Discussion in 'Chastity and orgasm denial' started by L-u-c-y, Aug 8, 2018.
Does being locked make you do more chores around the house to help your wife/partner?
Being locked does make me more ambitious to clean and make the house pretty for my beautiful bride.
Hopefully you're trying to be helpful and not trying to convince them to reward you.
Basically, a question of motivation.
I want to help my partner because I want them to be happy.
I want to help my partner because I want a reward other than their happiness. (in the case of a chastity relationship, possibly sexual release)
I suppose motivations might not matter to some if they are relieved of some of the burden of every day life.
I'm generally the "king of the lawn" while she handles the more complex and detailed work inside. I do find when locked that I try harder to help out with dishes, laundry and things inside my limited skillset. You know, like boiling water and pre-heating the over.
For me, it doesn't. I have always done half or even more of the work around the house. When I was a kid I used to get pissed that my father would not help my mother do any of the housework, despite both of them having full time jobs. So my mom had to do all the housework on top of that (aside from the yard work, which my father did until I was big enough to do most of it! lol). I made a promise to myself that I would always help with that sort of thing when I got married. My late wife and I were married for 28 years, and we always split the housework up from the day we moved in together. So being locked up by my GF hasn't changed that at all.
I been doing pretty much everything for 17 years. When the children moved on it became pretty
much a breeze. I get home 2:00 PM, Her around 6:30 PM. I make dinner and we share the evening
together without interruptions. Nothing better than to spend time with my love. It works great.
Not really. When we were younger we were fortunate enough that Mrs Chaste was able to be a full time mum and stay at home (her choice). At this time I really was not expected to do anything. As time moved on, kids at school and that, then Mrs Chaste decided she wanted part time work to earn her own money. She still did most of the chores, I worked 50 or so hours a week and sometimes more but I always liked to give her "respite" from the kids. It worked for us! Fast forward to now. No kids at home, I still work (for a couple more years) but only 35 hours a week, Mrs Chaste still works part time to "keep her indipendence". S
Sorry about that, went for wee, came back and it was posted before I'd finished! So now I have more time and just naturally do more chores than I did! What has changed since being locked up is the fact that Mrs Chaste will "order" me to do things now, naked except for my floral apron! If they aren't done properly then I get punished, and often if they are done properly I still get punished! So the chores have become less of a chore and part of our "game". That's one of the ways we do chastity, it's so much fun.
It shouldn't matter because a submissive should always think of the Domme first, including doing all the chores but that added extra incentive is a real and does matter.
I tend to listen a lot better since she started locking me.
not just because of that but because of the relationship shift
As with the first poll, if you need your penis in a cage to be a better person, what does that really say about you? It may also be the case that the kind of male who would not engage in chastity play is not the kind of partner who would be willing to participate in sharing chores.
I voted No as I will do all the households chores anyway, it gives me pleasure to allow my wife/Mistress more time to relax at home
My vote is also no, because I did most of the chores even before chastity became a thing with us.
It does but not by much. I am performing my domestic duties regardless.
Initially man years ago now I think it taught me how much my partners can appreciate each thing you do as being one less for them to do. Whilst again initially it may well have been in a bid to be rewarded in some way it was not that long I don't think that I learned to fully appreciate the act of doing something for my SO that pleased her or saved her doing it was its own reward.
The short answer is probably 'Yes' and if so I'm pleased that it does.
Yes, when denied I feel it's easier to stay busy
It used to when I had a "real" Mistress (hate that term but everyone knows I mean non-virtual).
Mostly she enjoyed my cooking for her...….but it was nice to leave her kitchen spotless when I was done and I know she appreciated that.