Yes, you read correctly - a blowjob. And we're in the correct forum and not Fantasy and fiction, although the exact choice could be questioned. So we were chatting, as we do a lot, jumping from one subject to another randomly, some about mundane rubbish, work, kink, sport, food. And the subject of blowjobs came up and my response was "I miss them". Her response was favourable - you can have one, but it'll cum at a price. So started the negotiations and bartering process. To put this into context I get frequent spoiled orgasm's whilst caged. They're not particularly good, but it's takes the edge off of the hornyiness. It's like being in a cramped bus or plane seat when you can't get your legs straitened.Lady C likes the feeling of hot semen on her body. She's tried to describe it but it's something to do with the initial warmth followed by the way it starts thinning and dripping. I've often said that if happily trade several of those spoiled caged orgasm's for one out of the cage experience. "So how expensive do you think a blowjob will be?" Her first offer was one. One week, one month I asked, nope, one year. No orgasm's for a year, spoiled, trading or otherwise. That's way too long, you like them too much for that. "I think you'll find that I can easily go without your orgasms for a year" Eventually she agreed that 2 months completely orgasm free was sufficient. I also had to concede to take her to the pub to see our friends - I don't like the pub, the beer upsets my stomach and other issues, and the other thing I was going to have to endure was 500 strokes of her favourite strap. That was deleted as she didn't want to be constrained to using one implement plus it's not something I can do on my own. "You'll be getting way more than 500 over 2 months anyway". On her list she wanted body massage on demand, foot rub on demand, her pussy licked on demand and picked up from work on demand. "But you've already got that", said I. "OK, change that to daily foot massages and pick up from work every night I'm on a late shift, save me from having to ask". So that was the deal. The actual blowjob I described was straight out of a porno. Me standing, her dressed in her highest tarty shoes with bright red nails and matching lipstick and kneeling in front of me. " I'll wear my short black leather skirt and that of the shoulder top that shows of my boobs". Nice. It's too be completely vanilla, no kink, no Femdom, no handcuffs or anything else. "You realise that it'll probably be all over in a couple of seconds as soon as you breathe on me, I'm rather sensitive these days. In fact I'll probably not get fully hard". "That's good, I should manage to get you in my mouth". Lady C despite being very talkative and opinionated and even describes herself as "mouthy" or "gobby" has a small mouth and restricted jaw opening, whilst when fully erect I used to be quite thick and girthy. So fast forward a couple of days and I, as I usually do, gave her a friendly pat on her bum. "That's enough, the clock will reset and the two months will start again". "That's not on the list", I argued. "You're forgetting our FLR rule, Andrew, - Lady C decides". "If it's too much effort, forget it", I said. "Do what you want but that next orgasm is still 2 months away, nice or otherwise, and you'll still be doing those other things too." So, by asking for a vanilla sex act she's gotten more dominant. But since then we've talked and she sometimes misses the act of showing affection and performing initiate sexual acts with me. "But I wanted to see how much you wanted this", she said. "This might become the new norm and it might be three months next time". So, a question for the keyholders. Do you miss having vanilla sex with your partner, not just intercourse, but masturbation and fellatio? And one for the boys, what would you do for a vanilla orgasm? For me, I think ended up making her stricter and demanding, which is fine and we both get what we want. But I was asked a question and have an honest answer. I just need to keep the rest of my "I want" list quiet for a while. A
That’s hot and I’d definitely keep quiet on the want list for a while My wife will occasionally pander to my requests to see her in bdsm type outfits. It’s not that she doesn’t like the look and the mood it creates but she just not that motivated to incorporate it very often and on her own volition. I’ve noticed when she does dress up (which is always at my request) she makes it a point to get me extremely turned on as quick as possible and make me O as quick as possible. So I’m elated to see my domme eye candy when she is all dolled up but then can’t handle myself because I’m so turned on. She loves that she can make me PE so easily it is really a big turn on for her. Usually after I O the kink wear will come off and she’ll allow me to pleasure her how she wants. It’s ironic because like you said @Disciplined Boyfriend , we’re both getting what we want but it’s a shame we can’t control ourselves to enjoy the experience for longer. But that is also the sadistic side of my wife, she loves making me so I can’t handle myself after giving me what I want.
That's definitely one of the down sides of long term chastity - the extreme sensitivities that it gives. Sometime in the past we spoke about getting a stopwatch and actually timing how quick she could make me orgasm. The opposite side is that with skill she can edge me (uncaged), bringing me ever closer to the edge until less than one stroke pushes me over the edge. Sometimes it has been a gesture i.e. the forefinger in a come hither motion, a tap on the edge, or bending down and about to give it a kiss. A
Actually, I crave the increased sensitivity caused by long lockups. It heightens every touch, every lick. It makes the teasing exquisite.
Not sure abour the "vanilla" term, as it seems that there is something like a "vanilla orgasm" or "vanilla sex" which is not true as sex and orgasms have so many different faces. Aren't we also transporting a picture of typical sex which we always see in movies and from our children get the totally wrong picture how sex has to be? Short intro, kissing with putting the mouth down to belly, rip the clothes of and then PIV, maybe some oral sex before and then the man is either "finishing" her or she is riding on him until she is totally exhausted while both come at the same time. Summary -> boring. So if this is a vanilla orgasm, I wouldn't do anything for it, because every non-vanilla orgasm is much better. I have had an orgasm where nearly nothing happened and I just felt her hand and her breathing and it was super intense. Other times she was sitting on came heavily and she ordered me to lick her straight afterwards. Both never was part if my "fantasies" and felt like the best orgasms I ever had. I would prefer looking at orgasms as a teamsport if its just the mechanics ... Boring. Don't see a big difference compared to just taking care of myself. Sounds a bit like topping from the bottom, "making her stricter and demanding". No offend. Have been there too. The risk is that " making her" do something will also increase the insecurity that she is doing it "right". Biggest fear is that she doesn't get as much from the FLR and she is maybe agreeing because she wants to see me happy. I think the sub will always get more intense feelings out of a FLR (if I look at myself when I am "charged". Feathers.sub
She initiated the conversation so hardly topping from the bottom. It was a frank conversation and never was there any intention for ramping up her dominance, she's perfectly good at that on her own. I shall ask her when she gets home what her thoughts are on it. As for the other comments, I guess I maybe used vanilla sex when eroticism might have been better, but definitely not as raunchy as 50 shades. Cheers, A
I've only received 1 complete blowjob which was nearly 20 years ago. It was the first and last time i came in my KHs mouth, it was shortly after healing from a circumcision and i was extremely sensitive, probably the best orgasm I ever had. Earlier this year KH agreed to give me one but i had to wear a condom as he will not swallow. I got a bit excited as i got close and found myself thrusting a bit. This made kh gag and take it out his mouth just as i was past the point of no return, so my first full blowjob in 2 decades was a ruin.