Hi My reflection at the moment (and actually several years) , if a ruined O isn‘t the better solution for a good mood (for the man) and a happier wife and realationship longterm. So if you would have to choose to experience it -and nothing else- say once a week/month, what would you prefer? Cheers, ray
You could say that anyone who is consensually chastised has already expressed a preference for avoiding real orgasms, so I'd be very surprised if the poll has many votes at all for a real orgasm.
Real orgasms for me are rarely all that good, with a few exceptions. The really good ones though, often lead to a bad mood drop and a bit of depression. A perfectly ruined one reminds me perfectly that I'm the bottom in a D/s relationship, and the thrill of being so close, and just ejaculating instead, is more pleasure for me really.
Count me in with preferring full orgasms! For me, there is no substitute for the real thing. It feels fabulous and gives that wonderful high that is unmatchable. It also gives a good challenge to my submission to my Keyholder Wife, @MistressAMA, to 1) do clean up duty and 2) up my level of submission post-climax, when my mind strays into noncompliance. Mind you, i'll take what i can get and have no issue with ruineds! asa
Chastity is by definition orgasm control. Long term orgasm denial can be a feature, but it is not a requirement. So, no, people in chastity have not all already expressed a preference for avoiding real orgasms.
So as far as i can see we have a clear trend of about 75% voters for ruined O. Really interesting. Thanks for voting! Ray69
Until I met my wife full orgasms most of the time weren’t all that great for me. With her they are often phenomenal and go right through my whole body. That said, the better (and fuller) the orgasm, the less inclined I am to want to be locked up again afterwards. So in terms of chastity, particularly if I am to relock afterwards, perfectly ruined is my preference.