Balancing life and chastity

@TimidKeyHolder ooh please Miss i hope that the baby is lovley and it comes soon and then You will be happy and Your man will be as well.

 

I imagine it would be a delicate balancing act, especially as you get further along. But if it is working for you, then by all means continue. I'd just have an honest chat with him, that the seductress might need to be less frequent than mom to be. He should understand that his role is to support you, now more than ever. Congrats on the pregnancy, and best wishes.

 

Well, there you have it That's what matters, and since your relationship is steadily improving, you'll handle the baby for sure. Chastity, for all its wonderful fetishistic properties, is ultimately just a symbol of mutual devotion, understanding, love and respect.

 

Congratulations!

As far as the chastity and lifestyle, your willingness to continue and be open is the only thing you need. It sounds like you have that.

Whether it’s a baby, kids, bills, change of schedule, being ill, death of loved ones...there will be lulls and bumps in this lifestyle. It’s not realistic to think we are always going to be “on”. But your willingness to try occasionally to bridge that gap, to reach out with little reminders is all that is needed to keep everything going while life happens.

I’m not talking full out sessions, just a pat on the bottom, a verbal reminder, or even a hug with a small gesture of appreciation like “I couldn’t be happier, so glad you are caged for me” or “I wonder when I’ll ever let you out of your cage”. Just little reminders so he knows you are thinking about it occasionally, because he is reminded of it hourly while he’s locked.

Life happens, and you shouldn’t feel worried about everything falling off the table because play time is diminished. Just communicate occasionally so he knows that yes indeed you are still into this, yes you still want him submissive and pampering, and yes his position of being locked isn’t changing.

Good luck

 

Congratulations. A good time to get stricter with him. Don't know how long you usually keep him locked but perhaps no release for the last 3 months of your pregnancy.

 

Congratulations!! I guess you let him out of his cage at least once in past few months then hee hee
Sounds to me as if you naturally finding a balance that works for you. Good luck with your journey!

 

Congratulations, you’re about to have the most amazing and scariest ride of your life. My little boy is 4 now and I’ve loved every minute of it. Though you will wonder how you managed to survive the first year with no sleep (0:

You May struggle after to get some semblance of sex life after but if I may be so presumptuous to say don’t worry about that, it will return (once you get some sleep again :0)

Once again congratulations

 

My wife and I started this after we had a kid... having a family doesn't seem to "get in the way" of anything. You might just need to give each other some time to "destress" and be appropriate until the kid/kids aren't around or sleeping.

HONEST communication is key.

 

Pregnancy is a great time to experiment with chastity. Play with his mind: "You've done your job. You're not needed anymore" and lock him up. Intercourse and semen will sometimes induce labor, so maybe when you are at term and ready to deliver, unlock him for that purpose. And then when you go into labor, demand that he lock back up until some point in the future when he's needed again. It can be lots of fun for both of you. Good luck!

 

Congrats! We found out about a month ago we were pregnant for the first time, we'd also been trying for quite a while. I'd love to see a journal on your adventures! Maybe I shouldnt be lazy and do one too!

 

Congratulations Madam
I am sure that you will know how to reconcile both roles and continue to be both happy.

 

@Thatgirl could be very helpful to you. Read her posts, as she has been a great contributor here, and has able to successfully keep up her FLR and chastity lifestyle as they welcomed their newborn child.

Congratulations!

 

It's gonna be tough and it's going to depend on your level of commitment.

We have three kids. Youngest is 2.5. my wife gets caught up in the day to day with the kids sometimes. I tend to be the last one to get attention and her cup runs dry often. I also tend to be very needy so my emotions run high some weeks.

She had been resolut in keeping me caged at all times but lacking in the attention department.

If your husband is as needy as me I suggest keeping him caged. And not giving in.

 

what works for us is setting a 2-3 times a week benchmark to still indulge in our kinks and relationship.
otherwise many find that life and kids absorb all their energy and time.
if the husband wife unit are not strong, the family unit wont be as strong.
children just make it more difficult. my wife was mad that i didnt bring all this up to her till after our child was born. but now we have something to look forward to as empty nesters many many years from now.

 

Even if I do say so myself, as a submissive husband I believe I have been an excellent "mom" to our two children. At the same time, making my wife's life easier as usual. This may sound silly, but I was envious that she gave birth and I could not!

 

Congratulations!

My wife and I have a 15 month old daughter now. It hasn’t been very easy for my wife to get back into the swing of things, but I have mostly stayed locked anyway. Do try your best to at least tease him from time to time. Locked and left is very boring and can be irritating with no tease or play. Otherwise, there is no need to release him unless you want to! Enjoy!

 

All very good advice, I think the main thing is the communication. Only you two will make it work by communicating how each person feels and their needs while both of you make the adjustment of parenthood. Either way enjoy your newborn, they grow up way to fast.

 

We have three kids in their 20s and started our kink journey in earnest 15+years ago. Initially, Mistress liked my chastity as a way of taking any pressure off of Her to have sex.

Then, as things progressed, we grew into a loving FLR as a way to incorporate kink into our busy lives. That enabled me to fetishize taking on tasks that my Keyholder Wife had been doing, starting a trend of working to make Her life easier that we're still on today.

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