I wanted to compare notes with other keyholders. I have noticed when I have my hubs in lockup his behavior has changed. Just because I wanted to hear what others have experienced I thought I would ask what sort of changes you have noticed either positive or negative when you have your partner in lockup. (and are serious about it)
I don't notice much once I've snapped the lock. He knows once it snaps, it doesn't come off until I say it does (except in emergency, of course). Unless I offer him a deal, it stays on for the time I've decreed. His behavior while in chastity doesn't have any infliuence over if I offer him any deals or no. I notice more after the lock and cage come off. My main reason for continuing chastity and corporal punishment is to control him masturbating and looking at pornography. Chastity is always accompanied by physical discipline to his bare bottom and humiliation. He doesn't like being denied ejaculation. It's harder for him when I require him to pleasure me but he gets none. I didn't break My Rules, so why should I be denied? He broke My Rules, so he gets denied. Of course, I can't break My Rules, because once he's in chastity or under discipline, I make the Rules, make them up as I go along and he obeys them or pays the consequences of a red bottom and humiliation. Spanking always makes him cry, now and often he's spanked in front of witnesses. He doesn't like getting a spanking and he doesn't like it when people watch him get one or perform other things that humiliate him. He avoids it by not doing things that displease me, llike looking at pornography or masturbating. I've noticed since I've been more strict about physical discipline and have been imposing longer chastity his pornography viewing has dropped dramatically once he's out. He's also a little more careful about what he says to people when I'm around.
Since there are not many girls here I can tell you that the only thing that changes is my wife says when we have sex and I orgasm. Other than that we are the same people. Only in fantasy websites do men magically change when they lock up. It took us 4 years before my wife got completely comfortable in making me wait 6 months for an orgasm and not feel any guilt or duty. When we invited my wife's girlfriend to join our marriage, it took a good 2 years before I went from a top to the bottom with her. I think that judging what is really going in the bedroom based on porn or posts on the internet, is not going to provide a realistic picture of life. I think the number of replies you got says something about something.