I like the idea of people seeing me locked but I want to be responsible about how I go about fulfilling this fantasy. Anyone have any fun, legal suggestions?
Make an account on fetlife, see what meetings/gatherings are in your area. There's usually some bdsm stuff, bondage courses, things like that. There's likely something that would match what you want and are willing to do
Agree with DreamerFi, have been to several local BDSM munches (from Fetlife) and found a kinky bunch of people there. After the program, which only lasts a little while, everybody congregates and discusses various kinky things. Tell one of the females there that you are caged and that's sure to elicit a great conversation. It did for me! Great fun and now I have a couple of good, kinky friends!
My wife and I used to go to nude beaches. That is perfectly acceptable and a good conversation starter. Got a few offers to do a wife swap.
ChastityPHD, I don't know if you are into dressing en femme or not, but since being feminized by my wife, I have had several occasions to hint around about my cage , and even discuss it openly a couple of times, with the sales assistants at womens stores. Once I tried on a slinky knit dress at Lane Bryant and, seeing my bulge, the SA asked if I was "happy to see her" or what? I picked up a hanger and clicked the metal part against my cage and told her that I was in chastity and unable to hide the bulge discretely. She was amazed and had to tell the other SA's while I was changing. When I came out of the dressing room, there was a discussion of cages going on near the register (store was empty) and I became the instant expert. I was too embarrassed to actually show them my caged clitty, so I went home and brought back my old CB6000 in a paper bag, so that they could see, touch and feel. That was the start of a continuing relationship with the SA's which has lasted for a couple of years. They all are still trying to figure out ways to get their hubbies caged!