Benefits of chastity: Poll 3

Discussion in 'Chastity and orgasm denial' started by L-u-c-y, Aug 9, 2018.

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Does being in chastity make you a better lover when you are eventually unlocked?

  1. Yes

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  2. No

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  1. L-u-c-y
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    Does being in chastity make you a better lover when you are eventually unlocked?
     
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    Absolutely.
     
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    The thing is, when locked for longer time I really cum to fast. So lovemaking right after unlocking don't go together.
    She knows that. And it's fine for her.
    On the other hand, when she wants to really have fun, we use numbing creme and silicon sleeve on me. I could say that is her kind of lovemaking. And it can take forever...
    And then there is cuddling. When I'm locked I just love to cuddle in bed. All the time. Nothing more I can do anyway. She loves that too...
    So maybe, overall, chastity does make me a better lover?
     
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    No; if you were either caring & attentive or selfish before, you'll be the same after. Chastity provides a rush while you're doing it, and maybe it carries over to at least the first time you engage in sex after being unlocked, but it's probably not any more effective over the long-term than any other fantasy.
     
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    I put no, but it’s a mixed answer. No in the sense that I don’t last more than a few seconds to a minute, yes in the sense that I don’t last more than a few seconds to a minute.

    So it hasn’t made me better, but it has made it better for her in the sense that longer lasting sex isn’t a present for her.

    In general I don’t reach in her, so she can get what she needs from rocking on me for a minute if the angle is right.
     
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    No.

    When it is unlocked is when it is least effective. But to answer more generally, chastity doesn't improve chivalry. It will not make a male better in any way. In fact it will potentially make the penis smaller. So, to that end, it may decrease the ability to be a good lover, at least when it comes to performance.
     
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    I can't really answer this one, the wife just started our first real lock up yesterday. But I don't think it will, I always focus on her pleasure first and foremost, in fact I can't orgasm until she has. In fact, we normally finish together.

    BUT, I don't know what will happen now... For all I know I might be faster than speedy gonzales after getting out of the cage.
     
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    I don't necessarily think chastity makes a man a better lover unless he was incredibly selfish previously and is forced to actually focus on his partner's needs for once, but it could definitely result in an improvement to love making if it helps a previously timid partner grow confident in expressing their needs to the man.
     
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    I can't really answer this as I'm not unlocked for "sex". My wife wants my tongue, primarily, and my fingers. She seems to be very aroused and satisfied and has commented on how relaxed she feels and how strong her multiple orgasms are. I'm sure she would say I'm a better lover locked than I was before chastity.
     
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    Unlocked? What's that? ;)
     
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    That's an urban myth. Caging a penis does nothing to make it "shrink" permanently.
     
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    We never start when unlocked. I never know when so there is never any difference at that point.
    I don't have some kind of frenzy. The opportunity is a wonderful gift that we both treasure. I give
    it my all to please always and in always.
     
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    I think I'm a better lover because of the overall chastity effect, my intense desire to make her happy anyway she wants is always at the forefront of my mind. I used to think that because my lasting power is non existent I was a worse lover but because I've improved other skills, according to Miss I'm a better lover because of that. I'm a better lover because now she's getting what she wants.
     
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    Definitely not. I already had premature ejaculation. My wife always thought I was too small for her, so when I shrank over an inch, even though it was temporary, she definitely wasn't impressed.

    On the plus side, it did cure my masturbation habit, and stopped unwanted erections.

    It's better if I just stay locked.
     
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    I am a poor lover no matter what.
     
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    We're gonna need a source for that claim. I've seen people make this assertion and no one's ever backed it up with anything approaching legitimate material that supports such a claim.
     
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    Im a much better lover, but not unlocked to do it
     
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    There is a lot of anecdotal evidence that shrinking can happen if full erections are not permitted for long enough. Though it is fair to say not all the claims will be genuine, hey are mostly made by men and for a number of them 'shrinking' would fulfill part of a fantasy, so maybe some is hopeful thinking.

    That said I am a grower and if allowed an erection these days I do not grow as much as I once did.
    which raises some questions

    Is that through chastity play or age?
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    Will or would former growth dimensions recover over time with frequent 'practice'

    Referring back to legitimate evidence to get that you'd have to find a large number of guys and or their partners that were willing to record the size of the penis in question and then deliberately set out to 'shrink it' and record the results.

    But its possible that monitoring size too frequently may well undo the shrinkage achieved.
     
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    Yes, I am edged on a regular basis which has helped with control.
     
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    I believe there are studies that show penis size can decrease with age, mainly due to reduced blood flow. But I very much doubt restriction in a chastity cage would do the same thing, except temporarily.
     
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    I have no stamina once unlocked. I’m a better lover when in chastity as I can go on and on for as long as my keyholder wants. From cage to orgasm in less than a minute I should think
     
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    Being a good lover is a mental thing, not a physical one. It requires channeling all thoughts and energy into the practice of stimulating and satisfying another person. Being in chastity can help train the mind to be better focused, so yes, it's possible to become a better lover.

    Whatever people on here say, though, it's not only about satisfying her needs. That would render one partner in the act passive, and while one partner can be dominant, both have to be actively engaged for it to work.
     
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    I love how I am quoted stating an opinion and yet somehow am expected to prove it? Wow. Don't worry too much @Billus / @RangerCuck. @RangerCuck, I am so very intrigued by your use of "we're" as if to say you speak for the group? Is that so? What say you group? anyone?

    I think if you wear a cage regularly, when you take it off your size will be diminished. You may achieve full size right away due to an erection, but the conditioning of the cage will keep you smaller until you regularly exercise your penis again. Don't quote me on it, that is merely my own experience and conclusion, Which incidentally is all any of you can add with regard to your own experience. Not a whole lot of citing of evidence going on here.
     
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    Starting a statement with "in fact" kinda makes it statement of fact, not opinion. Too many people hide behind the opinion defence when they state facts.
     
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    oh bother.
     
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