Are You Allowed You Allowed to Drink Alcohol with Your Wife?

Most fascinating. While I am not specifically denied alcohol when locked, I am generally denied most of the privileges associated with being an adult. This would be true with booze if my wife drank. She's essentially a teatotaler.

 

It seems she has established what you are allowed or not allowed while caged. Makes sense to me, as you are giving up some control by being in a cage. If it is a big issue, discuss it with her, when you aren't caged, to see if there is some wiggle room on her part. Maybe offer a trade of some other privilege if is important.

 

I don't understand. You don't want to be in chastity, so sit down with your wife and tell her that. If she tries to order you around or tell you you can't do something, just ignore her. What can she do? Not have sex with you? She's already playing that card.

 

Ooh, that's a rough one. Good for you to abstain as She demands and work to avoid this happening again.

One of my minor punishments is to stick to water only for a couple of days every once in a while. Not much for most of you, but it serves its purpose with me.

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Ik agree with @Unlucky, you need to renegotiate your conditions with your keyholder. A relation should be fun for the both of you.

 

Not really sure you can pick and choose what parts of an FLR you want. You can choose to have an FLR or not. You asked for wine she said no. Are you saying she's wrong ?

 

I don't drink alcohol anyway, my Wife likes a glass of wine, every now & then.

 

I dont drink, but I'm pretty sure she would be ok with it

 

it's the hard-knock life
Steada treated,
We get tricked
Steada kisses,
We get kicked
It's the hard-knock life!

 

If that is your reality, you either accept or run.

 

Sometimes in a sub - Domme relationship, the Domme pushes the sub to actually do and accept those things that the sub secretly wants, but is afraid to admit or embrace. If that works for you, enjoy as she is releasing what is your inner desires.

 

Diagnosing relationships on the basis of a few lines of text from one of the parties is always a bad idea, but that being said, your relationship with your wife seems questionable. Someone might even use words like toxic or abusive though those people would possibly running afoul of the diagnosing relationships on the internet issue.

Some things you've said:
You're in chastity and don't want to be.
Your wife denies you things you want that aren't sex related. Some of those are major relationship issues and something she previously said she wanted.
You don't have the will to fight her on things that are important to you.
Probably more but I don't feel like digging through all of your posts ever.

It sounds like you need to either talk to a mental health professional* or a marriage counselor and see if you can work some of this stuff out.

*Telling everyone they need a therapist is another thing the internet likes to do but in this case it seems like not a bad idea.

 

As long as no limits are crossed, there is no need for any counceling.

 

My wife and I drink together. She doesn't restrict my drinking any more than usual when I'm in chastity. She does warn me occasionally not to drink too much. One thing I've noticed when I'm in chastity is that I regulate myself a little better. For example, I really don't like drinking a lot of beer before bed time because I'll have to wake up and go pee, and waking up needing to pee while in chastity is often accompanied by painful nighttime erections.

That said, as one example of my submission to her, I am always expected to pour or make her drinks and to clean up the bar and our glasses when we're done.

 

If we are out then I am always the driver, and we don’t drink that much at home, but madam does allow me.

 

Making her a drink almost always involves one for both of us. We enjoy various whiskey over a single large ice ball or cube.

On the rare occasion I've poured myself a drink without making or at least offering one to her... the best I can expect is a tounge lashing and a couple extra swats that evening when I'm inevitably recieving the business end of a cane or oversized wooden spoon.

 

When and how did this forum become so judgy? Buildup made total sense as a sub talking in sub mode about his particular d/s relationship, and many commenters wanted to ship him off to the funny farm.

Jesus Christ, people. He didn't ask for psychiatry. He asked about whether your mistress lets you consume booze.

 

Me and my partner/KH haven't had chance to play much since starting our journey due to living apart and the lockdown but we talk a lot about things that we want to do. She loves to tease me with her feet and we have mentioned about on a night in with being caged and having some beer I am too make a foot bath with my beer for her,if I wish to drink then I am to get on my knees and drink the beer around her feet. Its yet to happen yet but I think this is a good deal.

 

@buildup I missed this one the 1st time but I can assure you that much of what you said makes total sense to me. Chastity was my GF's idea. Once I'm locked and the hormones kick in I love it and am compliant without choice to most things (if she crosses the line the magic shuts off though). When I'm out I'm really happy to be free. Its very different, I imagine, for guys that have fantasized about this for years.

She tricked me back in this morning (asked me to cuddle and had cuffs under her pillow) and I'm mad as a wet hen right now. She is giggling with delight. In 3 days I will be lusting at her feet. What is abusive to some can be fun for others.

But she does let me drink with her - so long as I'm making progress on her many projects. Well, we will see in about 2 weeks when she can really push her powers again!

 

my wife plies me with alcohol, usually beer or wine, then takes off my cage and tells me to fuck her, she has her legs open wide on the bed....but she knows I cant get a hard cock when ive had some alcohol, she calls me a pathetic sissy and cages me back up....just another frustrating humiliation.