beginning the journey with my wife

We had a delivery of a few new toys yesterday. One was a ratan cane. The wife gave it a quick go last night. It was just starting to get painfull and fun when she stopped.
She had a shower before bed which normally means something would happen as she always showers in the morning.
Anyway i had a shower and got into bed to watch a film together.
After a while i leaned over and started cuddling her and stroking her legs. A little while after she opened her legs so i took this as she wanted me to take it further.also she wasn't wearing any underwear.
She said I'm tired
I said if you want me stop then say so
She said well you might as well carry on now.
Then she said no I'm tired.
I got up and went to the toilet and she knew that i was peed off.
I told her that i wasn't peed off with her. We had a kiss good night and went to sleep.
I couldn't sleep as i was turned on but was peed off. but with me for reading the signs wrong and trying to top from the bottom.
I text her this morning and explained and she understood that I'm normally the alpha and we are both learning our new roles.

The coin game looked ok. But as my wife's sex drive isn't as high as mine and the shifts we work. It would be near impossible for me ever to make love to her ever again and she doesn't want that to stop either. Maybe we could change the rules to suit us.

I think for now she is happy taking it slow and finding what she's comfortable doing etc. I'm the kinky one but she has suprised me a few times now

 

Hopefully.
She keeps saying she doesn't want to go down the complete denial route but i dont think she understands the importance of tease and denial sessions or ruined orgasms. I have only been locked since monday but its now friday and nothing yet.
So it looks like she might be going down that route
She has admitted that the reason there was no intimacy before chastity is that she was lazy. I just hope she's not lazy now we're doing chastity

 

We had a good sex life before chastity. Probably twice a week if shifts allowed. But the intamcey wasn't there. We would sit on opposite sides of the settee and just watch tv. When doing chastity the first time we used to give each other massages. I would massage her feet while we watched tv. Put cream on her after a shower. Bath together more etc.but as soon as we stopped with the cage she went back to being as she said not me lazy.
I tell her all the time that i think shes sexy
I do plenty of chores and jobs round the house. She says i do more than anyone else she knows but my shifts give me plenty of days at home so i see it as well if I'm at home and shes at work then its only fair i do something.
I cook
I look after the kids and take them to school
We do go out on dates occasionaly.but probably not enough.

 

Well i was released last night for a hand job. Which is amazing when she does it.
We did speak and she said I'm not allowed to talk about chastity unless she asks. I was starting to talk alot again. So i agreed. Obviously.

 

I am locked in a cage so no masturbating.
I have been thinking about the last weeks events.
I was locked from monday and there was no teasing all week which made me feel like she had locked and forgot about me. We spoke about why i was grumpy and i explained why i felt like that and that we agreed to do chastity to become closer and more intimate. She assumed i want sex every night which is not the case.
I know that some people do lock and forget but for me instead of feeling hormy and wanting to please and do anything for my wife. I just felt grumpy and unloved.
She doesn't want it to feel like a chore and wants it to come natural.
She is not a dominant person so i understand it's hard for her too.
I have agreed to not talk about it and just post my thoughts and feelings on here. That way she can read them on here and either talk to me about it or not.
I understand that she has the keys and it's up to her how she does it. But we both want to be happy with the journey

It is definately a lot harder to adapt to the lifestyle than i thought. But hopefully we will get there.

 

I think she understands more now. So we shall see what happens now. She is going to read healthysexymarriage blog on tumblr. I think that will help as well.

 

Well saturday night we we're kissing passionately in bed and she told me to get the magic wand out. My penis was straining in it's cage when she gave me the keys to unlock it. It seemed to take ages to get the cage off and i hurt a testicle in the process which did ruin the spur of the moment thing.
After she had a orgasm she was goung to use it on me but instead i made love to her which felt amazing. I do like the magic wand but you can't beat full on sex.
Anyway afterwards she said she didn't want to use the cage anymore. She wants to still give me chores. I am allowed to initiate sex but if she doesn't want it then she will tell me to stop and if she wants something in particular then she will tell me.
I'm not conviced it will work without the cage as it hasn't in the past but i said yes of course. Maybe the cage and everything is too much too soon.
On sunday night we had a nice bath together and watched a film in bed. I was instructed to massage her feet. Afterwards we used the magic wand on each other.

Hopefully the journey will carry on

 

I agree.
But It's just evertime we seem to be making progress she slams on the brakes and we seem to go backwards.
But as she wants to try it this way then i don't really have a choice anyway
I am happy at the minute at how close and connected we are

 

I'm not sure that she is intersted. I think she is doing it to make me happy.
I wish she would read and research herself to see the benifits for her

 

Not updated for a while as well nothing is really happening. We have had her time of the month and a week away in caravan with kids so not much was going to happen anyway.

I've been given a few hand jobs and she always tells me i can cum. It's amazing when she does it now. She does spend more time tickling and teasing as before it was just straight to masterbating.

Hopefully this week we can get back on track. I would still prefer to be in a cage as it is harder for her to forget her role as such but i said no pressure so we will carry on uncaged for now.

 

It’s been a while since I posted
We have been playing with chastity on and off. But I have now ordered a jail bird from mature metal so we can hopefully keep me locked longer.
We had two weeks away in the caravan with the kids so there was no chance of any action.
When we returned I was locked, she has received quite a few orgasms and foot rubs most nights and I was also allowed to kiss her feet and toes which she knows I love to do. She leaves me chores and tasks to do.
We decided to use the wheeldecide website as to takes away the pressure on her. It did result in me having 40 spanks which is the most I’ve endured.
Last night I was unlocked and we made love but now I’m locked back up for 5 days.
Last time I went nearly 3 weeks which is the longest we’ve ever managed

 

Slow progress. But at least there is some progress now.
I have always put too much pressure on her in the past

 

Well last night my princess spun the wheel and it came up with 2 weeks. She just laughed. I was disappointed that it wasn’t a release but turned on that she laughed about it.
I did get to give her a nice back rub/scratch but she did it want it to go any further last night.
As I was massaging and kissing her back I did kiss her bum several times. I was straining in my cage all the while.

 

I have been feeling unhappy. I explained to my princess that I didn’t like knowing that it was going to be 2 weeks. She suggested that she spins the wheel but doesn’t tell me the outcome.
I felt happier straight away.
Anyway she has been feeling unwell with a cold so I’ve been on my best behaviour doing anything I can for her. I even took her shoes off for her when she came home from work.
She has been at work all weekend and I’ve been off. So I’ve cleaned the whole house. Even cleaned the fridge and the dreaded under stairs cupboard. Then on Sunday I made a full dinner and then we went to cinema with kids
She asked me to wear my lace underwear.
When we got into bed she was feeling a bit better and asked for the hitachi wand and my phone to spin the wheel again. I used the wand on her and then she used it on me. I asked if I could cum and she said yes.
She also commented last night that she likes me doing more chores and could get used to it.
Today we went out for a spot of lunch and a bit of shopping. I got tea ready before I left for work. She gave me a big kiss before I left.
I haven’t been wearing the cage for the last few days due to a sore spot. I text her from work to say it looks like it’s healed well and should be locked up soon.
Her reply was cool. Slow progress but progress at last