My KH made the following observation in a text discussion; "That's nice ❤️…and interesting; That you don't feel that way toward me when unlocked. Not a complaint just interesting.” This was after I professed to her that once I was locked, "It's a bit like a switch. Once on I want to serve you, touch you, look at you, listen to you, make you happy.” This got me thinking. Is having an ‘aid’ to improve behavior and disposition a good or bad thing? One could say that having an iWatch to help encourage disciplined work outs is an aid, and without one, you might not behave similarly. In the first decade of our relationship, I was the dominant and she the submissive. I registered her on the Slave Register and accommodated her new tattoo proclaiming her servitude to me. Those ownership gestures no doubt triggered a disposition in her head that was different to the one prior to those activities. I also thought about our mutual enjoyment of sharing happy hours together. We have drinks, talk about all sorts of things, and invariably talk about kink, sex, flirting, etc. Our feelings toward each other with the aid of a few cold ones changes…its nice. I would not say there is anything wrong with such aids. Similarly, snapping the cage on Sherlock and handing Her the key is an aid, a messenger to trigger my intense feelings of devotion and willingness to do her bidding so that she is happy. Further, it supports huge amounts of honesty and discipline to do the things I told her I would do. I have shared with my KH the darkest of secrets while sitting at my desk with my cock locked safe and sound. So, in all..locked or unlocked I love my Domina deeply. The aids, in whatever form they are, accentuate that pleasurably. Keen to hear feedback from others on this perspective/topic. Happy Monday!