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Appeal of extended lock up/never orgasming again

Discussion in 'Chastity and orgasm denial' started by Lockedfiancé, Jan 20, 2018.

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If you were asked to be locked for over a year would you do it?

  1. Yes, gladly.

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  2. Yes, but only because that what she wants.

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  3. No, but we could discuss something slightly shorter.

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  4. No, I would never agree to that.

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  1. Lockedfiancé
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    What's the appeal both for key holders and subs of locking up/getting locked up for an extended period of time? For those that have done extended lock ups did it involve teasing (caged or uncaged) and what did it do to your sex drive to go that long without an orgasm?
     
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    Poll should also have another option:

    'I'm a KH and want to see the results!!'

    :):):)
     
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    You can learn about one emotions and how our body adaptes
    The cycles of calmness and cycles of horniness. The amount of time between cycles
     
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    Longest I went was 9 months. It included caged teasing. Libido wasn’t effected in big ways, but I did notice cycles of higher and lower libido.
     
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    Done it last year
     
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    Long term is one of my goals. Done 9 months a few times, would like to get to that year though.

    It’s difficult though. You do need a lot of attention from your keyholder. You need to know that their is a reason for this. You need teasing, edging, and you still need to explore the kinks you love.

    We’ve failed sometimes due to a ‘lock and forget’ aproach.

    I’ve noticed my labido drop over the years - this might be just an age thing though. I get cycles of being horny and then not. Sometimes I can get wet dreams or involuntary release.
     
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    wearing a cb does not mean no orgasm ,its possible to cum while cage but its rather unsatisfying.
     
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    The point is if you are locked long term you certainly need plenty of teasing. Now that doesn't have to be physical. Some of the best best teasing is through innuendo, maybe a wink of the eye or a lick of the lips or a suck on an ice lolly! Or by the wonderful medium of the text message. If you are just locked up and left then its boring!
     
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    After being caged for many years I think the biggest change for me is my attitude . Now when I find myself in a horny mood, I approach my wife/mistress in a very submissive way. ie Sitting on the floor beneath her, foot kisses , massage etc... Whereas before, I would tend to be more aggressive in my intent.
    Once my intentions are recognized by her, I usually end up in some form of in-escapable bondage . I gladly comply with her wishes as one of three things then happen.
    1) -most likely- I am left in bondage for many hours without any gratification.
    2) -less likely- I am left in bondage for many hours and then I am teased with the device still locked on. no orgasm
    3) - very rare- I am left in bondage for many hours and then I am teased with the device still locked on then she finishes me off with a vibrator with the device still locked on.
    Yes..she keeps the vibrator locked up as well.

    She likes being in control of when and how I orgasm.
    I think she also likes the fact that there is no chance of me cheating on her as well.

    It used to be that I could achieve an orgasm even while in chastity if I was very horny.
    Ever since I have been on high blood pressure medicine, I can no longer quite muster enough effort to get to the "O" with the chastity device installed.
    Now she truly is in control of my sex.

    As far as sex drive, it has definitely decreased over the years. Not sure if this is due to chastity or age .
     
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    As you wish..
    Results so far 10, 19, 6, 4, :)
     
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    This might be better for you Joro
    1. Yes, gladly.
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    2. Yes, but only because that what she wants.
      19 vote(s) 48.7%
    3. No, but we could discuss something slightly shorter.
      6 vote(s) 15.4%
    4. No, I would never agree to that.
      4 vote(s) 10.3%
     
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    Thanks. I as Mod can actually see though I don't know if others can.
     
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    Going back to the original question about the appeal to keyholders of long term lockup, I had a discussion with my wife a few nights ago that shed a little bit of light.

    I have been pushing her hard to open up about what excites her and what doesn’t. She confided the other night that knowing I want her badly but can’t get hard and penetrate her is a huge erotic turn on for her. I asked if me being permanently in that condition aroused her and she said it was a very exciting fantasy that she frequently has.

    So, there is one wife’s perspective on permanent chastity. Obviously every woman is different, but some really do find it exciting.
     
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    As a 'normal' member (not sure what normal is in CM lol) I can see the results by clicking on the 'View Results' tab on the poll questions.
     
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    Thanks. I wasn't sure if the view results tab was visible to all Members or not. Mods can sometimes see things others cannot.
     
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    The thing a Poll doesn't include is the age, lifestyle and the kind of person who voted on it. If I was 25 I wouldn't want to be locked up for a year. But I'm 55 and have lived a very good life. To experience the excitement of being teased and denied for along time makes it all worth while now. I have learned that their is more to life than getting an erection or having an orgasm, see my wife have more pleasure is more important to me than my own.

    People who have been locked for a long period of time are very very few in number. We just happen to all gather here at the mansion. We should run the same poll in a mainstream newspaper to see the results, now wouldn't that be interesting.
     
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    I thought about this after I posted it and I wondered how much age would play a factor in people's decisions. I'm only 22 and while I am fine being locked up for at most a month long, a year seems like I would go mad.
     
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    When I was 22 back in 1984 I had never heard of anything like Chastity, or Locking up your Penise. I would like to think that I would have experimented with it than but staying locked for a long period of time. I don't think would have happened. Age and experience has made a difference to me, in 30 years who knows what the exciting kink will be. You have an exciting future. Sometimes I wish I was still 22. Enjoy
     
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    This is a persistant FANTASY of mine. I think a lot of guys find it hot to think about a froced long term lock up. That would mean our wives have come to really LOVE and get off on denying us (which they often do not get off on as much as we might like)

    In reality, I think a lot of us have a partner that is somewhere on the left side of the range, where Left End is "I totally want to be in charge of my guy. I love making all the decisions. It feels right to be in control." And the middle is "I like an equal power relationship". Many of our partners seem to sometimes enjoy dominating, controlling and sexually frustrating us, which is awesome, but often the like to suck on our members and touch them and have intercourse. Well, I'll speak for my amazing wife. She can play a hot chastity game for maybe a week, and then is craving to unlock me, where my mental state is fascinated by what she said- that I'd be locked a month or two and become her most submissive husband, doing everything for her you can imagine.

    When we were younger our partners desire and need for our member was awesome! Shockingly, as we realize the excitement of the chastity fantasy, we almost wish they wanted to lock us up for a longer time, AND tease the heck out of us too.

    WOW! THAT IS IT! You are so lucky to have well meshing fantasies where she can be really good at understanding the potential appeal of a long term lock up!

    OH, and I think this is probably a tad like a "rape fantasy". It sounds really hot to imagine our partner is more extreme than they are. But really, we might not enjoy that much at all! We might hate it! But imagining them a bit more in a certain direction allows us to explore our fantasies in that direction.
     
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    The funny thing is, at first I didn’t really enjoy chastity that much. Once I got to where the urge to masturbate was no longer an issue, I kind of wanted to stop. But I saw how much my wife loved it and decided to keep going. As time has gone on (2.5 years now) I find that I actually find the idea of permanent chastity arousing. Funny how things change over time. I guess I have conditioned myself to associate sexual gratification with chastity and now my fantasy life has shifted to fantasizing about chastity and pleasing my wife rather than the old status quo of shoving my cock in her crotch and squirting.
     
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    Your comments explain it very well. It's better to Give than Recieve funny how things change :+1::+1::)
     
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    Oh Yes! That is true for me also.
    Some things my wife has done that were her ideas of dominance didn't excite me at first, but then I learned to really get excited by these things. So keyholders- don't give up if something you really like doesn't work the first time or two.

    OMG, even just doing the dishes can become somewhat arousing.
     
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    You've made a very serious change in your relationship and it takes time to adjust for both of you. Patience is very important, it's not a race it's a Journey. I like your Post
     
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    My KH the other night when I was asking what has changed in her head about keeping me locked up for longer than just a day or two at a time said it had become a huge turn on for her. The power she said she feels when she knows I can't touch myself or get hard gets her really turned on. The cage that she was so unsure of at first has become her favorite thing about this, the cage in and of itself seems to be a turn on for her. She loves the fact that while I pleasure her with my mouth or a toy I can't touch myself. Listening to her talk about not liking to take the cage off was erotically scary lol. Being a guy I thought that her getting that turned on would naturally lead to PIV sex... laughing at myself now for thinking that because that is not even close to what happens. Slightly scared to see where she ends up going with extended lockups 10-15 years down the road when we are in our 30s.
     
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