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    Strongly agree.
    A sustained Dominant presence by the Dominant Female....does have strong effect

    Strongly agree that the individuals involved have to have all cards on the table
     
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    Do you guys do bdsm positions?
    If so just have her order you onto your knees whenever you begin getting argumentative or begin to raise your voice (something I never got away with). If being on your knees doesnt tone you down, try carrying on down on all fours. It's hard to stay belligerant when you're down there with the family dog. Lol
    And if that's not enough, try it with your ass up and your face buried in the carpet... as she goes to get the strap. That ought to shut you up. ; )
     
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    On top of all the great advice on here, I would also say maybe look into normal anger management teachings. Understand what your triggers are, learn to deal with them before the anger builds, and understand that the anger is not usually caused by others, but how you react to them - it's your problem. Recognising situations where triggers can occur and avoiding them, realising that you choose how you react to situations, and processing your feelings can all help.

    It would take an extremely indoctrinated sub to never be disobedient if they have totally lost their temper and they are prone to outbursts of rage.

    You could discuss your triggers with your Domme so she can recognise them too and help defuse them?

    Best of luck!
     
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    #29 LockitMan, Feb 28, 2021
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    It seems that speech restriction and communication training could solve or prevent this scenario from happening. A sub should always be pleasing to his Mistress which includes the manner in which he speaks. He needs training and practice in speaking in a pleasing tone, conveying calmness and focus. You convey the information as clearly and concisely as you possibly can, and do it like a gentleman. Corporate bosses expect no less, and they get it. So why shouldn't you're Domme? Just because she's your wife is hardly an excuse to be sloppy and imprecise or especially disrespectful.

    If you have a beef with her, a legitimate issue demanding attention, then pause and gather your thoughts for just ten seconds and think of what you need to say about the situation you find yourself in. Make it about you, what you feel. Be vulnerable and transparent, no shots at anyone, you're making a report of the situation. You dont need to shout. You've already got her ear, now use her time efficiently. .
     
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    Because everyday our society continues to suggest that men must be men and women must be women, our old self will always be at the surface ready to come out. Ideally, men can settle into knowing how they should respond to their dominant female. But part of this dynamic is that the wife will need to use her authority to correct her man by using her tools at her disposal. Those tools are necessary and exist just for this purpose. Using the tools to bring a man back into subspace should be expected and will likely be used less over time as the lifestyle sticks deeper into the relationship....but that needs time. As long as we exist in a world that will continue to subliminally push a male dominant patriarchal message, we will to some extent need our wives to enforce their dominance to bring us back to subspace. With time....less and less so. Maybe a reason while weekly discipline sessions are necessary to maintain her man in this psychological state
     
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    Good advice, but hard to put in to practice sometimes.
     
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    That's what the training is for. The military trains so when the fight begins they dont get frazzled, they simply and calmly respond as they've practiced over and over again.
    This is how I was taught to approach service as a sub. I have quite a bit of a temper too, and this is how I deal with it and it works quickly if you practice full time good behavior and well thought out communication/responses.
     
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    Your mrs should put you in panties and peg you from time to time. See how argumentative you are then. If that doesn't work set up maintanance spankings. A monthly session that is not funishment. It hurts, you will learn your place in the relationship.
    And most important if you are submisive to your wife, suck it up buttercup part of the deal is you don't get a say. Even if she is wrong she is right.
    Communication is the most important thing. Don't argue, its pointless anyway. Talk, the woman has your dick in a cage you want to piss her off ?


    If all else fails she could have you castrated
     
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    Nooooooo! Lol.
     
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    You need to find ways to control your emotions in or out of FLR. Why are you getting so anger y in the first place? Are you unhappy with some aspect of your life? Self discipline is necessary in order to live in a civilized world. Start your days by disciplining yourself; when you get out of bed, you immaterially make your bed perfectly, Start your days by following your rules 1,2, 3, etc. You can not be successful in life without self discipline; chastity, FLR, sissy has nothing to do with it.


    All the best , Lisa
     
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