Attempted Ruined Orgasm

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    I have attempted to run my pet's orgasm twice now, and both times he's told me that it was a full-on orgasm. This morning I stopped many times, just as he gave the signal and even stroked him a couple more times after the signal a few times. I thought I was bringing him to the point of no return on the final attempt. I let go before he started to cum and his penis twitched and only a small amount of cum came out...I thought I had successfully done it. Does anyone have tips or tricks to ensure it is in fact a ruined orgasm and not a full-on orgasm?
     
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    In my experience, just because you stop before the point of no return, that does not mean that no orgasm is achieved. The stimulation is often enough to push over the edge and cause ejaculation. It is possible to achieve a sort of release, where the ejaculate sort of runs out slowly with no perceived orgasmic pleasure, but I find that more tricky to acomplish. My advice would be to have your pet do that for himself with you there to supervise. After all, he surely knows his plumbing more intimately than anyone else, and would know when to stop. You of course could provide a motive for him to not go too far, such as a good whipping or other corporal punishment. I guess it all depends on you trust level. Think of it as a learning opportunity to find out how he makes it work without orgasm so that the next time you do it, you can achieve similar results.
     
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    This might help explain it better > Healthy Sexy Marriage TMBLR
     
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    There are probably several variations of a ruined orgasm and it seems to me, Mistress Amanate, you were successful in ruining your pet's, at least to a degree. If you stop stroking him right at the point of no return you have in fact ruined his full orgasm. It will leave him partly frustrated, probably thrusting against thin air hoping for the minutest degree of traction so that his orgasm can be successfully completed, but eventually thanking you profusely for not draining all of his submissive energies. Next time refuse him the extra few strokes regardless of his begging and use of convenient male logic regarding his sudden change of mind and new-found necessity to explode in your hand. You will eventually become quite expert at it and begin to enjoy the experience very much as you realise the full extent of your feminine power and the control you exert on him.

    I don't think you've done anything wrong, it's just practise. You might also enjoy tease and total denial. I'm thinking you are destined to be extremely accomplished at it. Your pet will be so very worshipful.
     
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    Yes practice makes perfect.....wifey tends to either put her thumb over my pee hole or squeeze me off really tight till my cock stops jerking and the cum just goes back to where it came from
     
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    Various ways.Numbing cream for starters.
     
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    This works every time, smack the end of his penis with a frying pan. WHAM! That will ruin ANY orgasm.

    What amazes me with this topic is how variable the perceived result is. For Pinkie and I personally, the result is a strong ejaculate, not dribbling or oozing. Just the same, the feeling of incompletion is there. That was verified for me last week when Pinking ruined my first orgasm, then immediately began stroking and then causing another ruin on top of that. Perhaps your lucky pet doesn't have a need for constant stimulation to completion. Is he caged? A few weeks in a cage will increase his sensitivity and make ruining him all the easier. Men who masturbate a lot tend to be less responsive and need more stroking, making it easier to overshoot your target. Oh , I do love stupid puns!

    Here is one that always works. Uncage the boy, fiddle and stroke gently with fingers get that precum flowing, then...stop and put that cage back on. Soon that feeling of a frustrated teenager on a car date will return to haunt his wiener.

    Repeat as necessary, don't let him cum. He will feel ruined, the doctor guarantees it. Now, don't let him touch himself! If he does, GET THE FRYING PAN OUT AGAIN!
     
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    Frying pan is one of my hard limits! Lol, she was close to success on the ruined O. Didn't know that was her plan or I would have told her exactly when to stop, we will communicate before hand next time, and see how that goes.
     
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    LOL! Perhaps a small rubber spatula then.

    It can be a struggle telling your partner "STOP, I'm about to have a fulfilling, mind altering orgasm and I want you to DENY me that pleasure!!" HUH?? I've said it before and I'll say it again. An orgasm lasts but a fraction of a minute, a ruined orgasm lasts for days. I do enjoy that state of constant hornyness that only denial can produce.

    Good luck and may your trip there be an experience in itself. By the by, that internet thingie if full of examples, like http://ruinedorgasm.tumblr.com/
    Pinkie got all kinds of info from these smutty little films and gifs, and got excited as well, which she then took out on me in the most delightful way.
     
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    Nicoftime The suspense is terrible...I hope it lasts

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    I've actually done it on accident a few times, trying to hold back an orgasm, pulling out, but 10 seconds later feel it throb. Still hard and able to go on, but also know I came a lil and have to start from scratch.
     
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    I personally think that a "ruined orgasm" is different for everyone, but when put in the simplest terms what it really is ... is the denial of satisfaction that is normally achieved when having an orgasm. So that in it self (feeling satisfied) is completely different for everyone. However one of the holy grail ideas of a Ruined Orgasm is that some amount of cum is produced and that even though cum was produced (ejaculated) it did not give any sense of satisfaction but in fact left the person just as horny and craving sex as they were before the presence of cum.

    I define it this way because in my days of masturbating I could have a regular PIV orgasm (plain vanilla missionary position) and still not have that deep satisfied feeling, and still was hard and wanting more. This of course lead my into all kinds of kink. But now you take and cage me for a week and give me that same sex and I'm satisfied. So now a ruined orgasm is having little to no ejaculate contractions but yet still a small dribble of cum.

    This is what makes the "Ruined Orgasm" so tough to achieving at first but once you and your partner get in tune with each other and discover the line you are at that in facts gives you the ruined feeling you will be able to achieve it much easier.
     
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    My keyholder(wife) ruined me for the first time last night! It wasnt like anything I can describe. She actually ruined me twice in 5 mins and I was still horny as hell but back on with the cage. I would tell her to stop when I felt just the very beginning of an orgasm, and she would just massage my balls and after 4 or 5 times here it came! Total 100% cum twice with no orgasm! Best wife(keyholder)!!!
     
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    I saw this "How to" manual for ruined orgasms on a different thread last night. Having never experienced one, and having read the instructions twice, I took off my cage (I am currently self-locking) and gave it a whirl. OMG! The sensation is crazy! I had been locked/abstaining from masturbating since my last "full" orgasm in the sauna on Sunday morning, so it had been 3+ days. I stopped stroking (to ruined orgasm porn) right at the point of no return. Cum simply poured out of my cock. No twitching. No spurts. I was afraid to tighten my pelvic muscles as it might bring on the real deal... I have so much to share with my future key holder!
     
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    She doesn't post anymore, but has gotten very good at them, although it has become rarer and rarer of an occurrence.
     
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    Practice, practice and more practice. You are doing well, must persevere.
     
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    Smack his balls balls firmly and repeatedly as he starts to cum then when flow stops start strokin hard...not enjoyable!!
     
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    Excellent Tumblr blog
    My Wife/KH has become quite proficient at Ruining me - it's very frustrating at the time and even a couple of weeks ago I cussed out loud in extreme frustration (my Wife looked me straight in the eyes and asked "Did you just cuss at me?" :eek: ;))... Ultimately I'm thankful @n2toys does not give in and give me a full orgasm.
    It does take some practice but it's a hell of fun road to travel...

    Being bound tightly to our torture horse in a doggy position or held rigidly upright with my balls locked in a ball cuff attached to a solidly mounted bar seems to work best, this puts me in a position where I'm completely unable to move and thrust my hips and try to get off which I inevitably attempt to do in the heat of the moment and being under my Wife's complete control adds to the thrill.

    I've also wondered how having my balls stretched and pulled away at the same time will impact being successfully ruined - normal reflex action when a man comes is for the balls to be drawn up tight.

    Right now we're in a quest to accomplish either a hands-free ejaculation where my Wife causes a release without touching my cock or balls and / or being milked by either pegging and internal massage - right now I'm four weeks out since having a full-O and three weeks since a ruined-O; I think the current plan is for no O at all for me to help accomplish our hands-free or milking goal.
     
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    I've attempted on a few occasions to give myself a ruined orgasm. I think I achieved it the last time which was the weekend leading to July 4. I was unlocked and allowed free run for the weekend and holiday but played with other devices myself but I had to try. I stroked till I felt the urge and stopped. I ejaculated slowly and a lot less than normal and didn't feel as though I had. I was still horny but locked myself back up just the same. Since I was on my liberty so to speak, it was about 30 minutes or so later that I weakened and masturbated to a full orgasm. Ms K/H found that funny since, normally, once I ejaculate, I'm done for a long while. I'm for ruined orgasms now, keep me on the edge, don't let me enjoy any of them. Tell me February 29th is my only chance at orgasm.
     
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    Someone just liked a post on this old thread and thought I would update.

    Sadly, @Mistress Amanté no longer visits or posts much. The last time she was bored waiting for her mother’s doctor appointment to be over, and even that one was just to visit my status updates. So if you’ve messaged her, I wouldn’t expect a quick reply lol.

    That being said, she has solved this particular problem, got quite good at them, and I’m not sure why, but has abandoned them. I think she doesn’t like the risk of taking it too far and starting over and not even getting the sex part herself. Like if you’re going to cum, we’re not wasting it on a wank in my hand.

    Anyway, she hasn’t given me one in a long time. She just prefers to get me revved up by giving her pleasure and leaving it at that, and walking away so to speak.

    It does work but I do miss the attention and stimulation. About the only thing it ever feels or comes into contact with for the last year or so has been the inside of my cage, or her. I groom it about every month, but it’s after we’ve been intimate so no interest or ability to pleasure myself while doing so. She does touch it through the cage often, but not the same as full on erection contact.

    Might bring this subject up with her, I do like the pressure relief of a ruined, even if I don’t like the clean up lol.
     
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    My wife loves to ruin my orgasms because she doesn't notice any down time on my part, and she loves it when I do my clean up duty. Actually, I control it...I lick her pussy and tongue fuck her ass (see avatar), then I stand and rub little willy on her pussy and ass. Then I stop and rest little willy at the top of her pussy and wait 4 or 5 seconds to see if anything happens. If not I just repeat and repeat those steps until something happens. Eventually cum will dribble out and run down her pussy on to her ass, leaving me a nice cream pie. Why would she ever give me another full blown orgasm...this is too much fun for her.
     
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    Easier to use a vibrator to bring it closer and closer to flowing cum out. Stroking it is too much and is associated with cumming.

    Vibe on the underside and you can lightly touch or heavy vibe.... Have fun and practice .
     
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    I think it helps to separate the two processes involved in a male orgasm that you don't think about until you understand how it works.

    There is the reflex that causes the balls to contract, the glands to flow and all the liquid to get pushed out... this is the ejaculation.

    Orgasm is related but a separate process and what causes the pleasure of the climax. A "ruined orgasm" is simply an ejaculation with a minimized orgasm. When you don't fully orgasm, you don't get the chemical dump that prevents you from continuing forward because your brain is satisfied so your desire it turned off.

    If you go too far and the chemical bath is achieved, you're done until you can get past the refractory period.
     
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    Nicoftime The suspense is terrible...I hope it lasts

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    Again, just wanted to state that @Mistress Amanté no longer checks in on me here or has any interest in the interaction with the community. So although your advice is very nice, I doubt she will see it or respond.

    As to the subject matter, she figured it out. I remember the first time she ruined one completely...I call them bleeding orgasms where it just pours out...it actually turned her on. She was very happy about getting me to that point and not going to far. She even scooped it up and fed it to me. A first, and although I am not a fan of it, her doing that, especially in that super horned up state, was one of the most erotic things I’ve ever done. Even after a full O inside her, being verbally told to clean it up gets me into her and into a pleasing state of mind almost instantly.

    As I said before, I believe it no longer is an interest of hers. Then again, I also stopped asking, I hate to pressure her, and assume she knows I’m always horny, and if she doesn’t give me ruined orgasms it’s because she doesn’t think it’s worth her while.

    I crave to please her, and although I would probably be better at it if most of my orgasms were ruined, ordered to clean them up etc, I will continue to try to please her however she feels like. I can certainly understand her not willing to risk losing all that submissiveness by giving me a ruined but accidentally taking it a bit too far. Then unless she really gets verbal, or tells me to do certain things, it may take a week or two to get me back to where we were. We are happy, more importantly she is happy, so all is well!
     
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    Sounds to me like you did it. Keep trying, the trick is to stop stimulation 3 or 4 seconds before cum dribbles out. He may feel some pleasure, but if you can increase the time to 6 or 7 seconds, he may feel little or no pleasure. Little or no pleasure is best, because he will stay very horny. My wife will only allow me ruined orgasms, in an effort to keep me horny all the time,and I love it.
     
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    Last two weekends, I was licking her and as soon as I started rubbing her on her body, I got a cum from my a273 chineCh lick.
    Will it count a regular orgasm or a ruined orgasm
     
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