Best ways to increase hornyness & frustration in chastity

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    hey

    I'm wondering about everyone's experiences in chastity and what increases your hornyness and frustration over time? Does it make a difference whether you are edged or you have a p-gasm or you are just left alone with no stimulus at all? Or maybe you have experienced something different that has increased your hornyness and frustrations?

    Thank you for your replies
     
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    Personally, as soon as my belt goes on even after sex it immediately starts to rebuild horniness. There is always an underlying horniness whether there is any direct stimulation or not but it is certainly increased with teasing and play in between being unlocked. It’s not easy for my mistress and I to find alone time and usually by the time we are alone (right before bed) we’re too tired to do anything. So what keeps the lifestyle moving forward aside from me being locked in a belt is a lot of verbal teasing, giving me commands and mr upping the ante by anticipating her needs and taking care of them for her. Not the most exciting system but certainly works for our situation. 99% of the time when she wants to play my belt comes off so she can have full access to me and she always allows me an O in one form or another. Much of the time she only allows me to masturbate in front of her after I’ve pleasured her and given her several O’s which I have found to be very frustrating in a lovely way and always leaves me craving her. It’s like “yeah, you got to O and it felt good but you had to give it to yourself and you wanted your mistress in so many other ways” lol. The fact that I am only allowed to do what she wants, her way, keeps that level of horniness and frustration up for me.

    I sometimes watch a little lifestyle related porn (even though I not supposed too and that will also lead to more horniness and frustration but what’s off about being locked and watching porn for me is that it’s not very satisfying to watch and the kind of frustration that gives me is much less desirable than if my mistress teases me even in a very vanilla way. I suppose it’s because I know that one is real and the other is not. It’s been very interesting the things I’ve learned about myself and my desires while being locked.
     
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    Just say "No". It always works for me
     
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    I suppose one more thing I forgot to mention is that if I’m feeling like I’m really craving some sort of physicality and there just hasn’t been any of that between mistress. I’ll get into the dildo and plug collection, although pleasurable while using them, that definitely increases my horniness and frustration. It just leaves me wanting more although I thoroughly enjoy myself lol.
     
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    Thank you so much for your insight in both your replies, hope you have another wonderful day x
     
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    For me it is mental stimulation. Thinking of scenarios where I could interact with my Mistress or with others who report to her. Being asked to do things for Her or Her stand-in's pleasure. Especially if there is a bit of humiliation, bondage, or discipline involved too. It all revolves around me submitting which is my ultimate turn on. Since I'm caged, I'm unable to release that sexual tension, so the more I fantasize about it, the hornier and submissive I become.
     
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    The only time I get frustrated is if I feel like I am being ignored.
     
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    Nothing arouses me more than watching my wife pleasure herself. I am a mess for days after I see that. Last time I leaked precum for almost 24 hours. She has figured that out also......don't know if that is good or bad . lol .
     
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    For me, it's whenever my wife implies (or outright states) that my lockup will continue for longer than I anticipated. Examples may include phrases like "not this weekend" or "maybe next week/month" or the worst one... "let's go for a new record".
     
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    Thanks for sharing <3 my partner away for a month and is not really into key holding so normally I'm the one saying I don't want to cum lol. But yes I have experienced this abit and it's super hot
     
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    For me it's just being locked and not knowing when I'm going to be let out.
     
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    For me the 2 simplest things in daily life, the hug and kiss in the morning next to the coffee pot and the nighttime kiss and hug good night. Then we can run down the list, her coming out of the shower drying off, getting dressed or undressed, or when she teases me. The worst is when her and her GF are playing grab ass with each other and I am just listening or watching.
     
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    The best way to increase your horniness if you have your partner is to flirt with them. Talk to them seductively and play fun foreplay together. If you are caged, then make sure you figure out your pleasure zones and tease yourself. If you are in honor mode, edge yourself "but" don't cum.

    Service to a loved person is the best way to ramp it up exponentially.
     
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    i found that having my device sealed with a security tag to prevent it being removed kept me very horny.
    Also wearing sexy clothing and accessories while locked kept my libido wiggly and in peak condition.
     
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    For me being dressed in a sexy outfit, secured in a stainless steel NUB keeps me horny. If you really want to drive him crazy put a TENS pad in the NUB with his hands bound in such a way that he can't get to the device. Watch him scrim and beg you for relief. Careful, do not let the pads short, just enough power, too much will hurt him.
     
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    Agree with most of the above and, as a couple who have been playing with chastity for many years . . . and married for a lot longer, this is what works for us.
    Flirting is really important in keeping me horny: just a look from Her or a glance down at down and my crotch. More physical contact: running the back of her hand down my arm or the side of my face. Surreptitiously grabbing my crotch, 'masturbating' the cage or massaging my balls (they seem to get unbelievably sensitive when caged). 'Dressing for Pleasure' is fun as well, knowing she's wearing something sexy - or maybe nothing at all - just to drive me crazy.
    Wearing the key, obviously and in both senses of the word, either around Her neck or on an anklet.
    Ordering me to get naked around the house.
    I absolutely love worshiping her pussy when I'm locked and with no chance of getting out and it makes we horny as hell.
    Watching Her pleasure Herself is sexy but doesn't particularly do it for me . . . although I think this is because I know it doesn't particularly do it for her either.
    Have fun !
     
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    That does it for me too. I have only had 2 real orgasms this year. She tells me now that I won't get another until next year.
     
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    Seeing my madam dressed up in sexy fetish gear drives me wild, and seeing her go out in them to meet her bull. For me p gasams feel amazing and are kind of a release, but I don’t get a drop in the horniness.
     
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    no edging or anything for me. Just the chastity - it's a mind fuck on its own.
     
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    your willpower is great
     
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    If my dominant teases me it makes me incredibly hot. They tease me by pulling on my nipples, making me suck them, playing with my cunt and showing off / handling my ass publicly. They told me they'd make me show my cage off soon and when they told me that I was wet.
     
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    Caged or not, as long I am chaste I get horny, especially the first 10 days.
    It is terribly frustrating, after it goes better.
    The most frustrating thing is when my KH wants PIV, I get on lidocaine to stay chaste but after I am still horny and terribly frustrated too. Also when she tease me or ask me to told her erotic stories.

    Frustration is my all day best friend but I love this feeling.
     
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    Same here love seeing her do her self!
     
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    Yea that is a killer for me too.

    One of the best ways to increase that frusty full body tingling trembling and shaking weak in the knees feeling for me is to start massaging and touching and caressing my wife. Doesn't really have to be in a sexual type of way either. It's the spark that happens when the skin to skin contact happens. Of course the more sexual in nature that touching goes, the more intense that arousal will build. Hearing her moan with pleasure and feeling her body tremble as I tease and caress her with my tongue, that gets my balls to ache like crazy. It gets to the point where I can't really think of anything else nor do I want to do anything else but take care of and give pleasure to her. Crap even just typing this out has my heart racing and my entire body tingling with arousal and desire.

    Of course there are also the verbal things that she can say that will set me off as well, like "here are the keys, go unlock yourself, I want to feel you inside of me .... but don't you dare cum!" or on special occasions where an O is almost expected and then she stops just short and will say .. "Stop, that's enough, now go lock up .... I bet you didn't see that one coming or happening did ya!?" That will have me spinning for quite some time. Especially when reminded about it later.

    And then there is the Mansion .... this place and reading everybody's posts and all the crazy topics ..... ugh .. ... this place really just turns me into a big puddle of mush. Everytime.
     
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    The most horny and frustrating thing is when you're continually promised something, reminded of it, teased about it, prepared for it, then just as you're going to get it... you don't.
     
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