better but I’m also not looking for anyone. Congratulations again on your control.
     
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    I'm interested in how this works in practice. Things are hot and heavy, and "women like to look, touch and feel it" and "vanilla women ... prefer that the man take charge." What happens then? You tell them you "don't do that"? That you're not the kind of man that has intercourse with women?

    How do they take it? Is there a second or subsequent date?
     
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    Everyone is different, but certainly many women like to be f***ed hard after a few dates. The honour method can be difficult to start off with, but with self control and teasing attention from the lady, it is a good way of chastity.
     
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    Great self-control. for Us, Chastity started when We first met and Mistresses likes how it looks on so at first, it came off for Doctors visits but that has stopped now because I see Her Doctor and She knows about our lifestyle.. loves your control great post thanks for sharing.
     
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    That's really the only true chastity anyway. It's good that you can do it without a significant other. I've been married for 14 years and without her interest in chastity I wouldn't do it. Any chastity device can be removed with a little work and tools. I have had to do it twice. My mature metal jail bird has security screws. After awhile they wear out.
     
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    IMHO couple relationships are about sexuality and sexual relationship. I think that if a man is too timid early on the lady might think that either he is gay or simply has no sex drive.
    What you describe seems impossible.
     
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    @BrunoAx
    I have been on the Honor System for 30+ years.
    Works well - except when my discipline wavers - like at times of long denial.
    But really - my challenge for Her is to defeat giving into those ever increasing temptations.
    The temptation is worst when I am home alone with nothing to do.
    Thats when the Lori's comes in handy.
    Its worn more often than that but I am still mostly on the honor system.
     
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    The honor system only works for me if my wife teases regularly. No attention will tend to result in masturbation.
     
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