Change the Name To "FLR & Femdom Mansion"

So I'm a bit of a lurker here but I can personally say that I love reading your and @Nicoftime 's writing. They're two of the few threads I follow because I feel like they're realistic. In other moments I do enjoy the crazy and out there and over the top, sort of like my mind stretching its kinky legs. I like it all I guess. Long story short anyone should be able to post whatever they want on here(so long as it's legal and not attacking others), and the number of views and responses should in effect give a clear picture of what is and isn't valued here. That's my $0.02. Anyways, there are still some people who like reading you, your GF's, and Nicoftime's stuff so I say keep going!

 

I think we all just need to take a step back and breathe. There's no reason why you can't do your own thing and the "hardcores" do theirs. I plan on carrying on with how I do things around here (with minimal cursing). I suggest you do the same. Just ignore what you don't like.
Good luck

 

My wife and I have been into chastity play for over 4 years. Been locked up 24/7 as much as practical, for all that time. I get 3 orgasms this year. My wife is submissive and does not want to be dominant. Yet we both enjoy chastity. I do not feel as you do. I feel comfortable here. I have posted many times that I do not worship women and think they are superior. They are equals in many respects, but you cannot ignore the physical differences and mindset between the sexes.

I was a sub to my wife's girlfriend/lover for 30 years. I got both a dominant and submissive woman each night so we did whatever we were in the mood to do. No matter what, and D/s play ended at the bedroom door. I was firmly in charge of the Triad outside of sex. I have been into fetish play for 47 years and pretty much tried them all, even the yucky ones. I ran a sex BBS before the internet using a 300 baud modem. I was making web pages before the internet was graphical and few even heard of it. I have been to many sex related web site since their inception. I am a realist. I know that more than half who post are just living their sex life online. I know that men pretend they are woman. It sometimes bothers me when a new member starts out of the gate with a post that has his wife becoming a dominatrix overnight and wearing his cage 24/7 from day one. It took me many months to do that and my wife is not dominant in bed. I have agreed to make sex all about her. I can change that if I want. I am not forced into anything and can masturbate even when locked. We do chastity as it is done in real life. The kind where you have an emergency key and your wife feels guilty for denying you orgasms for the first few months.

I have posted my feelings many times. I have stated that I am not in a FLR and consider chastity as just another sex game like all the others we played. We try to not make chastity bleed too much into our marriage. We do not use sex as a currency in my marriage. I cannot do anything to change my wife's date for my orgsam, either way. Unlike you, I feel welcomed and comfortable here. No one has attacked my version of chastity or tried to tell me that I am doing it wrong. Perhaps it is that the tone of my posts are on an even kneel. I have found some members who practice chastity like my wife and I do. I can usually tell the real players from the phony.

I also admit in may posts that I do not get self locking since to me, chastity is about a power exchange and without a KH where is the exchange. However, I accept their version of chastity as being as valid as any other. There are no rule books and I was once the target of the BDSM police because I was submissive only during sex. Who cares what others think. I am a stickler for safe and sane fetish play. Even still use my safe word in chastity play. I always have access to an emergency key and even tell those that do not have one how dangerous it is. I know that from personal experience.

I also admit that I chuckle a little when I read someone complaining how difficult it was to be locked and denied for two days. I do not even consider it chastity until at least a month has gone by. However, I do remember when two days was a lot for me too, So to end this long post, as all my posts are, while it was true a few years ago about the flavor of this forum, I have come back to it as it has a nice mixture of different versions of chastity with no one claiming theirs is better. Just like in life, there are going to be people with all sorts of values and morals. You just stick to yours and accept those of others as valid for them.

 

There's nothing wrong at all with your style of chastity @Thatguyontheinternet , and your posts and reports describing your journey are greatly appreciated by many members, so please, please feel free to continue with them.

As said by @Steve-0, carry on as you are?

We do need to have a curb on the use of swear words, but one of the other beauty's of the English language is that there are plenty of other adjectives available.

 

OMG Such a lot of fuss about nothing. Just because someone asked you to temper your language. No one is doubting your desire to live your way of chastity or your opinions. There are many different ways and we should try and accept them all.
It seems that some of you are quite paranoid. Live and let live, for heavens sake.

 

I couldn't agree more Ms B. Well put.

 

Live and let diiiiie!
But more serious: why is everyone claiming to tell about THE way chastity has to be done?
Next thing that might follow is that I'm told how often I'm to breathe!
Seriously won't get any wages from NIKE for telling: just do it!

 

Everyone is different and every relationship is different. No one is right and no one is wrong just Different. Your all one of a kind unique