Anyone else have a KH that isn't their wife...and the wife supports it?

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    Was curious to know if anyone else had a KH/MISTRESS but was also married...and their wife was not the KH.

    My wife and I have been married for 12 years and counting and love each other to bits. We have a 7-year old son and live a totally "normal" life from all appearances. However, I am also in chastity to MISTRESS Damazonia. She holds the key and decides when the cage ever comes off (which is never).

    My wife and my MISTRESS know and respect and like each other. There is no issue there. My wife and I rarely had intercourse so it's not like we are going to be missing sex in that way.

    It seems strange maybe but it works for us. Any similar situations out there?

    * I must always type MISTRESS in all caps as per Her instructions
     
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    Yes I have
     
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    How lovely to have a wife and Mistress who know each other and get along. The nearest I got was taking my wife to a training session with a Mistress but that was all it was.
     
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    My wife has no interest in my chastity -
    She expressed if I need to find someone for chastity to do it also long as I love my wife
    So I do have distance KH
    My wife and myself hadn’t really had sex in couple years - Her health and her just not feel it sexually -
    So my Kh has one of my keys and she very rarely allows unlocking and she allows self milking when she decides
     
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    This is a fascinating concept. I suspect this could work well so long as sex in the marriage has dwindled to the point of none existant and I think the wife in question also would need to be somewhat submissive.
    For me this would never be an option even reading about it makes my blood boil a little. I suspect experiencing this would almost be the equivalent of how my BR feels when I cuckold him. Having my man's deepest desires met by another woman would certainly break me. Having another woman experience and control my man's submission must result in an incredible bond. This bond, because it is not entirely sexual is likely stronger than that of a cuckoldresses to her bull.
    We are all so different. It is wonderful you found something that works for you and brings you happiness. This is certainly not for everyone. Best wishes
     
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    Good for you for finding this outlet. She is great for consenting to it!

    For the record, my wife and I still do sexual things (me performing and her enjoying), but the intercourse thing is not something we did a lot nor focused on in our relationship even from the beginning. Plenty of other ways to make her toes curl. :cool:
     
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    We still do sexy stuff but intercourse is not and has never been a regular thing. My wife would definitely say she is the opposite of submissive lol She is a brat and feisty as heck. Whacks me regularly for no reason haha (OK maybe because I am brat to her, too)

    The bond between myself and my MISTRESS is very special but so is the bond between my wife and I. It's just different. When we decided to open up our marriage to other partners we both acknowledged that we could never be all things to each other, and in fact were relieved that the other could get their itches scratched elsewhere without any issues for us. She is happy that I am happy and vice versa. We're life partners and have so far been able to adapt to each other's growth and journey.

    Thank you! And I agree, I think it would be extremely difficult if you couldn't compartmentalize sex in a way. It's definitely not for everyone and I fear for anyone who goes down this road without an extremely good measure of themselves and an honest assessment of their insecurities. And the conversation should never end. We both have veto power over the other but the nuclear option should be avoided at all costs.

    Sure appreciate your perspective!
     
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    The relationship between the two women seems to be very important in your case. That they respect each other and get along would seem to be essential for success. Glad you've found something that works for all.
     
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    It's essential that they get along, to be sure. It couldn't work otherwise. And I will do absolutely everything in my power to not fuck that up lol
     
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    I think it is very good to know the reality of not being able to be all things to each other. One can have a perfectly good marriage as life partners and be able to adapt to each others sexual needs and proclivities while still loving and respecting each other. In the totality of living life together, sex is not necessarily at the top of the agenda.
     
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    Got as far as trying it with handing over the 'keys' to my Cellmate to a third party for a while and also using the 'Solo Play' timer where once it is locked neither of us can do anything about until the clock runs out.

    Unfortunately all those bet are off at the moment with the hacking problems are having and the 'launch' of their new App !?

    So I'm sitting here typing this in my 'Good things (don't) come in small packages' resin cage. The idea's fascinating though.
     
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    Not specifically chastity, but I know quite a few couples who have D/s or kink relationships outside of their marriage. Unfortunately, many of the male chastity enthusiasts I've met online are seeking out a KH/domme without their wife's knowledge -- I'm happy that you and your wife have been able to be honest about your needs and how to meet them!
     
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    Kind of. My wife is my key holder but my sister in law (25) holds a spare key.
    My wife has also given her permission to peg me as she would like.
    She taken advantage of this many times and has even pegged me in front of her fiance.
     
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    Now that's a beautiful relationship.
     
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    What a beautiful relationship.

    My wife is my key holder, the second key is held in the family safe. We wish that we had someone else we could tell of our lifestyle (beside all you guys - thanks) and they could hold the second key.


    My KH/Mistress and I have not had intercouse for over 6/7 years, due to my ED. Mistress will demand me to wank her with her magic wand, which I love and am proud to oblige. Her pussy gets big and red and the expression on her face is fantastic.

    Mistress denies me all, I love not being able to cum as it sums up my worthless submissive life. I will continue to worship my Mistress and hopefully one day someone else.
     
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    Although my Wife is my KH and reserves for her the right to grant me orgasms,she outsources the teasing,edging,milking,pegging,spanking,tormenting,etc. to a Masseuse and a ProDomme who also have the key to my cage .
    Just another example of additional people involved, in my case to perform specific tasks and not emotionally related.
     
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    Would be even more interesting if it required your wife’s key and a third party key to unlock!
     
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    My god, I lead a vanilla life.
     
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    Like minute men in a nuclear silo! lol Gotta have safeguards, after all.
     
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    Maybe only in comparison to some on this site. I am not sure anyone here is vanilla. French vanilla at least.
     
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    My thought exactly -- like the whole code-authentification-and-two-key process you see in submarine movies!
     
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    Great. Now Gene Hackman is involved.

    Someone's going to the brig.
     
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    You can always get a safe that requires two keys (even a toy would be tamper-evident).

    There are devices with two padlocks, but it's more of a design thing than - ironically - the two-man rule.
     
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    You could also do it so that you keyholder keeps her key in a key box that only allows access on certain days, dates, hours or combination. So she may only get access at 6am to 7am on Saturday morning so she has to be motivated enough to wake up early on Saturday.
     
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    We are working on a co-domme situation. My wife has a friend that is very much into femdom and my wife has started to take an interest. So starting out it will be a three party event. Not sure if we will evolve into one on one time or not.
     
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