Are you a lifer?

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    This is a very interesting thread @L-u-c-y it would have been nice if it started as a poll so we could have seen how many of us want to be lifers. So far I would say we’re winning.
     
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    Wife and I talked about this again last night. You know that she is more into girls and does not allow PIV or anyplace else. So for us Chastity is a good fit. I kind of like the fact that my wife has no interest in my penis or orgasms other than to tease me.

    Normally we get bored with fetishes in 3-5 years but BDSM has been with us since the beginning of our marriage and we do incorporate some of it into our chastity play. Mostly CBT, Nipple torture and impact play. My wife says she could care less if I have an orgasm again but since she loves me and sometimes gets carried away during feelings of intense love, she will let a ruined orgasm go all the way.

    We have done most, if not all, the fetishes on Fetlife. Chastity was selected as it was the only one we had not tried and it catered to my need for sexual masochism without the blood and welts/bruises. We have tried to quit chastity a few times but we both miss it and come back to it.

    For now we are committed to it as our normal sex life. My wife still does not wish to extend the power exchange to the rest of our marriage, but with me retired and having free time, I am sure she will find things for me to do.

    One thing I learned is never say never. For now chastity best suits the situation of my wife's sexual preferences and the medical problems I have that prevent erections. We took lemons and made lemonade. :) Honestly, I feel more comfortable when I am locked. Best way to describe it is how I feel when I am not wearing my wedding ring. Feels like something is missing and my bond to my wife is not with me anymore.
     
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    I think about this fairly often. Truth is, I don't know. We're very on and off with chastity with long periods that are all or mostly on, and then business trips and other things that shift it the other way until it's been months since I've been in chastity and I start to think we're ready for it again and it takes maybe a bit longer for her to feel the same way.

    So for several years it's been a bit uncertain if and when I'd be in chastity. We both like it immensely when our heads are in it and the stars align. Family and work and other things get in the way, I think maybe a lot more than they should. Will that get better as the kids grow and eventually move out? I hope so! But will that also coincide with one or both of us losing interest in chastity or even in anything sexual? I don't know...
     
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    hopefully for life (or at lest the life of my libido)
     
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    Everything in my life are phases
    Some last longer than others
    Right now I enjoy being in a chastity device and hope to be indefinitely but life sometimes has its own ideas and forces it’s own course
    The trick is to enjoy the ride
     
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    There was a point where I was uncertain but now I know this is for life. Too much good comes of this and I think my Miss and I are much more content in our lives because of chastity. It's also allowed us to open up more with each other. It really was one of the best things we've done for our relationship.
     
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    So you're in your mid-30s. If you're right, you've already had about 90% of the orgasms you'll have your whole life, assuming only 2.5/week since age 15 (=5200) and 1 per 3 weeks for the next 40 years.. Congratulations!
     
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    Bratty Boi Chastened Psychologically getting off by NOT getting off!

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    One can but hope so!
     
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    That's if Miss keeps it at this pace, steam seems to be building up with our FLR. Who knows what the future holds ;)
     
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    So you mean the number might be 95% or 98%?
     
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    Bratty Boi Chastened Psychologically getting off by NOT getting off!

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    You make that sound like it is a bad thing! :)
     
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    To be honest your previous estimate on my frivolity before I was caged is a bit off, I'm probably looking at 99% lol, even if she sticks to the 3 weeks or so.
     
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    yes

    I will probably be buried in it
     
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    My wife has NEVER been a fan of anything kinky, strange or different when it comes to sex. I have been surprised how willing she is to engage and keep me in chastity. It could happen.

    It depends on how long she wants to keep going.
     
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    After more than a decade on hormones, erections are rare. However there is still a major psychological component to being in a device. My wife likes the way I change when locked up for extended periods, `

    While she has looked at belt style devices she prefers the ball trap, and since I have no plans for GCS, it will continue to work. She's suggested I look into using a pop-rivet to secure the MM cage I'm currently in, since it could be removed in the case of an emergency, but would otherwise require little maintenance.

    I don't expect to be unlocked anytime soon, and after I have both knees replaced in December, I think she feels that I should be locked up permanently. We have an open/poly marriage and she has little trouble getting her strong sexual needs filled, from me, in some ways, and from men who can perform to her satisfaction. I know she expect me to find a boyfriend or two who can address my sexual needs, as well.

    And we are both very happy together.
     
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    Very well said @Joey love
     
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    Chastity has added so much to our relationship over the last twelve months. Even if she stopped tomorrow, all that we have learned will remain with us.

    She seems to be having a lot of fun, and is enjoying the exploration. As long as she continues to enjoy, I will remain locked for her pleasure.

    I’m pretty sure that was not the original plan...
     
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    omg....that made me laugh so hard.....My Wife and i have already had that discussion, but we have decided on cremation, so asked her if she thought my cage would melt or be all that is left with my ashes.....I know slightly morbid, but such as one of life's discussions.
     
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