BF's first whole weekend in chastity

Being locked at work is a constant reminder of who really has the control.

Working an outside profession where urination must be done standing next to the truck really reminds you how careful one must be, if don't want to explain it to the guys I work with

 

IMHO, the "Talks" that you have are the key to a successful domme/sub relationship. Creating the correct expectations and being aware of consequences is essential. Great job!

 

Nice to see you taking the lead and laying down your rules. We started out with a complex series of rules and procedures and now we've got them simplified to 'Lady C decides' she decides if I'm locked, unlocked, for how long, or short. The same goes for spanking and punishments. All I know is that complaining too much earns me more.

It's not easy suddenly becoming dominant with someone you love. Enjoy the power that you have and seek to explore his boundaries.

 

Holy smokes... I mean... just wow. What I wouldn't give if my Wife was even 10% as dominant or into keeping me in chastity as Cecilia B appears to be with Her man. I mean... Jeezz, how lucky can one slave be?

I'm completely blown away whenever I meet with or learn of or hear about a truly magnificent, confident and dominant Woman, like Cecilia B strikes me as. Yeah, I'd have to say she's just full-on rocking the whole FLR thing. So badass... It's a thing of beauty to observe. It's like seeing the Grand Canyon or the Hoover Dam or something else equally as impressive and special (and seemingly as rare!).

I find Women like Cecilia B to be awesome and inspiring and a little bit intimidating, and usually with a dash of scary in the mix if the stars are lined up just so. All this in one Woman at the same time. Which to me has the makings of a perfect recipe which can result in a next to ideal Keyholder. A Keyholer that can evoke in her slave a sense of peace-of-mind and well-being along with feelings of near-constant, heightened arousal and satisfaction, plus perhaps a dash of panic. To me, this borders on perfection in describing one's Keyholder.

I've started noticing this really excellent trend on this sure which is the growing number of Women on this site whose thoughts and opinions I'm reading are really broadening my horizons. The concepts and topics I'm seeing posted and then discussed by some really honest, open and intelligent members I've found to be quite eye-opening for me. Often I'll read something that helps me open up my mind and consider things which previously hadn't dawned on me in the least. Ever.

It's as if the more ideas and opinions I come across written by this growing group of unique and special, confident and strong Women (and a few decent males... Good lord do I find these Dommes to be over the top sexy. How can our desire to honor, worship and serve these Women not be so much more accepted and mainstream than it seemingly is? Man, the vanilla crowd is really missing out.

My conundrum:
I love my Wife dearly and She has many fine qualities. She's a beautiful, wonderful, caring, intelligent, generous and good-natured Woman. She's a fantastic mother, I have the utmost respect for Her and I know that I'm a very lucky man to have Her in my life. She seems to be more or less content with me which I find to be a complete mystery. Cuz I'm a hot mess. Well, maybe not a mess, but at least quite a handful... I think we're both fairly content, but the part that's always add us been missing for me has seemed to have taken its toll on me. I won't go into great detail, but let's just say I've had my fair share of sessions with psychiatrists and have taken a veritable plethora of the various psych meds over the years.

I'm inclined to believe that if things had been different for me and I had found myself in a definitive FLR that incorporated 24/7 enforced chastity along with a healthy amount of D/s, I'd be willing to bet that my outlook on some things would be radically different than they are now. I'm not saying that I would have avoided all of my mental health issues and their associated doctor appointments and medications completely had I partnered up with a Wife who was more similar to and less different from a Woman like Cecilia B with her preferences toward dominance and enforced chastity. I'm pretty sure that the time I lost in dealing with my depression over these many years might have been better spent doing things that I find in general much more uplifting and fulfilling than all the ruminating I actually did, such as worshipping my Keyholder/Goddess's body (head to toe), serving Her while locked up in chastity and knowing exactly what I need to be doing, always, because She would have informed me of Her expectations. Easy-peasy and mostly stress-free, once you have clear order to follow. What stress I might have experienced had my life gone more inline with satisfying my intensely powerful and personal, primal and natural desires and cravings to submit to and follow my Female partner would have likely been the kind of stress that I think I might have actually thrived under. Stressors such as, 'I wonder if my Goddess will be letting me out of my cage sometime this month', or, "I wonder if She noticed that I forgot to do the laundry on Sunday like She told me to? Does this mean that I can expect to find myself strapped down on Her bondage rack, gagged, cuffed and blindfolded, perhaps later tonight? Or maybe any minute now? And will She leave me like that, alone in the dark for hours like the last time I disobeyed Her? Bound to Her rack in the dark, made to wait until She's ready to administer Her lesson/punishment to me, in hopes that maybe I won't forget the laundry next time? She'll choose some number of strokes from either Her whip, cane, crop or paddle. Or from all of them depending on Her mood. Oh dear... I really screwed the pooch when I forgot to do my chores. Oh well. She says these lessons are good for me in the long run, because I should learn and become a better slave to Her with each beating. I hope I can make it up to Her somehow and that I do a better job listening to Her. I just want to please Her and maybe have some pride in what a good slave She's helped me become'.

But the fact that my Wife doesn't naturally or actively choose to dominate me or take advantage of, or relish in the fact that She could enjoy almost complete power over me and our relationship if She wanted, with minimal effort. I gotta admit, it does take it's toll on me. My fundamental, innate desire to serve Her along with my very strong preference for Her to take the lead role in our relationship, which both go unfulfilled, has and continues to have a profound and adverse effect on my overall sense of wellbeing and inner peace. I has also had at least some negative effect on my psyche. I realized long ago that nobody's perfect and marriage is a two way street. It's a game of give and take, and when I look back on our time together, I honestly feel that I got the bigger end of the stick than She got. And I'd say a fair bit of my baggage is a result of how addicted I am to porn and how often I masturbate. Seeing these fantasy Dominatrixes dressed in the finest fetish wear, all tanned and airbrushed, operating in what appears to be an actual dungeon... It's warped my reality. And my masturbating is a huge waste of time and effort, I'm embarrassed about it, it shows that I am weak and that I lack self control, The worst part though... It's the message that I convey to my Wife when I do it. It's disrespectful and has a negative effect on our relationship. I'm getting quite tired of it. I'm going to make a stand. I'm going to treat Her better and focus my energies more on pleasing Her, making Her life easier, and reconditioning myself to worship Her more, and only Her. I mean it. I'm going to try to convince Her that right now I'm weak, and that I could really use some help getting off porn and not masturbating. And I feel that chastity can truly help my situation and help me improve my behavior. Lastly, I think it can help me focus more on pleasing Her.
And I'm out.... Mic dropped.hug

 

I know this is a really old thread but how have things progressed? Was the feminization your kink or his? How is life different now 4 years later?

 

Would also like to see if we can get an update on this!

 

Sounds amazing to be honest. I wish there were more people like you in the world!