Discussion in 'Chastity without feminisation and crossdressing' started by enslavedbyc, Oct 11, 2022.
Same here, except my wife appreciates the obedience as well. But she has no desire for wimpiness.
i don't want a wimpy or sissy boy. no offense to those who to, just my preference.
Queen / knight for us for sure.
still self locked so this is a hypothetical
But the archetype that appeals to me the most would actually be
The wild beast is ferocious and powerful. He has spent his days seeking to take what he wants. But when bonded to one he trusts, he gladly submits to her restraint, allowing her to use his power for her own ends
The reason I like this idea is because it isn't truly FLR at all. It just leans on that idea. There's nothing to stop a lion from just up and eating it's master. And in the same way, I'm still the one with all the power in the sense that I could just end the dynamic at any time. However, by submitting to a tamer (aka, a partner), I would be choosing to trust her and give her a great deal of control by proxy
This is exactly the dynamic I want, it's been hard to find others who understand! I don't want to be worshipped and adored, I like a man who's a bit of a beast, I just decide when to take his leash off.
I think the way of describing some basics of your relationship with those archtypes fun.
Of course labels can sometimes problematic, but it is rather the people using them that there could be no variation or adittion to those labels.
And labels can also help. In this case it is a fun way to describe on a most basic level how the two of you might interact most of the time.
From the given alternatives I would choose queen and knight.
Even though the protective part is vertainly more on my side most of the time"Lady and gemtleman" might be an even better description for how we interact.
Queen Knight here as well, but I can also relate to the Beast a bit as well.
I have been known to arc up in defense of my partner only for her to reign me in. Of course she is right to do so.
And for those that have been saying this should be in the FLR forum, the reason this forum was created was for a masculine biased discussion. One would expect some parallel discussions to occur
Just not interested in nappy wearing slave nipple suckers or trapped clitty interjections.
That said, My partner does know I adore and worship her, but I don't do it by getting on my knees....well...OK not a lot of the time..... when she gets out of the shower I am often summoned to give her kiss on her pussy which in fact is done on my knees
I guess, defining queen/knight is a very good one!
We are the same…
my wife doesn’t want a sissy or subby husband, I don’t have the urge to be.
But I do wear a cage and hold my O’s for her.
she loves me being “the man in the house” and protecting her but also loves to be treated as a queen!
I think this set-up works perfect for us
We are definitely Queen/ Knight
I love that dynamic where the outward appearance is the exact opposite of what people assume it is. It makes it all the more privately erotic, where what you do is hidden in plain sight.
One example in my case: When we're together, I always drive the car. Not because I'm the dominant one, but because it's much more relaxing for her to be the passenger.
I struggled to find a definition in the OP that matches our dynamic, Tamer/Beast sums us up quite well, thanks for the insight.
I’m adding Brat Tamer / Brat to my list. As that is another role we live.
For those who enjoy archetypes but are not so much into submission or FLR, these might help:
Coach / Athlete
Coach has got him on a schedule, monitors his energy, and is encouraging / working with him to win.
Therapist / Patient
He’s got a goal in mind, and his therapist is working with him to see if that goal is realistic and how close they can get to him reaching that goal.
Not as sexy or romantic as some of the others mentioned, but for those who like archetypal imagery as a framework, these might be a start.
ETA: I suppose there’s also Cheerleader / Athlete, in that one is cheering him on, and the other is striving to impress.
Absolutely love these
There is a professional that advertises an interest in "chastity life coaching," so I think these are all right on brand for a given subset of the population. The use of the carrot/stick for health or lifestyle objectives is quite common, why not make it kinky?
I think non-sexual archetypes are also important, and the ones you listed above could be used for platonic purposes. I think platonic chastity can be a way for men to see a value in it besides the sexual thrill. Chastity is about self-control and reaching goals. If chastity is a lifestyle, doesn't that mean it has a purpose and value even if it's not sexy? I did personal growth chastity with someone a few years ago and it was very fulfilling for us both.
Perverted Sex Fiend / Reluctant Vanilla Wife
I didn't even kneel when I asked my wife to marry me, but she was already pregnant at the time so I had her under the gun. Reverse shotgun wedding.